6th form leavers do for son in 30° heat!

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Leavers do this Thursday and we are unprepared!
Was thinking maybe...linen shirt, smart chino trousers and possibly a waistcoat?
I know it is normally a suit but it's going to be so hot!
Any ideas, probably left it too late for Vinted...

Thank you. I thought I was going mad for a bit there.

Helping with ideas about what to wear at a special event, when the weather is likely to be so extreme, that it might affect their comfort and enjoyment if they wear the usual dress code, is not ‘dressing’ your kids! Would you not come up with ideas for a sibling, parent, friend, if the subject was broached? There’s so much competitive ‘I’ve brought up my children to be so much more independent than you have’ on here, it’s almost like it’s not completely normal for most people to interact with other family members!

I interact just fine with my grown up kids. I don't tell them what to wear though.

If my mum was asking online about what clothes or shoes I should wear for prom I would be mortified. An older teen is not only knew than capable but probably doesn’t want his mum meddling! It’s babying.

That’s not what’s happening though.

Yep, I'm with you. I'm 43 and just yesterday asked my mum and sister for advice between 3 dresses for a wedding we're all going to next month. I'm looking forward to shopping with my boys when they go to prom. I'm also a functioning adult.

Well I helped my son pick a suit and get it altered to fit properly. He's 17 and never bought a suit before! I can assure you he's very independent and capable.
I wouldn't worry too much OP, teens can cope much better with heat/cold than us adults. They can just take their suit jackets off.

How do you know the conversation didn’t go along the lines of:
DS - ‘Not sure what I should wear on Thurs., I’m going to be boiling in my suit, but it’s supposed to be formal dress’
Mum - ‘Yes, it’s a difficult one. What are other people doing?’
Mum then does a quick post on MN to garner some ideas, not realising that by doing so she will be dictating what her ds should wear, thereby rendering him totally dependent and incapable!

At my ds1's prom, outfits for the boys really varied. Someone went in a football kit, some in suits but with trainers. Some in shirts and trousers. My son wore a suit (not new, just an old one of his dad's) but lots didn't.

Events with some sort of code for dress are tricky for most people to work out, for the first time.
Hence all the "is this suitable for a wedding", "is this too casual for smart casual", "is this ok for an interview" type posts.
We have access to a massive hive mind through Mumsnet, with people who have all sorts of different experiences. Why not use that to make life easier?

Yes my son would probably be v annoyed if he knew I had posted!! But I was only after a bit of kind advice, no need for all the criticism 😅
He's going to choose something tomorrow with a school friend

Well shoot me now because I went shopping with 17 year old ds to help him pick his 6th form ball outfit. We had a lovely day and he tried on a few different shirts and trousers and asked my advice on each.

OP his do was Friday night just gone, it was very warm here. He works a short sleeve shirt, tie, and chinos. But I think a linen shirt with no tie would be lovely.

Perfect! I hope he enjoyed it x

OP is getting a lot of flak for a perfectly mundane query and I can only assume it's the building heat and humidity which has prompted such waspish comments.

OP, hope he gets sorted. My own DS has lots of deferred birthday parties lined up plus his own summer prom, all in the next few weeks, and the heat is a real concern. Most 17/18 year old boys haven't had to choose these sorts of really smart outfits for themselves yet and as dressing up smart for a prom might well be outside their experience, I don't see why all the sneering. How many 17/18 year old boys actually know about choosing a linen shirt?

oh and as far as I can see, boys' prom/ball outfits are a bit less overly formal than the uniform black tux in the US. Lots of DS's friends are planning to wear a variation on the 'smart-for-work' clothes they had to wear in 6th form. Chinos and nice shirt are absolutely normal for this sort of thing as far as I can tell. Personally I think they should all be in loose, crumpled linen in this weather, and no tie!

Nothing wrong with asking a question.

They won’t wear their suit jackets for long. Photos and then just shirts.

I did wonder whether I had posted in AIBU by mistake 😅😅

As far as I can tell, any thread is considered fair game for the AIBU treatment these days!