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Hair help please! 36 and still have no clue what I'm doing

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waitandfeed · 07/02/2026 19:39

I feel like I never really like my hair, or that it's hard work or lots of effort, and I'd really just like some advice on how best to manage it really. Anything from hair cut, products I should use, anything at all really.

The first photo is how my hair dries naturally, and the second photo is me scrunching it and putting in product to encourage the curl. Whilst I think this looks lovely on day one, it ends up a tangled frizzy mess after day two (even with sleeping in a silk bonnet) My hair doesn't 'refresh' well like other curly hair, it's too fine so either ends up too heavy in product or too frizzy.

I only wash once a week and don't really want to increase this, sometimes I blow dry it straight and it lasts around 5 days. Don't know whether to just carry on with this, forget being curly and switch to more smoothing type products? I use curly girl friendly products but it always looks a bit dull, not shiny.

Do you think I should go shorter in length? Grow it longer?

This is also my natural colour and I'd like to keep this.

Hair help please! 36 and still have no clue what I'm doing
Hair help please! 36 and still have no clue what I'm doing
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67eleven · 28/09/2026 18:10

I asked Google AI to recommend me some products. I put in a load of detail about my hair: fine, wavy/curly, mid length, needs washing on alternate days, low porosity, doesn't like protein etc. and it came back with suggestions all available in boots & superdrug and all under £10. I brought them all and have been so pleased with them.

For styling, look at mellelewis on IG (ignore the pouting).

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