Black dress at a wedding - is it a big no no?

[LadyThompson]

Wedding is at 4pm, not in church. The invite says Black Tie. I had a baby a month ago and not much fits me

i though black was ok now, esp if invite is black tie and lots of formal winter dresses are black

Black is fine imho... I got married last month and I reckon about 80% of the guests had black based outfits

I wore a backless black dress with red pashmina wrap to a wedding last weekend. A lot of other women were in black.

Ds1's gf wore a black dress to mine last year and it was fine IMO

i wore a black dress to a wedding in november and looked fine, had a pink sash and fascinator though

Fascinator. Mmm, that's a thought. It's quite a poshie. But the dress is to my ankles, so...

I mean the wedding is a poshie.

does that make a difference?

Isn't it more of a faux pas to wear white nowadays?

It's all in how your accessorize it, imo. As long as your don't look funereal you should be ok!

No its fine i wore a black dress to wedding in nov. Not ideal for summer wedding but nows fine i think.

Someone wore a black dress to my wedding and looked gorgeous.
I cant see why not!

no problem- i wore a black dress toa wedding in may and i wasnt the only one

If you're the mother of the groom then I'd say no, no, no.

But if it's a winter wedding and you're a friend of the brides, and the black outfit is accessorised well, then I'd say yes.

But i know nothing about the finer etiquette tbh. Just my gut feeling.

I wore a black chiffon dress to my cousin´s wedding which was in October. If you´re not an ex-gf or relative then it´s quite ok in my book.

Team it with a bright scarf if you feel it´s a bit dark.

hi ladyt

According to DeBrett's Guide to Modern Etiquette, Black Tie declares that traditional tuxedos and evening gowns are required.

It does not pronounce either way on the colour black at a wedding.

So IMO a full length black evening guise would be fine esp if, as others have said, you use bright accessories.

I think it's OK so long as you don't shout "It should have been me!" during the ceremony.

I wouldn't wear a black dress to a wedding, even if it is in the evening. Maybe a dress with some black, but not on its own.

I wore a flowery black dress to a friend´s weddding as well one July. I´ve heard of the bride wearing black as well!

I think it's completely fine, but it might be worth it trying to find out how the bride feels about it, as some cultures differ. I had this conversation with a very good friend the other day, and she was horrified that someone would wear black - not the done thing in her home country.

Agree Liffey lol

V wrong for mother of groom to wear black! I prob wouldn't in normal circs, don't know why - not solid black. But in your position yes go for it!

My mum had a black and cream dress for our wedding! I think there was a couple of other people in black too.

If she doesn't have a problem with black, I think it is a lovely choice and you'll look great!

Thanks ladies. And thanks, Arti, for looking in Debrett's!

It's a big wedding and I have never met the bride so can't really ask her. I am hoping I will blend in somehow.... I think coloured accessories are the way to go...not sure what colour though - it's a myth that everything goes with black. I need to get a wrap at least - to cover my bingo wings The thought of taking my month old DD round the shops tomorrow to buy bits and pieces fills me with ennui, but there you go...

I want this for a wedding I am going to or this drool. Have just bought a purple one in the sale though, no where near as nice