Do you actually FEEL attractive?

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I do, aged 47F, happily married, mother to a DC in their mid 20s, I full time employed if that makes any difference. Feel more attractive now than I did most of my 30s.

Partly it’s finally becoming comfortable in my skin and knowing what I like to wear and what feels like me, what suits me. But it’s not just clothes and make up, it’s a feeling.

Not that I need to attract anyone, or anyone is attracted other than DH, and maybe it’s a vain thought but it’s still nice.

I didnt feel attractive growing up, awkward and overweight. I had a nice smile/eyes but that was it. I then had two long term relationships where my partners were superficially very attractive and who pretty much adored me and how I looked. Then I gained more confidence in myself and thought i couldnt be that bad if i had them. However since my breakup, i barely look in the mirror! When I actually bother to make an effort, I look good.

When I'm scrubbed up, yes. I don't mean 2 hour hair and 45 minute make-up🙂 I just mean not when I'm trudging around with dog in pouring rain. I had humility drummed into me throughout my whole childhood though, so I cannot ever admit that I know I have good genes and know how to dress. Unless it's anonymously, obviously.

Hi I'm really interested in starting to use weights but I'm in my 60's approx 1.5 stone overweight. Would this be suitable for my age group? I've read that training with weight's are good for the ageing body. Do you have your own personal weight's or do you go to the gym?

Sometimes

Im no fashionista or beauty queen but if Im wearing the right jeans, top and boots for me, and a wee bit of a face on - I feel a million dollars

Days like today where its my slouchy jeans and an oversized jumper - both of which drown me, no make up and hair not done for 2 days, I feel frug ugly

The right clothes ( for me ) with or without make up make me feel fantastic so I really dont giving a flying preverbal

There's other days and im like - stying in !!!

Thankfully though Im now getting comfortable - ish - with not going a fuck

I don’t feel attractive at all but I can’t say that i particularly bothers me. I used to be very attractive when I was younger (I’m 45 now) but I’m actually quite enjoying caring less about how I look as I get older. I still keep myself clean, wear some make up etc but I don’t look at myself and think I’m pretty anymore. A lot of it is health issues, I’ve put on a lot of weight due to medications I take and I’ve had to accept that. I’ve learnt to like myself in other ways and I’m grateful my body functions most of the time!

Yes, I do, far more than in my 30s.

Partly because I’m pretty secure in the look I’ve developed, partly because I have a partner who looks at me like I’m some kind of miracle, as opposed to the previous one who didn’t really look at me at all.

Yes I do even though I'm in my 60s. Then I look in the mirror and think, what am I on?

Sometimes, if my hair has gone right and I don’t have a big spot on my nose and I’m wearing an outfit that is comfortable and flattering and probably if the sun is shining on me.

I have my own set of dumbbells! I use weights from 4kg up to 12.5kg. Lifting weights is absolutely suitable to older women and overweight women — check out Caroline’s beginner videos on YouTube. When you’re just getting started I’d say just don’t overdo it, maybe try lifting 2-3 times a week to begin, but don’t be afraid to use heavier weights as you get comfortable with the movements. Lifting heavier is the most effective way to build muscle, and the more muscle you have, the more calories you burn just doing nothing. I’d also prioritise eating protein. Get at least 100g a day on your lifting days. 💪🏻

@nonmerci99
Thanks for the information. Definitely going to give this a go alongside the You Tube videos you mentioned.

Some days I do, some days I don’t.

No
I don’t know how to dress anymore, everything makes me look dumpy. I’ve only gained 5kg but it’s all on my torso and I’m very short so it shows.
I’ve aged significantly in the last couple of years (partly grief related). I also have a permanent frown.
I have eczema around my eyes.
My grey hairs no longer take the dye.
My gums have receded terribly. My teeth are stained.
I have terrible dark circles but make up seems to make them worse.
I used to have long thick eyelashes that made my eyes a feature but now they’re average length and fine.
I’m growing a beard.

I’ve never felt confident in my looks but it’s got worse in my 40’s as aging has hit hard.

Edited to add that everything I do to try to make me feel better actually seems to make me feel more despondent. Improve diet and drink more water. No effects. Use actives in skincare, skin flares up. Get my eyelashes done, feel sad that they still don’t look as good as they used to. Go shopping for clothes, feel shit that nothing fits (and changing room mirrors are actually evil). Start exercising, become even more conscious of my flaws. Follow hair/make up videos and try to copy them, get upset that I don’t get the results they do…As for going to the dentist, they have killed my confidence more then anything as they were completely aghast at how my gums had receded and basically told me all my teeth are going to fall out soon (despite me always taking good care of my teeth).

Generally I’m better off just not thinking about how I look at all and just keeping clean and wearing clothes that feel comfortable but then I catch a glimpse of myself…

Yes which is odd because I'm 60 but I am fit and healthy, tall and a size ten. I feel good in that I run 10k regularly, I practice karate and am fairly supple. Skin is clear, no wrinkles, hair is thick and glossy.
I suppose it is in contrast to a few years ago when I had to undergo chemo, lost my hair, felt terrible and looked pretty awful too.
My finances are better (no mortgage) so I'm indulging myself with good quality clothes, and close to retirement so much less stress. I get fairly regular male attention so enjoying a better social life too

I intend to enjoy it while it lasts 😎