Please help I'm depressed and fear I may be turning into waynetta :(

[lostinblack]

Hi everyone

first post here after doing some googling for the past 30 minutes or so trying to find some "style"

basically I was the typical tomboy girl in my childhood - adidas trousers, jeans and t-shirts, trainers...

I had my DD at 18 and tbh my wardrobe hasn't changed (aside from the adidas are for tv watching only and perhaps creeping out with the bins

Day to day I wear make up, foundation etc and have very pale skin tone, dark hair and hazel green eyes

I'm hour-glass bordering on pear shaped and 5'7" tall.

I wear small stud earrings and although I do make an effort when I go out (not often) I always feel mumsy.

I don't really feel comfortable in flouncy or feminine clothes and always feel a bit "done up" if you know what I mean.

Sorry this is a bit rambling - hopefully someone will have an idea for daywear which is practical but doesn't paint me as immature or 25 going on 55

thanks in advance.

Skinny jeans or jeggings.

Jumper dresses.

Boyfriend cardies/v neck jumpers / long sleeve t shirts for layering.

Lots of scarves.

Opaque tights.

Tunics.

Boots.

Boyfriend style jeans and converse type trainers for going into spring.

Hope this helps!

Go through your wardrobe and throw away all your unisex clothing. Unisex clothing looks hideous on fully grown women. It isn't designed for us, it's designed for lazy teenaged girls.

You need some flat leather boots, some leggings and some long tunic-type tops with some long sloppy joe cardigans.

BAsically, go to Dorothy Perkins.

God, yes, get rid of all tracky bottoms, big square t-shirts and hoodies.

Really, they will just drag you down in mind and body.

There should be a law.

get rid of the sports wear and get yourself some yoga style bottoms for lounging around the house in, or some nice pjs.

get rid of the sports trainers and get some converse or similar type plimsoles and some flat leather boots.

Get yourself some leggings, boyfriend jeans and straight legged jeans, wear with tunics, boyfriend cardigans, long jumpers.

I tend to wear only tees if they are for layering....on their own they make a boring outfit.

Have discovered scarves recently and they really change an outfit, have had lots of comments.

Invest in decent coat/jackets and handbag.

Spend more time on hair, skin and makeup.

How old are you?

If you're young-ish, you could do what the rest of the world does and google Alexa Chung (uber-purveyor of the girlish tomboy look). Warning, wear the skirts/dresses a little longer or with leggings/jeggings/tight jeans.

Google, get an idea of the look you're going for and then go shopping in Topshop.

Thanks for the tips, I'm in the process of getting rid of everything unisex shapeless etc - major declutter exercise I have basically countless copies of the same shapeless items bought over the years without really needing them - rubbish isn't it.

So to answer a few questions that might help with your advice

I'm 25 with a 7 yr old daughter, so don't want to look like someone playing dress ups as an older mum or to be mistaken for her big sister.

Alex Chung scares the pants off me - I'm a size 14 and my problem area is my upper arms and thighs which are NEVER displayed under any circumstances

when you guys say converse do you mean like the ones Dr Who wears? (david tennant) aren't these a bit unisex with a leaning towards male fashion?

Thanks in advance I really don't "get" fashion but I am ready to change and really appreciating your advice already

thanks!

Converse are unisex, but somehow manage to be cool and sexy and come in a big variety of colours.

You sound a very similar shape to me (but ten years younger .

Skinny jeans fine with long tunic tops/short dresses over. Boots good for balancing heavy thighs. Boyfriend jeans flattering when the weather gets better.

Stop worrying about how you come across - your daughter will love having a trendy mum!

You are 25!!!!!

And 14 is not large. There is no way in the world any bit of you is a "problem area".

Seriously - you need to start loving your body and your youth.

You are going to look gorgeous in anything, so you must wear what you choose with a sense of pride, adventure and happiness. Really.

P.S. Low-level converse are basically just pumps in bright colours. They're very cheap and versatile. I wear mine with dresses, trousers, skirts and jeans.

And I think you are so young and glowy, you really should go into Topshop and see if they have any dresses. Dorothy Perkins looked to have some interesting ones at the moment too.

You're so young, you have the age to dress up and have a little irony and fun. It may take you a while to really hit your "look", and there may be days when you wake up and think "Please tell me I didn't wear that yesterday." but that is what your twenties are for. Even if you're a mother.

Christ, I was stomping about in a Topshop tea dress and biker boots last week. Got some funny looks, but I don't give a hoot, and I'm 35!

Fashion should be about having fun and experimenting!

agree that Dorothy Perkins is quite good these days.

I love top shop but it's cut too skinny now I've had kids (and I'm only a 10-12). As dotty p's is the same company I think they just tweak the designs for a slightly older market, they have jeggings and kate moss style tea dresses etc.

Primark for t-shirts / long sleeve tops for layering. And even M&S has skinny jeans now.

Easy make up is good, something like a decent brightening moisturiser / foundation or very light self tan if you are pale.

I've steered away from skinny jeans as I have difficulty enough getting the normal kind to fit, I'm size 14 and pear-shaped but with quite a small waist compared to my hips/thighs, can anyone tell me if there's any "give" in the jeggings or are they as unforgiving as I expect skinny jeans are?

I usually wear bootfit jeans and find straight cut an absolute nightmare to look at when they're on..(hope someone understands this)

an ex workmate once told me anyone could wear skinny jeans but i'm not convinced

IMO skinny jeans are not great on hourglass types, I think bootcut are prob better for you though less trendy.
Or you could get thick leggings/jeggings and tuck them into boots.

These boots are great as they are a nice combo of slightly boyish and sexy
www.amazon.co.uk/Fly-London-Womens-green-P210318055/dp/B002NGNUCY/ref=sr_1_5?ie=UTF8&s=apparel&qid=1 265320253&sr=1-5

are jeggings as recommended above a better idea?

or are they as unforgiving?

Jeggings are very unforgiving IMHO, but I think the difference is you wear them like leggings/tights ie with a long tunic and not leaving much leg on show, whereas with skinny jeans they simply replace your ordinary jeans and you dont feel the need to cover up so much and yet they are probably equally unflattering...

Not sure if that makes much sense?!