Would you buy a size larger?

[HeadFairy]

Depressingly, I don't fit in any of my pre pregnancy clothes... none. I'm still in maternity clothes 8 weeks after dd was born! Part of me doesn't want to buy a load of new clothes a size larger as that would be giving in, esp as my pre pregnancy clothes were a size 16, but part of me is so fed up of wearing mat clothes and more than a little embarrassed to be in them 8 weeks after dd was born!

Currently I'm torturing myself every morning attempting to squeeze in to too small jeans in order to encourage myself to lose some weight. Would you give in and get some size 18 jeans and tops or keep on plugging on the diet using the frustration of still being in mat clothes as my diet inspiration?

Go to New Look and buy some cheap jeans and a couple of tops to get you through the next couple of months.

I'd probably get one pair of jeans and a couple of tops, so not give in totally, but at least give myself something to wear when maternity clothes are really NOT the option!

Personally I wouldn't.

I am happiest at a 12 and ok with being a 14 but in the past when the 14's have gotten snug I refused to go up the size and concentrated on losing the extra instead.

Daft I know seeing as sizing varies so much and is pretty unreliable but in my head going up a size would have been like accepting getting bigger iyswim.

By the way your pic of your dc meeting for the first time is gorgeous and making me broody!

Buy a couple of nice bits and some accessories and shoes

I don't think that schlepping round feeling crap wearing maternity clothes is very helpful to dieting AT ALL. At least if you feel well turned out in clothes that fit, you are more likely to keep a more positive frame of mind.

Yes, buy the bigger clothes. I ended up not losing my baby weight for 14 months so I wouldn't have had a stitch to wear. And do try to lay off yourself - you've just had a baby, an extra size is nothing to feel bad about

thanks everyone, I guess I'll have to break my taboo and buy an 18. I toyed with the idea of using my bump band on some of my jeans, that could be a compromise.

Thanks Bunny

Shoes depress me even further cos I've got size 9 feet so I can't even buy some lovely new shoes to cheer me up. What's a fat girl to do? Buy a new hat? ;)

A new bag HeadFairy or sunglasses or a scarf

And you know 8 weeks is still very early days don't you

buy a fab new bag.

I only just got into my pre-preg clothes 8 weeks after dc3 and that was only by virtue of it being cold and being able to disguise the squeezy waistline under a long cardi.

dc3 is now 5 months and I'm still 5-7lb heavier than I was pre-preg. It takes time. Do as tracey says and go to New Look or similar and buy a few bits to get you through.

a friend put it into perspective for me when she said "you have the rest of your life to be sinny, but these early days with your LO are fleeting" I struggle with that every day as I grimace at my reflection and long to go on 10k runs to whittle myself down, but I know deep down she was right.

BTW, my feet are 8-9 too. Tricky, isn't it??

skinny not sinny, LOL

Agree with others - buy yourself some really lovely new accessory(ies) like a bag, sunglasses, shoes and some very plain but non-maternity clothes to get you through the next few weeks. And get someone to look after your baby and go to the hairdresser!

There is nothing more depressing than wearing maternity clothes after the birth, IMO. I wore a few "fatter days" clothes from the past after giving birth but never reverted to maternity clothes.

"you have the rest of your life to be skinny, but these early days with your LO are fleeting"

these are very wise words!!! please buy yourself a couple of nice things in new look etc as others have suggested

and be nice to yourself - your body has just performed a miracle

remember - 9 montsh on, 9 montsh off ( more if you are bf)

god I must be hormonal but seeing the words "be nice to yourself - your body has just performed a miracle" have made me cry.

And please don't do what I did and end up in DH's jeans! I only did it once, luckily, because I saw my reflection and KNEW never to do it again. Another voice to those who say buy a couple of basics in a larger size and some great accessories (bags and sunglasses are my weakness). Don't wallow, feeling unattractive because it will bring you down. You must do something, however small, to treat yourself - however corny that may sound. And most of all, enjoy your baby!

Theres some wise words here. Your body has indeed performed a miracle and 8 weeks is nothing. Its a lot to exoect to be back into your usual clothes just 8 weeks after birth.

I bought a couple of cheap things (actually some jeans from local tat shop )a size (or two ) bigger than usual to bridge the gap between maternity clothes and your normal stuff.

It will make you feel better - oh and I cut the size labels out of my purchases

By the way your children are gorgeous - and yep makes me very broody for dc3.

Thanks everyone.... Bunny I half agree with you. So far trying on my pre-preg clothes every morning is enough to make me think twice about having a biscuit when I have a cup of tea.

Tracybath, I know 8 weeks is really early but I can't remember being in mat clothes at 8 weeks last time, I think I went up a size, but that was from a 14 to a 16, the jump to an 18 scares me.

Letthemeatcake - your nn is a nightmare, that's how I got in this position in the first place I did give myself the whole of January to eat whatever I wanted, I had a rubbish Christmas and New Year, I had rotten heartburn and dd was born on New Years Eve so I missed out on all the nice foodie treats this year, but now I've really got to lose the weight. My BMI is pushing the upper end of the 20s and it's just not healthy.

KristinaM - I am bfing and I was gutted last time that the weight didn't fall off, everyone promised me it would, they lied

Grumpy - I will never wear dh's jeans, they're always far too stinky

PinkKumquat - thanks. I think they're lovely too

The good news is that after moaning on the phone to my mum today she's promised to take dd on a day when ds is at the childminder to let me get my hair done... I have seriously let the colour lapse and I dont' suit the mousey look. I found a photo of myself taken 10 years ago, and apart from looking ten years younger, I was much slimmer and looked fab with lovely hair. That's going to be my inspiration. Ok so I might not be able to totally eliminate the bags under my eyes but the hair and weight I can manage!

headfairy - IME and from reading mumsnet, only half of women find that the weight falls off them while bf. the other half find it hard to lose anything and impossible to lose that last 1/2 stone until they stop ( ask LTEC)

i am in the second group so I sympathise.....

well done on the hair thing

I think I'm in the same group as you KristinaM

I'm going to go to new look/peacocks etc and get next size up stuff to tide me over. Better to feel better about yourself.

8 weeks is sooooooo early to be worrying about weight!

Love the pics of your gorgeous kids too [smiel]

Aw shucks Mummytumble, thanks

Go and get whatever makes you feel better and don't forget nobody can see the label.

The first months after the birth as so tiring that whatever works to make you feel better about yourself is worth it. You will have time to use your old clothes in a few months time.

8 weeks after having a baby is far too soon to be worrying about your weight. Go and buy some things you feel good in