How to look more glam ?

[chinesestirfry]

Just that really. At the hairdressers the other day, my hairdresser is quite a large lady but my god does she look glam and fabulous. I am a size 12 on top/14 on bottom and pear shaped with a small waist. All my clothes are old as I can never ever find anything new that looks good on me - that is, looks good on me AND is flattering. For example, I cannot wear jeans as they gape at the waist and are super tight on my thighs. Instead, I have black, stretchy, super soft skinny jean-lookalikes. They are perfect, but I have never found anything like them again so they are the only trousers I have and I dress them up or down for work or out out. Similarly, I have a pair of going out wedges I love (cant do heels these days), they work with my (only pair of aforementioned) trousers or a dress. But they are falling apart and becoming beyond repairable. But I have never ever seen anything else that I want to replace them with.

As I type this I am wearing a super comfy but very old cardigan. It has holes, I live in it and go out and about in town in it. I have never found anything else that I like as much.

I occasionally see things I like but they are never flattering. By flattering I mean slimming. I love jersey dresses but they are very few and far between these days

I’ve read a good haircut makes a difference and to add accessories and jewellery

I’d look on Roman, Live Unlimited Sainsburys Tu and sites like Debenhams, Next and FRASERS
( all sell various brands) Just filter by size, colour and category.
Popsy clothing has some lovely things and they do free alterations.
Next do capsule type wardrobe separates too.
Sounds like a decent cardigan or jacket might be your starting point. What is it you love about your current one? Shape, style, colour, texture? Great for at home like a cozy pair of slippers but sounds like a new one would be good.

If you like your hairstylist's clothes you could always ask her where she gets them from. A few years ago I told a lady in the bus queue I liked her clothes. She said she got them all from Vinted. On the bus she showed me the website on her phone. It was at a time when Vinted didn't do adverts. Nowadays I have a lot of things from there .I even got a designer dress for £3,I was going to a family party and I kept thinking that people will have spent much more on their dress than I have.

this has interested me. The hairdresser is glam but do you actually want to be glam? Or just find more clothes you love? With no shade a big cardi and stretchy trousers doesn’t sound glam, it sounds cosy and comfortable as do jersey dresses. So do you want to change up your look or just find better versions to update to?

there is also a mindset change re flattering = slimmer. Again this is me (I am bigger than you) and only
now at 50 am I taking a leaf out of my teenagers book and thinking flattering is something which makes my skin glow or I feel comfortable (and therefore confident in).

it can be really overwhelming to look in loads of shops and it’s easy to hone in on just trying to find replicas of what you have as that’s what you know. Maybe looking at a few insta accounts could be a starting point? What that’s helped me with is what a pp says - you can have pretty basic foundations then finish it off with jewellery, accessories etc. it’s the wearing vs styling stuff all over insta/youtube.

one recommendation I will make is halara for ‘jeans’. I have the wide legs from there and they are great - basically jeggings let’s face it but fit really well, are stretchy, comfy and are flattering (I have the big thigh/small waist issue too)

Sounds like you just need some new clothes.

Have you considered a personal stylist?
I think the right, flattering clothes can do wonders, and don’t underestimate the power of a good fitting bra. They can also do things like a colour analysis to find best shades for you…

For trousers that gape, you can get them altered at a drycleaner (with a seamstress) or someone local who does that sort of thing. It will cost £15-£20 but is worth it and would open up a lot of options for trousers / jeans.

If I find things I love I buy more - search the labels for past seasons and look on vinted and ebay. Often they are unused or barely worn. It’s like getting my old clothes back new!

Learn to sew. I often put darts in trousers or jeans as I have a small waist. It takes me under ten minutes. Clothes that fit properly will hang better.

Lots of YouTube videos for beginners.

I think wearing black, subtle animal print, gold jewellery, sun glasses, nice hair and nails can be quite glam but also simple.

In what way did she look “glam”?

It’s usually how a woman dresses, their hair, and eyebrows, that I consider “glam”.

Subtle things like jewellery, a light tan, and painted toenails always make me feel more glam, too

Book an appointment with John Lewis stylist. Chuck the cardi with holes in the bin today!

Came to say exactly this.

Surely there’s an alterations service somewhere in your vicinity? That’s how people get their clothes to fit. You buy the size to fit your biggest measurement and have the item tailored to fit the rest of you. Dresses, skirts, trousers, jeans … The prices will vary depending on area and complexity of alteration - but it’s worth it.