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Is it addiction?

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Mum2girls12 · 17/04/2018 12:24

Need some advice please.

I'm a rather fearful person when it comes to relationships so this will explain why I'm posting here.

Myself and my children's dad got back together around 8 months ago. He was a heavy cocaine user & this developed in to a full on habit. Every weekend, most evenings & even began using at home. It destroyed our relationship as he became abusive during the come downs.
After being split for 2.5 years I saw real positive change, he had been for counselling & attending support groups (mainly on the abuse side of things).

Since being back together things have been taken very slow on my part. He has used around 2 or 3 times. It's usually social things, at a party or when he meets up with a certain friend.
The morning after it's like nothing's happened, he doesn't feel sorry for himself, he seems to have developed self control rather than it turning in to 4-5 day binges.

I guess it's like falling off the wagon and getting back on - one day at a time. He speaks openly and says it's on his mind al the time, I feel guilt as I shamed him when he used. I'd say horrible things to him. Now I try my hardest to not shame him and understand.

I don't battle with addiction so I find it hard. Reaching out for a little support that things will be ok?

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gearandloathing · 28/04/2018 15:13

Its hard to say with coke. It's a very slippery slope and if someone's already been addicted to it it would be very easy to fall back into addiction. Having said that I'm sure there are a few people out there who can dabble after coming through an addiction. I'm just not sure there are that many of them.

If your ex is able to use occasionally and stop when he wants to, that's great but he's only ever a few grams away from falling back into it all IMO.

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