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Gothy type style

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noddyholder · 01/04/2009 22:26

Do you think this suits anyone over 20 or ultra skinny minny?I bought a couple of ebay pots for my garden from a local artist workshop and they delivered it today and may have been mother and daughter but they were both goths with coloured plaity hair piercings combats and big spice girl buckley trainers.the little skinny teenager looked nice in a way but the older one was really pretty but the whole look didn't work on an older heavier woman and she just looked a bit sad.I have always thought age is irrelevant but this is one look that is only young surely? What looks do you think are just a no once over 30 or a size flippin 14!

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PadDad · 01/04/2009 23:22

Fat goths look good to me. Of all ages.

solidgoldshaggingbunnies · 01/04/2009 23:27

Oh FFS how boring is your life? People are entitled to wear whatever they want and enjoy it.

Peabody · 01/04/2009 23:30

I don't think being a goth is a look you choose because it suits you. You choose it because it expresses who you are.

sleepsforwimps · 01/04/2009 23:46

I personally think she sounds fab and admire her self expression.

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noddyholder · 02/04/2009 14:44

Oh dear i should have expected this really.i have always been wear what you like no matter what age but she did look a bit sad and uncomfortable thats all.She was lovely but her daughter was so confident with her look /Solid gold my life is not boring sod off

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ReallyReally · 02/04/2009 14:47

the thing is, most looks are going to look better on younger people

no getting away from it

surely the answer tho is not to make everyone over 35 wear Per Una

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noddyholder · 02/04/2009 14:52

gosh i couldn't agree more!It was just obvious that she felt quite uncomfortable and kept pulling her top down etc.She was lovely but looked sad somehow.I only posted as it is the 1st time ever I have thought 'too old'.

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ReallyReally · 02/04/2009 15:47

well if she was pulling her top down then the problem isn't with being a goth, it's with wearing a top that's too damn small

KayHarkerIsPlayingWithMitchell · 02/04/2009 15:53

I'm over 30 and work the goth thing. I just hope I don't look my age...

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noddyholder · 02/04/2009 15:56

Maybe its not age just if you can look good in it.She was about 50 and was lovely but it didn't look good on her

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ReallyReally · 02/04/2009 15:57

I think dressing like your daughter isn't a good look

what the hell is the poor girl supposed to rebel against?

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noddyholder · 02/04/2009 15:58

The daughter was so pretty like an elf with pink hair which looked sweet on her

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Flamesparrow · 02/04/2009 16:09

If you have the confidence you can shine in whatever you wear imo

MrsMattie · 02/04/2009 16:12

LOL!@Really - I would rather be condemned to a life of OTT black eye make up and Camden Market platform shoes than ever wear a Per Una cardi. Tis true!

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noddyholder · 02/04/2009 16:13

Per una is wrong though no matter what age.

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shivermekinders · 02/04/2009 16:17

I'm a fat goth, although i have tamed it down now that i am getting on a bit and no, it probably isnt a good look but i dont give a rats arse.

PadDad · 02/04/2009 16:42

Then I probably fancy you, shivermekinders.

Unless you're a bloke? In that case the odds aren't quite as good (tho never say never)!

thesockmonsterofdoom · 02/04/2009 16:45

I am a fat and old goth, although a bit too tame for my own liking these days.

shivermekinders · 02/04/2009 16:51

not a bloke,although if you catch me between facial waxings its a bit hard to tell.

mileniwmffalcon · 02/04/2009 18:51

hmm i found myself thinking "too old" for the first time the other day. in a similar alternative vein, 50s style, bright, floral, full-skirted dress, peep toe sandals, full makeup, fringey hairdo, late 40s. i think it was because it's such a "girlish" look, i think at some point you need to accept that it no longer looks cute, it looks outlandish (although obviously it's everyone's own choice if they want to keep that style, but it's worth being aware of the effect it conveys). there are so many variations of a 50s look that would have worked but this one really jarred.

i think it can be difficult when your style doesn't evolve as you age. i would guess for your mum/daughter pair the mum has always dressed like this and is suddenly being usurped by her daughter. tricky i reckon, especially when fashion cycles move faster and faster and you find yourself wearing it all for the 2nd or even 3rd time around.

KayHarkerIsPlayingWithMitchell · 02/04/2009 19:23

Yeah, but goth sort of works for any age when it's done well, because it's kind of supposed to looks a bit jaded. When I'm an old lady, I shall be like Joan Crawford in Whatever Happened to Baby Jane.

Right now, I'm still the silver-nailed, black-eyelinered, chained-angel-top wearing ingenue.

I am, dammit, I am.

mileniwmffalcon · 02/04/2009 19:31

but when your teenage kids start dressing like you (and more to the point as in op, making you look like you're dressing like them) surely you need to branch out a little? although i know when you're part of an anti-fashion tribe it's tied up pretty deeply with your self identity. i was never a goth, more of a crusty, but i haven't died my hair pink for ooh at least 3 years now, maybe i've moved on?

serenity · 02/04/2009 19:32

I feel more comfortable as an overweight aging pseudogoth than I ever did pretending to be a 'real mum' in blue jeans and M&S tops. Each to their own and all that.
I agree with ReallyReally, it was probably just a pita top rather than the whole style thing.

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