I'm perimenopausal and feeling the changes within myself that come along with it. The last few weeks or so, I've really begun to dislike myself. I can feel myself aging almost. Growing old is a privilege but I just don't feel like 'me' anymore.
I have large fibroids that I can't yet have removed, due to being a single parent and not having the support to undergo the recovery once out of hospital. I suffer with iron deficiency due to this. I have a bulky womb because of the placement of my fibroids, so my stomach feels big and bulky all the time.
Although I earn a reasonable living, most of my money goes on my DD and obviously the cost of living these days. I don't have loads left over for myself, once paying bills, savings and whatever DD needs. I suppose I'm not great at doing things for myself, much of this is because I think I spent the first 35 years of my life surrounded by parents who demanded my needs came last. When I do try and put me first, I'm left with feelings of guilt and worry if I then have to say no to my DD. She's not spoilt by any means but I know what it was like to always be told 'no', as a little kid.
What are us women nearing our 40s or later, who are consumed by mum life and work life, actually doing to survive and feel like themselves? If this was your sister/niece/daughter, what advice would you give them? I don't have much free time, as my ex partner works abroad and doesn't see DD often, DD also has little contact with my parents. So, for a busy single mum, who has begun to lose her way, what guidance would you offer? It's to the point I really don't like looking in the mirror at the moment.
Thank you.