My fellow women with chin hairs, how to you feel about your romantic partner seeing your chin hairs ?

[MomWithChinHairs]

I'm the one who made that other post about chin hairs. There is something I which I had asked in that post.

My husband is the one who told me about women started to get those in their 40s (according to answers in the other post it can happen much earlier). My husband said I'm gorgeous and that the chin hairs don't bother them. That it's normal and feminine. He has offered to pluck them for me if I'm having trouble.

I'm 41. My husband and I have been married since we were both 22. He has seen me give birth. He seem me when I had the pregnancy weight gain. He has seen me sick with colds and flus.

After all that, I'm hit with chin hairs and my confidence is dead around my own husband. My husband who looks very young and who is intimidatingly gorgeous. I love him and he loves me. But I'm so shy about my chin hairs.

On the other hand, I have PCOS and have to shave a full Craig David goatee every morning and have usually got 5 o'clock shadow by the end of the day. None of my sexual partners have ever mentioned it, including my husband of many years.

If it bothers you that much get electrolysis. No need to worry.

I wouldn't want my husband to help me pluck them but I don't feel horrified by the possibility that he might spot one before I pluck it

Sorry to be the bearer of bad news, OP, but chin hairs is just the start of the stuff that you'll get as you get older. You'll look back in 20 years and think, "those were the days, when all I had to fret about was a few chinny bristles". 👵

I hear that. I was looking at photos from a decade ago before menopause started and my face and hair were just the way I like it.

I really wish I'd started HRT a bit sooner. But there is a flip side to the coin in how you see the world.

I should have added in my comment above, I'm sorry you've experienced that from arsehole boyfriends previously. Let's hope they've developed a conscience in the intervening years and those comments pop back up to haunt them occasionally.

Congratulations for having a totally different experience from me,.I suppose?? Is that what you're after?

That's because they're very difficult to see, unless you have your chin thrust in someone's eyes! Nobody apart from you and your partner will have seen yours either. Just pluck/laser/wax and stay on top of them as much as possible, but really people aren't noticing anyway.

I'm sorry. I read it back and realised it sounded gloating so I commented further as I couldn't edit my original comment. I was trying to present a different view ie, the vile way you were treated isn't a universal experience so OP shouldn't fear that as a norm. I realise thats not how it came across though and again, I apologise.

I absolute hate it, dh tells me not to worry but I do constantly. Had to get his help the last year, due to illness, getting his help shaving my back and helping with the chin hairs, which are black and need daily dealing with, genuinely was awful for me, it crushed my mental health, he’s lovely about it but urgh, I hate pcos!

They're just going to get their eyebrows done - and a full face and throat wax whilst they're there.

It's absolutely normal in areas with diverse populations to see women of all ages and nationalities being waxed - the only difference is that the paler you are, the brighter the red you go for about five minutes afterwards as they put the aloe on.

Wait till the neck hair appears. I get one very long curly one that grows on my neck. I never seem to notice it till it gets long. When it first appeared I thought it was a lose head hair, till it was apparently attached to my neck!!

DP never says anything. Caught me a few times plucking them. But he has hairs sprouting out his ears and back

I’m afraid many men do give a shit about it - as subsequent posts show. I know when I’ve spoken to men on OLD, quite a few mention ‘hairy women’ as the one thing they can’t stand.

It really doesn't bother me. DH does my facial waxing. There isn't much that I would be embarassed by in front of him. My facial hair does bother me in front of other people though. I am looking at laser removal now. Plucking is a pain, waxing needs some regrowth to work and I don't feel comfortable shaving so I can use the lumea. I know I would have to shave for the professional laser but I figure that is less likely to come back after a good amount of sessions.

He would laugh and say, “Your goat beard is back!” and I’d probably do an imitation of Black Phillip from The Witch and pluck them (there are three) the next time I remembered. I certainly wouldn’t rush into the bathroom if he pointed it out. I also have a 70s bush.

Just have electrolysis and get shot of them (or laser followed by electrolysis if you are literally growing a beard)

Keep them as short as you can between treatments.

Once they are gone go back every six months or so to kill off any that are coming through before they get strong enough to be noticeable (the beautician has a fuck off bright light and magnifying mirror)

Loads of women have them, they just get shot of them

He'll be growing hair out of his nose soon enough so don't worry about it, but no, don't get him to pluck them, tis not sexy. No one in their early 40s really wants to be reminded the meno is round the corner, but chin hairs don't actually make you look old

I don’t have a partner but the chin hair started driving me nuts. Getting it lasered. Feeling better already. I didn’t like it being so visible

Don’t show them to your husband, why would you? Just get rid of them and keep some mystery in the relationship! You wouldn’t want him sprouting ear and nasal hair - I’m sure he removes that!

He's seen all my other hairs... he also has a lot of chin hairs himself so 🤷‍♀️ I do sit here with a mirror and my phone torch on every now and then to see and pluck them, but I do that for work rather than dh really

DH has once or twice made a jokey comment about them, which is fine because he knows I'm not massively bothered or upset by that but he most of the time doesn't even remember I have there!

Same. i get mine to get some of mine that I'm struggling to see but can feel. I've always been hairy but got more so as I've got older. I'm only early 30s though so dreading the fact that it's probably going to get worse and worse. I get my whole face threaded once a month and then I pluck and use a tiny face shaver (JML Flawless) in-between. I was going to book a course of laser hair removal but then I did more reading and realised it's not permanent anyway, so not sure whether it's worth it or not. My body hair everywhere else doesn't bother me that much but my face has done and I'm sure always will. I had children in primary school making horrible comments to me about it so it's not really surprising I feel that way. My DH couldn't care less though and barely even notices.