So I took all the hair advice and here I am with healthy shit hair.

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I used to straighten when younger, everyone told me it was damaging, and it was if you over did it. Reached my 40's and decided it was time to take all the good hair care advice and go au naturale.

I quit all heat, experimented with wavy girl for my very wavy frizzy hair, even tried curly girl. Treated it to good products, not too much product, determined porosity, moisture versus protein, regular trims, silk pillow and...yeh.

And now here we are. It's still frizzy, undefined and shit. It's just my hair.
I think we are sold these ideas just to buy more crap tbh. New shampoo, new curl serum, silk this and microfibre that. But this runs in my family, we are a family of not-quite-curly fuzzy tops.
My hair looks far worse than it was when I used to blow dry and straighten.

Stylists say it's just my hair. It's strong, it's healthy, it's ok. It's just butt ugly.
I might go back, I am thinking about ghd's. I am a hair heathen..

Am I alone in these revelations?? Do you straighten or go with the flow?

My hair was gorgeous in my teens. Naturally blonde, thick and curly. Like Princess hair.

Then I turned 20, presumably my hormones lessened and I inherited… the family shit, flat, fine hair.

Hair is genetics for the most part. Not shampoo.

I’ve decided, in middle age, to prioritise having a professional blow dry once a week. My mother did it and so did my grandmother. Although they had a “wash and set” which involved time under a heat lamp.

Name changed because I feel like I've been telling everyone this in person lately but I tried all the same things as you including years of terrible hair with curly/wavy girl and I've finally settled on this formula:

• a hidden undercut to take the weight out and cut down styling time
• going back to using straighteners (I have ancient Cloud 9s and can use them to make it straight or wavy)
• Colorwow dream coat every second wash to keep the frizz at bay

I still have millions of flyaways that got much worse after having my youngest child and just never seem to grow out, but I can look semi decent with this combination (sorry it includes another product though).

Also, when I had a cupboard full of CG products I'd tried and given up on, I managed to sell them to get some money back (can't remember if it was on one of the CG Facebook pages or Ebay).

Currently sitting here with my hair scraped back and a big old halo of frizz around it because despite being able to style it sort of curly, it only lasts a day before it looks very weird indeed. Same as many posters: curls underneath and frizzy waves on top. Also pube like hair around my temples; as if I didn’t have enough problems. Oh and I turned grey in my 30s. You all have my sympathies and I totally understand!

Same, OP. My hair is curly, has never been my crowning glory, but was nice enough when I was younger. Now that I’m in my mid-40s it’s just shit. You can only work with what you have, and we don’t all have great hair, just like we don’t all have a great face or body.