Funeral outfit for 10 year old

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I am really struggling to find a dress for my 10 year old for her Nan’s funeral.
We’re in the SW and have limited physical shops.
Looking online, there seems to be very few black dresses (at least in the places I can think of to look).
She’s tall and stocky so needs age 13 and I’m struggling to find anything except for cheap and nasty looking dresses on Amazon.
Any suggestions?

A pinafore? My little girl wore a navy cord pinafore and white long sleeved T-shirt to the last 2 funerals she's been to. Bought them from Vinted for very little

My daughter was a bit older but she wore a black skater style dress with white hearts on.

otherwise black school trousers and a white blouse, maybe revere collar.

My 11 year old has been to a few family funerals over the last 2 years. Normally wears black school uniform with a black tshirt. If you can’t find black then any other colour would be fine, as long as they look smart. Sorry for your loss

My teenage daughter recently wore a black three piece trouser suit from the women's formal section in Primark, with a black satin blouse under it, for a funeral. She looked great and the outfit was very respectful, if you see what I mean.

my dd wore a grey dress from H&M for my mums funeral. She wore white socks and her school shoes with it...
She looked nice, ds wore his grey school shorts and a white shirt
it was july though so warm. she could have worn a cardigan and tights if it had been winter.

Maybe something from a goth shop, like this?
https://www.disturbia.co.uk/products/despair-cotton-thistle-embroidered-button-up-midaxi-dress

Just have her wear a nice dress or outfit
I wouldn't go out and buy something specific.
A lot of funerals/ memorials I go to now wear coloured outfits.

I'd go with school skirt and a top, not necessarily a school shirt or black jeans. Basically I'd be looking for something she will get another wear out of. Kids are expensive enough without buying clothes to wear once.

I suppose it depends on what the family think the person who had died would expect?
My MIL loathed black and would never wear it herself so we asked people who were coming to her funeral not to wear it if possible.

Children do not need to wear black. My own kids (boys) wore navy chinos, checked shirts and a muted, but light coloured, jumper to FIL’s funeral.

So many people commented on how smart they looked, and glad we’d not put them in black.

It’s an emotional day - let her be comfortable.

She's 10. It doesn't need to be black & doesn't need to be a dress.

she just needs to look clean & tidy, obviously no slogans or graphics.

maybe something her Nan liked on her.
🤗

i would agree with going in school uniform

Op another option for a girl could be black leggings and a long jumper.

I'd definitely look for something she can wear again.

Thank you for all the comments. I hadn’t really thought about school uniform. She hasn’t got anything suitable already, but I can certainly look for something.
For those saying black/a dress aren’t necessary. Thank you for the reassurance. My FIL has already said people don’t need to wear black so other colours would be fine, but my daughter (neurodivergent) has a very fixed idea of what she wants to wear and there is very little that will change her mind. She tends to prefer wearing dresses to trousers and I’d like her to feel comfortable on the day so want to accommodate her wishes as much as possible.
Thank you for all the suggestions.

Amazon jumper dress with black tights? If you have prime it’s feee delivery tomorrow an free returns

https://amzn.eu/d/04JXLPkD

M&S, H&M, Next and New Look go up to mid teen size.

You can Click and Collect at Primark (no delivery) if you want to guarantee them having her size. I suspect that women’s xxs could work well for clothes size age13.

Black jumper dress, tights, whatever kind of boots she likes. Next and New look usually have black dresses.

DD(14) wore a bottle green pinafore to a family funeral last week. I’ve been to 6 funerals in the last 6 months. At only 1 was black “expected” - a big church service for a 97 year old. Funeral traditions are changing. For one, we were instructed to wear colour.

Is it time to move your DD into adult sizes?

Apologies, I’ve just read that your dd wants to wear a black dress.

At her grandfather's funeral in June, dd wore a black dress with white flowers (quite similar to the monsoon one shown) her cousins also wore dresses which were black background with a pattern.
In fact now that I think about it, so did I and both SILs.

Plain black for a funeral is pretty unusual now.
If she wants to sober it down, use a black jacket or cardigan.

I would probably get a black school skirt and a black crew neck jumper, probably also a school uniform one (maybe boys) with black tights and school shoes.

marks have this which might work with black tights if not too short? https://www.marksandspencer.com/velvet-embellished-belted-party-dress-7-14-yrs-/p/clp23048561#intid=pid_pg1pip6g2r2c2%7Cprodflag_Online%20Only

I’d just send her in something smart. No need for sombre colours.

OP sorry for your loss.

We recently had a family funeral and dd (12) worn a black cardigan from next, a black long sleeved tshirt underneath from Uniqlo (was one of their base layer tops) and a black stretch jersey skirt from next, sold in the school uniform section. Was very hard to find plain black dresses so this was the best we could do.

Another thought, if she’s wearing aged 13-14 clothes, they also fit the same dimensions as size 6 petite adult clothes. Perhaps look in somewhere like New Look in the adult petite range.

My DD11 (also tall) wore a plain, black, cotton dress from H&M to a family funeral recently (it came in a multipack of 3) and wore a dark cardigan. She wore boots and tights she already had.