Is ''mumsy'' a state of mind?

[poshsinglemum]

Since becoming I no longer feel sexy in the same way as I used to. I still make an effort with my clothes although they are slightly more practical and stained covered, I highlight my hair and wash but there are some changes. I never wear mini skirts or really short shorts, heels or jewelry(as dd will grab it) I am not looking for sex, and have no social life atm so I don't glam up as much. I went shopping the other day and saw a lovely floral print mini skirt satc style but thought - there's no point buying it as I won't have an occasion to wear it. Lets face it - some things look daft with a buggy. Does it get bettre as dc's get older. Does anyone feel sexy in the same way as they did before dc. I don't- I feel mumsy rather than frumpy. Mumsy being a kind of cosy, wholesome, more sensible non- vampish feeling and image.

When I was single without a dd I was definately getting some- just from lots of different places! Now I have dd I have gon eto the opposite extreme and yes become a bit of a born again virgin. Being a slapper with a little one just dosn't seem right tbh!

I sposr the point I'm trying to make is that even when I dress sexy I still don't feel sexy. It wasn't an open invitation to attack my single status.

I sposr the point I'm trying to make is that even when I dress sexy I still don't feel sexy. It wasn't an open invitation to attack my single status.

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I know what you mean, it's difficult to adjust. I've found that if I make the effort to do something special - go out with friends for a drink or two, go for a nice meal with dh - then the old feeling comes back and I can feel sexy again. And if you have a night out planned you can get yourself a new skirt or whatever for it - just going shopping and trying stuff on works for me.

Not gonna lie - I don't feel as sexy as I did, because pre-kids I was 25 and a size 10 with not a care in the world, and post kids I am 32 and a size 14, with a million and one things to do/worry about . Not rocket science, really!

I just can't get away with wearing some of the gorgeous little things I used to wear, either. And I'll be honest - I don't turn heads in the same way as I did 10 yrs ago but...I have found my own style recently and I do feel quite sexy when I get dolled up and go out. It's just a simmering, womanly sexy, not a 'kapow! look at the norks on that!' type sexy

Sorry profiterole. Was being touchy due to lack of action! I am conflicted between between being a sexual being and a breastfeeding mum. Not that the two are mutually exclusive.

Reckon it's really difficult to feel sexy when you're bf. I'm currently bf DD2 and feel anything but sexy despite DH telling me opposite (bless him). Partly because bf a baby feels anything but sexy IMO and also because I normally wear dresses and can't while bf (not a good look whipping up your dress to feed) so in my never changing outfit of uggs, jeans and a top I feel like a cliché frumpy mum!

However it does get better as kids get bigger, remember feeling good at DD1's 1st bday for first time in ages so hoping for same this time. I'm lucky to have DD1 who loves playing 'dress up mummy' and will happily sit on my bed helping me choose clothes and jewellery. It's much better when they're past the stage of grabbing your earrings and getting weetabix in your hair.

BTW nothing wrong with wearing a short skirt while pushing a buggy if you feel good in it.

True- I love bf but it's not exactly sexy. I hated it first as there was milk all over my clothes. Yuck! My friend was saying that one hormone that is produced when breastfeeding actually quenches those sexy feelings in order that the mother focusses on bonding with baby rather than trying to mate again. Not sure how true that is.

Think it's completely true! I think that you produce more oestrogen (sp) which dampens desire, makes sense I guess that nature doesn't want you to go trying to make another baby too soon.

I pay a lot of attention to my clothes. I could never leave the house in jeans and a fleece.