You can wear black to a wedding, right?

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Am going to my cousin's wedding at the end of March - in a church then barn so it's not going to be warm. I've got several really nice black dresses - was thinking about that with a bright pink wrap and shoes. I know in theory black at a wedding is a no-no, but I know the bride won't care - she's not that kind of person. Just want some reassurance - otherwise I'm going to have to go on a dress hunt...

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agree with Ronaldinhio. Black dress with bright colour accessories looks lovely in my very unprofessional and, if I am honest, fairly worthless opinion

I think black is a much better bet than a white dress. As long as you don't wear a widow veil i'm sure you will be fine

I asked this very question last year on MN

Was dithering

But in the end went for it

Black dress (but with detailed, small print embroidered white pattern) and black bolero, black shoes and bag and black hair fascinator

Loads of people in black dresses... was a church wedding as well

Go for it!

If you wear bright things with it I think you can - I've worn a black linen column dress to two weddings - once with a turquise wrap and jewellery, once with orangey red. Looked fine in the photos. Oops forgot, for one of the weddings guests were asked to wear red, black and gold. Still think it would be fine.

I think as long as the bride isn't going to be offended and you have colourful accessories you'll be fine

I did once - so did the bride!

As long as you're not the groom's mother who strongly disapproves of the wedding.

depends entirely on your culture. iwold quite happily wear black to a wedding, and have done so many times. but i remember my french flatmate was in serious shock when she found out i was planning to wear a black outfit to my friends wedding.

what i find tasteless is women wearing outfits very similar to the brides dress, whatever the culture. or, god forbid, their own wedding dresses. seen that happen plenty of times, in asian weddings . completely tassteless in my opinion

yes

stop dithering

I have the impression that it is not only accepted but expected at Asian weddings to wear your own wedding sari. IIRC it is a) respectful to the couple as it is the nicest thing you own and b) lucky for the bride to have lots of happily-married older women there in their own wedding outfits.

I hope so. Am going to a wedding next weekend in a black dress. With a gold cardigan. But black dress all the same. Black shoes and jacket too...

mrsb, a sari is okie, as yo ucan tone it down a bit. but what about when it is a full skirted lehnga? with the massive dupatta thrown in? lovely for sitting there on the stage in, but not so good for walking around as a guest. let me see if i can find a link.

mys ister forbade me from wearing mine at her wedding. even though i didnt intend to .

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oops, dont mean to hijack thread.

My ex SIL wore a black dress and black veil on her wedding day.

um yes, point taken!

just asked this question 2 weeks ago.

consensus it was fine as long as accessories were bright, or the dress had colour in it as well.

at the wedding 80% of the girls were in predominantly black / very dark colours with splashes of colour.

so i think you'll be fine.

Yes its fine, my mum wore black and cream to my wedding and I think a few other people did too, a few people in grey dresses as well.

I think black used to be a nono but I wore mainly black dress to the last 4 weedings I've been to
Think pink accessories are good idea

My Mil wore black to my wedding, didn't offend me I just joked that she was in mourning for her son

nope, come on be a bit cheery on a cheery day