You can't control it.. you can't control it.. I know the mantra.
I've known this woman since she was 17 and I was 15. We both had serious mental health conditions. We are now 29 (her) and 27 (me).
She posted today "is anyone up? I'm crying" and it turned out she got smashed (again) and woke up in bed with a broken knee. I was initially sympathetic and then her friends were chiming in with "great night" and I kicked off at them for enabling her and being drunks themselves.
Then they all lined up to tell me I was a bad friend for criticising her drinking. She has a diagnosis of borderline personality disorder and I've had to call the police twice in the past year because she's told me she's about to kill other people or herself (and meant it). They had to kick her front door in once.
Can I back off, am I in the wrong if I abandon her? She doesn't want my help, she just wants to get drunk and stoned.
I feel so fucking confused and upset. I don't want to find out she's dead one day and there's nothing I can do.