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How do I dress myself when my body measurements fall into such differing sizes?

11 replies

Saywhatnowhey · 25/05/2026 13:21

All of my life I have been relatively slim with a small bust and hips but I have never had a defined waist or flat tummy so I’d say I’m a very much an up and down maybe rectangular shape. I was a size 8-10 for most of my adult life until recently.

I’m 53 now and since being in perimenopause and suffering from a lot of stress my waist has completely lost its definition. I am in perimenopause (which has been a rough ride), suffer from endometriosis and IBS and so I bloat a lot and I now have a bigger than before tummy and hate anything tight or constricting. I still have a small frame with small shoulders, a small bust, slim hips, arms and legs but I hate my body as I feel so out of proportion that I no longer know what to wear. Summer time makes me feel more body conscious as I cover my upper body with sweatshirts in the colder months.

I am 9 stone 4, around 5’ 5”, bust 36 inches, waist 32 inches and hips 36 inches (the chart I’ve attached says I’m all over the show with sizing).

I’ve just seen some nice trousers on the Halara website but no idea what size to order as they are 8/10 or 12/14 and so many companies seem to have this type of sizing now. I feel that I am in between sizes, more an 11 than 10 or 12 (Next used to do in between Jean sizes, I have an 11 and they are a perfect fit). If I opt for a 10 then my waist feels tight and I’m self conscious of it but if I opt for a 12 I will be more comfy on the waist but baggy on the shoulders and hip area and the clothes end up looking such a poor fit. I hate wearing dresses and am more of a trousers/leggins/jeans and top kind of person.

Does anyone else have a wide contrast in body/clothing sizes? What do you do, do you go up in size and how do you deal with clothing fitting in one area of your body well and not so much on other parts? I just don’t know how to dress myself anymore.

How do I dress myself when my body measurements fall into such differing sizes?
How do I dress myself when my body measurements fall into such differing sizes?
OP posts:
newmenewwhatever · 25/05/2026 14:00

Separates ordered in various sizes to find the best fit for yourself?!

Mousekatoolsattheready · 25/05/2026 14:15

I have the same problem.
I tend to buy loose fit jeans in the smaller size and tighter fit jeans in the larger size. It doesn’t always work but it’s worth a shot. I found the same goes for dresses; if it’s a fairly loose fit then I’d get away with the smaller size which meant it fitted my shoulders etc.
Or can you make friends with a tailor 😬

DominoLover51 · 25/05/2026 14:15

I have similar thoughts problems with being out of proportion. I’m the same height and weight as you, well a pound heavier this morning. I also bloat do hate anything constructive, despite being pear shaped, think measurements are about 34-29-38 and the best style I’ve found recently is joggers or any type of baggy trousers and a fitted T-shirt. For me, I always thought they were a big no no and would make me look bigger, but they actually look ok. It’s also a very current look. Will try and attach a photo

How do I dress myself when my body measurements fall into such differing sizes?
Divebar2021 · 25/05/2026 14:19

You need a seamstress who can alter the clothes to fit you properly.

LarksAscending · 25/05/2026 14:27

I don’t see what your issue is tbh. You’re slim with a gentle hourglass. Always size up because loose looks better than squeezing into something. So go for a 12 - you can always pay to have them tailored a bit. I’d also try drawstring jeans - M&S do some.

LarksAscending · 25/05/2026 14:27

DominoLover51 · 25/05/2026 14:15

I have similar thoughts problems with being out of proportion. I’m the same height and weight as you, well a pound heavier this morning. I also bloat do hate anything constructive, despite being pear shaped, think measurements are about 34-29-38 and the best style I’ve found recently is joggers or any type of baggy trousers and a fitted T-shirt. For me, I always thought they were a big no no and would make me look bigger, but they actually look ok. It’s also a very current look. Will try and attach a photo

You’re completely in proportion. What do people on Mumsnet think women’s proportions are meant to be??

Saywhatnowhey · 25/05/2026 14:32

Divebar2021 · 25/05/2026 14:19

You need a seamstress who can alter the clothes to fit you properly.

I’d love that but sadly can’t afford to.

OP posts:
DominoLover51 · 25/05/2026 14:36

LarksAscending · 25/05/2026 14:27

You’re completely in proportion. What do people on Mumsnet think women’s proportions are meant to be??

I always thought your busy measurement was supposed to be the same as your hips or two inches less. I’ve always had about four inches difference

DominoLover51 · 25/05/2026 14:36

Bust measurement even

PineappleSunrise · 25/05/2026 15:35

Commiserations, OP. My size according to various retailer charts can range from a 14 to an 8 in a single garment. It makes ordering online pretty hit or miss!

Trying things on is really helpful because a lot of weird looking size charts are quite different on the body, and I find that the 4-size range thing usually resolves to a straightforward 10 or 12. It’s just a pain to have to order more than one size to find out what will work, or to track down a physical shop that has what I want to try in stock.

thedevilinablackdress · 25/05/2026 16:37

DominoLover51 · 25/05/2026 14:36

I always thought your busy measurement was supposed to be the same as your hips or two inches less. I’ve always had about four inches difference

Only for Miss World contestants and page 3 models 🙄
Just another random beauty standard to make us feel bad and sell us stuff.

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