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37 laps around the sun - yet I still can’t get dressed when it shines! Help!

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Sweatandtears · 28/05/2026 21:55

I’m 37 years old, five foot ten, and a size ten (kind of eight/ten on the bottom and ten/twelve on top, really). I’ve got pretty broad shoulders and medium sized boobs. I have pale skin and dark hair. Plus two young kids who like to be carried and to cover me in fruit and snot.

I’ve always been interested in fashion and probably care too much about clothes and spend too much money on them. I feel comfortable in Autumn through to Spring. But I literally cannot dress for hot weather. UK heatwaves, holidays - anything above about 22C and it all goes to turnips.

I usually tend to go for a quite basic look. Jeans and a white tee or shirt. Jeans with a cashmere jumper. I like a barrel trouser and often go for a slightly oversized Cos vibe. Nice boots and a wool or quilted coat in winter. Might do a more “fun” shoe if it’s a bit warmer. White, cream, beige, khaki, navy, grey and denim. Mix of high street and more expensive. I like to look kind of ironed and polished, but not in a particularly glam way - hair and make up are very simple and boring.

I don’t like to show much skin (I turn bright pink and blotchy when warm, and burn if not doused in suncream), though don’t mind having my arms out. Don’t like clingy or tight-fitting things. Don’t do manmade fabrics for obvious reasons. Don’t love bright colours or patterns (they wear me/clash with the pink blotchiness). Don’t like anything especially frilly or girly as it makes me look like I’m in drag. Linen trousers should be the answer but they somehow look terrible - I think I need a high waist and structure. My default to iron is made harder because of the weather!

I have one black dress that’s a kind of high tank top at the top and a long cotton skirt and I quite like it but that’s my only summer outfit. Help me please! 😂

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Riapia · 29/05/2026 15:27

Why is it that I take so much care choosing an outfit but within 20 minutes of leaving home I realise that I’m wearing entirely the wrong thing?

Bolonese · 29/05/2026 23:58

What eye colour have you OP? Proportion wise we are very similar, you are probably what's called a slim apple shape, Liz Hurley and Catherine Zeta Jones are good examples of the taller version of this and I use shapes that suit them as inspiration. But essentially as others have said, shirt dresses are your best bet. I ask eye colour as you say pale colours wash you out which makes me think you maybe have green, Hazel or light brown eyes and are therefore autumn colouring (you can google colour analysis to find out more about this) , in which case look for outfits in colours such as orange, terracotta, mustard yellow, emerald green, brick red, navy etc to enhance your natural colouring.

Sweatandtears · 30/05/2026 20:36

Bolonese · 29/05/2026 23:58

What eye colour have you OP? Proportion wise we are very similar, you are probably what's called a slim apple shape, Liz Hurley and Catherine Zeta Jones are good examples of the taller version of this and I use shapes that suit them as inspiration. But essentially as others have said, shirt dresses are your best bet. I ask eye colour as you say pale colours wash you out which makes me think you maybe have green, Hazel or light brown eyes and are therefore autumn colouring (you can google colour analysis to find out more about this) , in which case look for outfits in colours such as orange, terracotta, mustard yellow, emerald green, brick red, navy etc to enhance your natural colouring.

Thank you! I have browny hazel eyes I think. I’ve never heard of the slim apple before but I’d be very happy to look like either CZJ or LH 😂. I don’t have the narrow hip thing though.

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