Always look scruffy - help!

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I’m 32 with 3 kids, get no help from OH with the kids/animals/home so I am mentally and physically exhausted. I used to be so conscious of my appearance and honestly my younger self would be so embarrassed with current me! 😩

I feel so out of touch with the world these days and have no idea what would be fashionable/look good. I feel like I repeatedly wear the same terrible outfits, leggings (complete with holes 🙃) and some long floral tunic top thing or gym leggings and a hoody/jumper. Topped off with my dog walking jacket with broken pockets. Same shoes - knackered vans, boots in need of a good scrub or better still my wellies 😂🙈

I just feel so gross 😫 I want to feel nice again - like I used to when I made an effort 😂 my one pair of jeans has now got stains on from DD’s wellies so choice is even more limited. OH has always made snarky comments if I’ve made an effort with myself in the past and I think I just gave up trying with myself but realised I don’t want to keep feeling so crappy about myself!

To make matters worse a mum from school was all over OH at a wedding during the summer and I get to walk past her on the school run whilst she either looks at me like something she’s stepped on or pretends I’m invisible 😅 she always looks a million dollars (and doesn’t she know it! 😅)

I’m 5’3 and a size 12. Extra weight around the middle, can’t get my legs out as they’re chunky, covered in cellulite and thread veins 😩 also feel I can’t tie my hair up as I hate my big, uneven ears. My hair is quite long, thick and wavy - it also gets quite frizzy.

I need a miracle haha! And tips really appreciated ☺️

I’m 5’1 and size 12-14

dresses really work for me. I CBA to match tops and bottoms and they cut me in half and make me look dumpy a lot of the time

wrap type dresses make boobs look good and skim belly. Opaque tights & boots winter, bare legs and trainers/sandals summer
Casual to nice styles for all occasions

Find 1 cosmetic that makes you feel great for when you don’t have time or inclination for full make up - for me it’s lipstick/gloss. Look more alive!

I dye my brows to define, so don’t have to worry about doing anything on them for weeks

do my own gel nails at home - life is too short to wait for nail polish to dry!

Might you have proper curly hair? Get a hairdresser to have a good look and see if you can get it cut so always falls well

Saying all that, tbh it sounds like the best think you can cut is your shitty OH!

WTF does he think he is?!

It sounds like you need a nicer husband. He sounds awful.

You need to ignore his snarkiness and do things for you. Simple things like cleaning the boots, getting some new leggings so at least you’re hole free.

Realistically you need to carve out a bit of time for you - not even that much, though I appreciate this may be difficult. I understand the exhaustion too and referring back to my first comment it sounds like your husband’s lack of support is contributing to all of this. Would he be open to change if you talked to him seriously to tell him how you’re feeling? Do you ever get time for yourself? Does he?

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Get some new clothes off Vinted. Wrap dresses are your friend.