Funeral wear 15yr old dd

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Can anyone help dress my dd - she doesn’t like flouncy, girly, frilly, flowery, tight clothes, anything that shows her chest or bra straps. She wears black bootleg trousers and black Nikes for school so I’m thinking I could just get her a top, something like a thick boxy T-shirt that looks smart ish? She’s a size 8 in places like new look, 5ft6.

edited to add, her favourite colour is pale blue if that’s an option. Thanks, I’m struggling with the headspace for this.

Not everyone would be talking behind her back. Those that are, are really not worrying about.

OP, some good suggestions upthread, I am sorry for your loss.

School uniform is the obvious answer or, if you're buying new, a shirt and/or jumper that could be worn to school in future.

Black shift dress (so not tight) black tights, black ballet flats. Sorted. Smart and simple.

You think a 15 year old should wear school uniform to her grans funeral?

OP, I don’t think asking on MN is representative of normal society. Your DD will be fine in her trousers and Nikes and a blue tshirt, bless her. Just whatever she’s comfortable in.

The last three funerals I went to have been very casual dress and low key, it’s the norm these days.

Sorry about your Mum x

It's 2025. Times have changed.

Most funerals I've been to in the last decade, including that of my very Catholic grandmother who had a 3 days set of ceremonies, have been much more casual affairs than I have been accustomed to.

Several families have asked us not to wear black at all, and others have asked us to come as if we were going to the pub with the deceased.

A 15yo is in no way required to turn up suited and booted.

Plain black trousers and a pale top is perfectly smart and appropriate.

Whatever she's comfortable in. A nice top or shirt and any trousers would be fine.
I wore a cream knitted sweater, flared jeans and cherry red DMs to my Dad's funeral at 13. People don't have to wear all black.

At 15 she should probably roughly follow what the adults wear at funerals for your family/culture. Though teenagers normally get a bit more leeway.

If people are generally wearing smart black clothes then she should do the same.

Black trousers and a black t-shirt/blouse/shirt/top with black shoes would be fine, as would a white shirt with a cardi or blazer over the top. If her school uniform is black or dark grey she could wear parts of that to save buying new.

She could wear a skirt or dress too. It doesn't need to be fitted or flouncy or expose anything. In fact a plain shift type dress would be smartest.

The last funeral I went to a young lad was part of the family, he wore black school trousers, white school shirt, black v-neck jumper (not his school one, just one he had), and a pair of borrowed black shoes, with a black tie. People commented that he looked smart.

I went to a funeral at 15 as part of the close family and wore a black maxi skirt with a dark purple pattern, black boots and tights, black cardigan and a dark purple top.

You haven't mentioned a request for colour so I assume it is a black (or dark grey / navy) kind of funeral. I would always suggest trying to be a bit on the smart side. My experience is that people smarten up to show respect and therefore avoid trainers, jeans, flip flops etc.

At that age my daughter already had a black with tiny white hearts skater dress which she liked and wore.

I'd say her black school trousers, a white/black/grey/pale colour top or t shirt and a thin black cardigan would be entirely appropriate (and similar to what I wear to funerals most of the time.)