My husband's cocain addiction is becoming a problem...

[JamieWilliam]

Recently my husband and I got remarried and everything was going great until he developed an addiction to cocaine...

Im getting a bit fed up. At first, it was wine. All he ever drank was wine. He had an excessive amount of it in his house and I often found myself telling him "Alex, think of our children! Perhaps drinking yourself into a coma isn't the best thing to do!" (We have two very lovely twin boys, they deserve better than this!)

Now I find myself saying "Alex, think of our children, and stop snorting coke!" He doesn't do it at home or around our children, which makes the situation a BIT better, but it doesn't change the fact that he's addicted...
No matter what I suggest, he refuses to get help or listen to what I have to say

I think this calls for a second divorce

I'd get this taken down unless you've named changed otherwise your username and what you've written is very identifying.

But yeah, he doesn't sound great OP. You could do better.

TrollTheRespawnJeremy I've not used our REAL names, for obvious reasons. This is the internet, after all. Using a real name could be potentially dangerous...

Good call OP. I've seen it too many times on here that folk come on and name everyone they've ever met so was just giving a heads up.

You sound like you've got your shit pretty together. You know this is shit. He's selfish.

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sorry

It sounds like he has an addictive personality, but every addiction has its own problems and cocaine seems to make its addicts paranoid and aggressive. So, apart from the money going up his nose, I don't think it is a good idea to stand by this man.

What's at the root of this? Does he know it's a problem?

Why don't you become addicted together maybe share with kids? Why not it's all just a game #thuglyfe

I do coke about once eveey three months with a specific group of friends. We are all in our early 40s, happily married, lovely kids. These nights are a moment of extreme escapism where we stay out all night, do lots of coke, have a ball, and talk about our real stuff, not what we present day to day, it is a fabulous night (maybe not for many, but for me I feel free and light).

What I would never do is use coke in any group where are not interested in participating. Coke users are hideously boring to non coke users - so very unfair, My husband does not use coke and he has no interest in coke,....but has no problem if I want to do it casually in my own time. But he won't join and he won't response to my rambling loving messages and photos of my bits that I text him from the Ladies loo thinking I am so sexy ( note I am 41 years old, grow up,lady). But you know what - I love these nights,,,,I have a 3,year old and a 4 month old baby and I have done all the right things until tonight. Tonight I let rip. I loved it. It will be worth how awful I will feel in 5 hours. If coke can be kept to an occasional blow out, is it so awful for one partner to indulge in an agreed way. I guess problems start when this happens regularly ....which to me would mean at least once every two weeks a BIG COKE night must happen. That is surely detrimental to a relationship.

Aside: anyone know a smooth way to come down and get to sleep after a heavy coke night? I can never do this and already taken 3 small zolpidem. Still too perky. Dull.

Hi LH.how about posting tomorrow when youre not feeling so perky? Seeya.