DD1, 3, wants some pink wellies, I really hate pink and want to get her lovely yellow ones. Am I being a cow?

[MinkyBorage]

These are the wellies

get her the pink ones. Or I will find out where you live and send her these

How can you take such a big stance over a colour?

Get her pink, they're her feet. Do you want her to be a clone of you or her own person . I still remember things I couldn't have when I was small and it hurts (Mr Frosty). I have a list of things I hold against my mother (getting my hair cut short, giving away my Easter Egg, not letting me stay up to watch the 1984 World Ice Dance Championships). Do you want her to start a list of her own so young? Hmm?

omg harpomarx they are terrible.
I'm not taking a big stance, if I thought she would be really upset by yellow wellies, then I wouldn't even consider it, but she is only 3, and quite easy going (sometimes) and I think she will be very excited to have pink wellies, but if I get her the yellow ones, she will more than likely forget about the existence of pink ones. I am not an idiot, I know it isn't THAT important, i.e. not worth rows or upset, but I think I can get away without that. Next wellies, maybe not, but this time, she's expressed a preference and I know she won't mind either way really.
Bit of fun really, just wondered what everyone thought. I don't think I can bring myself to get the pink ones, I'm really wrestling with it, but they are quite yuck

Yes, I remember too! Such tiny things but they make children disproportionately happy, and more importantly, I think, they make them feel valuable, as if their tastes and opinions matter and are important. That's really vital for self-confidence. In my case my parents are total music snobs. Like any other pre-teen I started to be interested in pop music, but they were so critical that I remember buying a record in secret and then hiding it, and never playing it and I can still remember the combination of shame and resentment. She will grow out of the pink phase completely independently. I believe it is part of development to want to identify with other girls, and define yourself as a girl in quite a simple way. My dd loves pink and she's hard my girl!

If you have asked her which ones she would like you have to go with that. You can't give her the choice and then take it away.

If you haven't, will she know any different? They'll just be shiny yellow wellies and she'll probably accept them without a thought.

no haven't actually asked her about these particular wellies, but she was telling me the other day that she wanted pink wellies, and she also told me that she wanted a cow for Christmas and that her little sisters favourite meal was salad.

minky - my dd would think she had died and gone to heaven if I got her those. If they could light up and had higher heels she would probably sell me to get them.

you just wait...

buy the yellow! buy the yellow!

Go to Lidl and buy her lovely proper rubber ones (ie like Aigle but much cheaper) in a nice colour with a pattern eg blue with flowers so neither of you is satisfied... or get the pink, explaining why you would prefer different choise but that you respect he... she'll be very happy! The only bit of serious crap I ever bough any of my 3 DDs (ie no nasty pink, no glitter, no Bratz, No Barbies) was when at 3 one wanted Barbie lipstick from santa. That was what she wrote in her letter... nothing else.... it was the hardest 99p I have ever spent but she was sooo happy

pink pink pink pink

I compromised, DD chose some purple wellies with a green sole from a shop around here, she's happy and they're not pink, so I'm happy

get her the pink ones.

dd1 has those exact ones, the Aigles, in pink.

her choice.

she's 5.

honestly, i do not get the big deal about pink clothes.

or any clothes.

i mean, they may grow up to be goth teenagers.

there's a lot worse they could be.

pick your battles, and i just can't work it up to have clothing colour choice be one of them.