Talk me off the cliff - growing out a pixie cut…

[NoWomanNoRedRedWine]

I have tried to grow hair out on and off for years, mainly for variety, but always went back to a pixie. It suits me, but I feel that it need something softer in late 40, like a short soft bob, maybe a touch asymmetric.

Regular haircuts are booked to try and keep it tidy but it’s driving me mad, growing over ears. I can’t stop fluffing it up, I feel like shaving my head. Does it get better?

Please report your own post and get mn to edit your bloody insensitive title !

I'm up early unable to sleep because I had to do this yesterday and am shaken by it. We do use quite evocative language quite though, and I get you're using the phrase as a metaphor op. Personally I think if you suit it, then a pixie cut can easily see you through life.

Don’t bother,I had a pixie cut for 15 years,grew it to shoulder length,Took 2 years but I hate it!I feel it makes me look older and less edgy.

I’m not 💯 sure what it is but what about a ‘bixie’? Think it’s a cross between bob and a pixie?

I've done the pixie to bob to shoulder length cycle several times, growing out the pixie is the slog. I get my hair dresser to under cut for a short while whilst we grow out the top then I use head bands/alice bands and gel and a bit of creativity with the longer top length to get through the growing out of the sides phase, then finally into the resemblance of a french bob. Autumn/Winter is the best time to start as you can always hide it under beanie hats too.

I’ve done it twice, both times an utter disaster it ages me by at least 10 years, it doesn’t fit under a swim hat, I look stupid and frumpy

I grew out my pixie in late 40s, now mid 50s and I have it just past shoulders. I much prefer it. But I’m pretty jowly and the pixie didn’t look good any more. Growing it out was a bit painful but got there with various clips and keeping the mullet section trimmed.

I’ve done it twice and as others have mentioned longer hair aged me, it looks like I’m a pixie for life, I love short neat hair and it’s so easy.

@DarkRootsBlue thank you. Jowls is my main problem and generally aging in a puffy face way rather than going wrinkle. DM has always had a short cut and I look so much like her, and it started to look like there was not enough for her broadening face. I am not sure I explain it respectfully but it is to soften and frame the drifting face contours.

I’ve got a pixie, and was contemplating growing it out for similar reasons.

But, I’ve found the solution is to grow more length on the top, keeping the sides and back very tight.

The extra length is textured and messy, and elongates my face by giving a bit of height.

(Losing a few extra pounds I was carrying has helped me a bit too, but I don’t mean to suggest that’s the case for you!).

I’m back to loving my pixie now!

Yes! Exactly, the broadening face. My lower face is now quite ‘weighty’. The pixie cut that looked cute when I was big cheeked when younger turned into the older woman’s ’sensible haircut’ when the cheeks became jowls. I like the longer hair now, I never really thought I could have it as my hair is so fine, but with highlights and blowdrying I think it looks nice.

I went pixie to longer, then settled on a short above the shoulders bob. I do have a natural a wave/curl though. During the growing out stages I've found head bands to be my friend, they help frame thd face and distract from slightly uneven hair.

This is me too! Every woman who catches my eye and looks stylish and cool has short hair. I’ll definitely go back!

Anyway OP - there’s no way to avoid at least a short period of Bad Hair as you grow it out. I tried keeping an undercut and growing the top layers first which kind of worked - but eventually had to accept a few months of meh.

Lockdown was my friend when it came to growing out my pixie and giving up on the colour. Prior to that I’d tried to grow it out a couple of times but once it got to the unruly stage I was back at the hairdressers asking them to cut it short again.
Nowadays I can’t imagine ever going back to having a pixie again, much as I love them.
I’ve been going to the same hairdressing salon for years, but have worked my way through a number of stylists due to some of them leaving and others being on maternity leave. My current stylist is an older man who ‘got’ my very thick mop of hair from the start and within a few months has achieved a shortish textured bob that doesn’t bush out within a week and I can dry without any problem whatsoever. I have it trimmed every 6 weeks, whereas with a pixie I needed to have it done every 4. I love the length it is now, and don’t see myself ever going back to having it really short again.

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