How long did it take you to get your fashion-mojo back after having kids?

[AngelinaJolly]

I've recently rediscovered mine but it took about 14 months to find.

Anyone else?

I lost it for a bit while ttc number two.
I feel much better now and feel more like me during this pregnancy.

Would like to keep exercising (am swimming atm) after the birth, need to think how.

perhaps the difference is that i was a fat kid mm, so i had to deal with it - and made my peace with it, to an extent - long ago.

I'd never usually admit it but "know" a few of the other posters which has made me feel I can. Even knowing what the world does to us as women doesn't always help does it.

I am not buying any new clothes until I have lost a stone. I have a bursting wardrobe as it is. I was working at home today and pulled out a few bits and pieces.

God I love those things I can no longer wear. I am 40 next year and dh has promised me a lovely trip.

On the plus side someone the other day thought I was in my early 30's.

You seem to all be confusing losing your mojo with putting on a bit of weight and getting older.

Well you are all hopelessly wrong and should try harder to understand what it is that makes someone interesting, attractive, sexy, etc.

you seem to be hopelessly misreading the thread swedes or picking unnecessary fights...

DD1 - mojo back when reached approx 9 stone.

DD2 - mojo back when reached approx 9 stone

DD3 - mojo back when reached approx 9 stone

See a pattern here?

good point, albeit harshly made!!

I'm trying to get my reading mojo back at the mo ... used to be an avid reader, really miss it. But have accepted that I don't have the time/ attention span for novels right now ... so am easing back into it with short stories. Currently reading Gabriel Garcia Marquez "Strange Pilgrims"

Ah but I am nearly 40 and look 30. Albeit a chubster.

Mustnoteatcake - have you read the Gabriel Garcia book The shipwrecked sailor? My favourite book ever.

I genuinely don't get it. What's wrong with feeling better about yourself when you're a healthy weight, rather than overweight?

My self-esteem is partly tied up in the way I look - and I think this is true for pretty much everyone, whether they admit it or not.

But it's also tied up in how I'm living my life, if I'm doing a good job, if my family are happy etc. If any one area of my life is going badly, it affects the way I feel.

But this was a thread about fashion so surely is all to do with the way we present ourselves?

I don't mind being older, I have more confidence to do my own thing, rather than conforming to fashion, whether or not it suits me.

If, like me, you feel crap when your BMI is over 25 then you can post here. Your clothes don't fit, you don't like the reflection in the mirror, you reckon you look shite.

But we can move on. I am certainly trying to.

fanny - no I haven't!! (have never been 9stone either )

will give it a go - thanks for the recommendation.

Re; the weight thing ... I've got no issue with gaining weight during pregnancy for the sake of a healthy baby/ healthy pregnancy and have gained a standard 2stone with each baby. I don't love seeing the numbers on the scales go up but I know it's for the greater good.

BUT, I don't see how keeping that weight on for any longer than necess after the baby is born benefits me, the baby or my other dcs? So why not get into gear and shift it (sensibly)?

Why is that considered shallow? am I supposed to be so beatific with the joy of motherhood that I'm no longer me with all of my foibles and vanities???

Why are mothers made to feel so guilty about also being women?? surely the two go hand in hand???

My whole life revolves around me being 9 stone, my fighting weight as I call it and when I am my right weight, my clothes feel better etc. Having children puts a terrible toll on your self-esteem (looks wis) and your virgin(!) body takes a battering. So I may not look perfect when in the doggy position (saggy belly and tits) but if I am the weight I feel best at, at least my clothes and underwear look better.

I don't think I can be hopelessly wrong about what makes me more attractive or more confident.

I simply feel more attractive and confident right now than I did a year ago. Which may or may not be related to weight - obviously I weigh more I am 8 months pg.

Whether others realise it, I do not care (but I think they do see it too, people respond well to people who are feeling better about themselves).

fannybanjo - well that's marvellous. It's nice to know that you are upbeat whilst in the doggy position.

Swedes, I have just re-read that post of mine and pissed myself - not at my articulate posting but where the fuck did I get that from!? Oh dear, I really must take some paracetamol for this virus...

fannybanjo

also Swedes, the point I was making is that when I am fatter, my tits and belly seem to be better whilst on all fours but when I am skinnier, well they are just shrunken balloons. I was trying to make people feel that they didn't need to think that being skinny made you feel more confident when naked but I failed miserably.

fanny on all fours