Wasnt sure where to post this!
We have been married 20 years! In the early days dh didn't really notice or interfear with what I wore and always wore simple understated clothes himself - as do I. I am petite and like classics with a twist which I know can look frumpy and boring if you are not careful, and although I am not afraid of colour I avoid sexy and obvious! Frankly I would rather border on slightly uninteresting but practical than overdo it!
However I hardly work now ( Ds has sn) so cannot spend on clothes. Dh bless him, tends to buy clothes for me as presents - so I am getting more and more things that suit his taste but not always mine. I think he is trying to chear me up, and some things are lovely. As you will have guessed I am well into my middle years, and (bless him) I do not think he has noticed - I mean trully noticed! We do not go out a lot - to family and shops, but I am finding harder and harder to go out dressed in clothes I feel 'not me' in! (high heeled thigh high boots, animal print bustier or strappy tops, fake tatoos). The phrase mutton dressed as lamb comes to mind - often. It makes me want to hide at home even though I am desparate for adult company!
I have ofcourse told him (bluntly) I don't like leopard print, can't wear very high heels (and made him run after ds), that it is smart to wear one sexy item cheap if overdone, but it is getting worse. I feel like a naughty scalded child if I refuse to wear his gifts and it creats a difficult atmosphere in the house. It is getting worse and I dont know what to do! In fact I don't know how it has got to this stage - where Dh does not hear what I say, and my feelings are ignored. Help? Is it a midlife crisis or is it me?