Do posh wedding guests have any more clue than we do?

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Looking at the coverage of Peter Phillips’ wedding I’m amazed by some of the outfits. Clearly a lot of these people have money but it really doesn’t show - some of the choices look very unstylish to me. Creased dresses, raffia wedges, mismatched accessories. I appreciate it was a rubbish day weather-wise so may have needed a few last minute rethinks but what hope is there for the rest of us when even those with access to the best designers and a presumably healthy budget look pretty average at best.

I thought all the outfits were absolutely appropriate for a wedding, and a second one at that. No one looked dreadful or horrific or however they've been described on here. Their outfits looked like normal wedding attire.

A million times better than, for example, the people at the chavfest of Tyson Fury's daughter's wedding.

I'm sure Peter Phillips was perfectly fine with what his mother wore, he knows her style. I'm sure he wouldn't have expected her to wear something new. Also I would have thought he and the bride would have known what she was going to wear, presumably the bride's mother would not want to wear a similar outfit so they would have consulted beforehand, that's what I did at both my children's weddings.

Speaking of appropriate outfits, does anyone remember the thread asking for wedding outfit help and a poster shot down all of the suggestions and posted a link to a very large cape thing? It caused quite a debate?

I love that image!

I do wonder if she deliberately adopted the somewhat eccentric look as a 'dish best served cold' response to Peter P's flogging his first wedding photos to Hello! for £££ that surprised and pissed of Queen Elizabeth II?

Anne’s outfit was absolute chaos to my eyes but I thought she herself looked very happy. She obviously doesn’t care about clothes and that is fine. I don’t think we can read anything about her state of mind into it.

I only critique the terrible outfit because she tons of money and help and could have done better

Pussybow anorak really made me laugh!

I am always surprised on this board at the things that people recommend for weddings.
I don't know if it is regional, class or generational, but I am astonished at both what is considered appropriate and what is condemned as inappropriate.

I have always understood that for a typical English wedding the basic dress code is summer garden party. Flowery dresses and hats.
Now hats are less common unless you are going to a posh wedding. But the basis of summer dress remains.
That to me means not strapless (unless worn with something else over shoulders), not too short, not too tight, not like you're going to the office and definitely not anything which is evening wear, no sequins, shiny etc.
It does include trouser /skirt and top variations of the same.

It can include dresses which are flowers on a white background, but would not include an all white outfit or ivory. Should not include anything that looks like a bridesmaid.

Following those rules, everyone at Peter Philips wedding was spot on.
Interestingly, none of the above means new, fashionable, smart, etc. Weddings are one of those times when it isn't about a fashion parade, just looking nice for the photos, and not upstaging the bridal party.

She does care about clothes and has her own style. She always looks good be it in country clothes, military uniform or occasion clothes. She doesn't go for the standard 'MOB' look that her mother or SIL wears.

@MargoLivebetter , the only one who looked a bit like she was carrying extra weight was the groom's pregnant cousin and that little bundle of joy is due before long.

Agree @AlbieJiggered the general lack of style (in my opinion obvs) wasn't because they were fatties.

But what makes it "absolute chaos"? I really can't see it. Jacket was the same yellow as in the dress so it matched. Shoes were just a dark neutral. The extra shawl/wrap thing was neutral too.

What makes any of that at all noticeably unco-ordinated?

apparently Anne's hat was a 'vintage family tradition' as she last wore it to Zara's christening.

@DappledThings I’d be repeating myself as it’s been done to death on the Peter Philips wedding thread. But basically there are too many colours and styles going on with no coherence

@DappledThings the hat is not the exact some tone of yellow as the jacket. the scarf is cream, the shoes, gloves and bag are black, the umbrella looks like it dark green, the dress or skirt is multicoloured and again, I would say the yellow isn't the same tone as the jacket or the hat. It is a fairly chaotic ensemble - particularly for someone whose style is often minimalistic.

I can see where Anne was going with her outfit but the accessories were just too much and too all over the place. The colours were nice but the things that stood out to me were that the hat was too dated and didn’t suit her, also she looked like she was wearing her late mother’s shoes.

Normally I think she looks good in her forty - fifty year old clothes, but this particular outfit didn’t work.

I just can't see it. All looks matched to me. But I accept others have a more pernickety eye.

Fair enough @DappledThings - at the end of the day, it is just a family wedding! I should probably pernickety off 😁!

@MargoLivebetter You can be stylish whatever your size (within reason).
It would be hard to compete with tall willowy youngish women dressed very conservatively because of how we've been conditioned.
Some clothes photograph better than others.

I do hate those thick Alice band things that seemed to be so popular at the wedding, they seem to have replaced fascinators and look just as grim, to me.

I hate them as well! So ugly and seemingly ubiquitous for posh women

I don’t like them either. I was coming to say they seem to be the replacement for fascinators. They are grim, especially the really upholstered ones decorated with beads.

Fascinators were daft but at least they had an air of cheery eccentric British style.

Princess Anne's hat was awful! The rest of her outfit was okay, but the hat was just awful and so dated.

Completely agree. They look really sloaney to me and well really just a bit stupid (also they would make the bit behind my ears hurt like hell).

Yes. I have quite a narrow head (front to back) so can’t wear headbands for the same reason. Also I can’t wear any kind of headscarf as anything that has to sit behind my ears just falls off.

I’ve gone down a rabbit hole of videos today (migraine) so not a total saddo; Anne’s scarf, although off white/cream, is fringed in yellow so I reckon, if she’s anything like me, she’d have thought, that it was vaguely in the same colour scheme, as her jacket, dress and hat, so would have felt put together.

I saw it and thought 'Cos' 😁. It would be great to flog pussybow cagoules at festivals.

Disapproved so much that the reception was held on her estate!

I thought they all looked fine, but I know nothing about fashion and care less. Like many others, I've happened across this thread because it was on the Active threads page. I didn't initially notice it was in S&B. Here be dragons is my normal response to that topic!