Is this top ok for a wedding?

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I realise it’s casual but I can manage that. I ask because it’s cream and floral embroidery.

Op you seem very unsure about yourself.

Wear whatever you want for goodness sakes

i loved the top

Im not sure at all. Im not uncertain in every day life - and not very conventional - nor bothered about fashion .

Also none of my friends would ever get that an outfit might not be “appropriate”, they’d think the question mad. So it’s sort of nice to get opinions, even a little fun to try pick something nice.

If you knew the history of the family you might appreciate my uncertainty. But good to realise I’m overthinking.

The second top would also be lovely with cream trousers <rule breaker >

It’s not very dressy; I’d wear it to work maybe.

Nice fabric but a really unflattering shape even on the model. I would not wear it to a wedding.

It would!

weird people - there’s nothing wrong with a white or cream top at a wedding, with bright or dark bottom half and accessories.

I’ve only ever heard of not being ‘allowed’ to wear white or cream to a wedding on MN. NEVER in real life!
If you like it then wear it! I would have thought the bride and groom would be more distracted about getting married rather than what top you’re wearing!

I grew up knowing the rule about not wearing white to a wedding and I certainly noticed the young woman who wore a white bare shoulder dress to my own wedding. This was 15 years ago and although I was slightly annoyed there was nothing I could do.

I mean white flowy dresses are probably frowned upon, everything else is fair game.

That's what I thought. I thought I was going mad with people liking it.

Same @LushLemonTarti mean, it’s fine…but it’s not wedding level.

I think the top would be fine with some colourful trousers/skirt and maybe a colourful necklace too

Only on MN do people try to police what people are wearing at a wedding.

NO ONE is going to mistake you for the bride. Wear what you want.

I wouldn’t want to waste a penny on attending the wedding of someone who seems to have caused you great uncertainty op!

Another vote for cream trousers for second top. I think wide legged ones this time. Maybe a Panama if you're feeling jaunty and brave. And bangles.

Only on MN do people try to police what people are wearing at a wedding.
NO ONE is going to mistake you for the bride. Wear what you want

I do absolutely agree with this sentiment but I actually saw a TikTok video today where a guest at a wedding in the US was asked to leave by the bride because she didn’t confirm to the dress code. She was wearing a perfectly standard blue print dress. It’s a new low for Bridezillas everywhere who appear to have forgotten what the purpose of the day is. Mentalism.

I have the first top posted in the OP and while I do like it, it is absolutely massive. If you do order it, then I’d suggest sizing down.

It’s fine! I would wear it with a brightly coloured skirt or trousers and a colourful necklace.

I always thought the ‘no white’ rule was just not head-to-toe white.

The rule about not wearing white or cream is not just a mumsnet thing at all, I'd heard of this years before joining mumsnet. Some people genuinely won't care what guests wear, but there will always be some who do and will judge a person for wearing white/cream to wedding. I'd rather not be that person to be honest, there so many other summery colours to choose from.

Why were you annoyed? I simply don't understand what possible effect this had on your day.

That might have been me 😳😆 I wore a beige and light pink strapless top and matching skirt to a wedding when I was a lot younger. Wore it to two weddings in fact. One of the brides asked me what colour it was and where I bought it from. Looking back, I now realise why she was drawing attention to my outfit but I was oblivious at the time. Very much ignorance rather than malice. Mind you, it doesn't make up for critical remarks she made about my wedding to other guests. That was a very definite choice.

Just don’t wear something that might upset someone, when there are so many clothes in the world

I agree. Isn't it time the UK dragged itself into the modern world? All this "socially acceptable" attire for weddings and funerals is ridiculous.

Many countries have socially acceptable attire for weddings and funerals.

It’s good manners to abide by these