Fat & Ugly

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I have for a while felt fat and ugly. I don't like what I see in the mirror and don't understand why my husband is with me. I have 2 children but don't feel that is an excuse. I have always battled with my weight but it hasn't bothered me as much as it does now. If I say to anyone they think I am just trying to get a compliment when that is the last thing I want, I just want help as I don't seem to be able to do it by myself.
Diets don't work for me as it makes me want to eat more.
I have a big chest and clothes don't look good on me.
Anyone got any ideas?

Lots of people would give their eye-teeth for a big chest!

What is your hair like? That's always a good place to start, I think - a good haircut with perhaps some summery highlights can do wonders for your self esteem.

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don't worry navigator. I feel exactly the same way sometimes, but less and less often now...

do the trinny and susannah thing on the littlewoods website, get an idea of styles that look ok. then use a bit of cash to get some basics (£100 goes a long way in primark) once you feel a little more confident in your clothes, then start doing the GI diet - very filling, nutritious, and stops that sugar high/low thing. with both my children I put on about 4 stone (should be about 9.5 - 10.5 to be healthy). it comes off slowly, but well, without feeling deprived, with the GI Diet.

after being size 20 (ok 22) just after DS2 was born, I'm now a 16 and can start going to a wider range of shops, and into some of my between-pregnancies summer clothes. it feels good. if it happened to me it can happen for you

the thing to do is feel a little more confident through more flattering clothes, then you feel positive about being able to change, and feel more healthy physically and mentally.

great- VP cross-posted the T&S calculator.

I've got big boobs (36E) now since the DSs were born, and they are great in a good fitting bra. I can recommend fantaisie and freya for a good lift for big-uns.

keep talking on this thread, don't feel low on your own

Thank you to all who replied. My hair gets done regularly and has highlights it is more the clothes and shape of me. I will try the littlewoods website though and will have a look at the GI diet to see if that helps.
Thank you again
x

i must say even when I was very slim I hated clothes shopping. T&S really helped me with that misery of trying something on and looking like a moose. now I know - wide legged trousers, long skirt - looks great without time or angst.

You need a fabulous bra. Really. Go somewhere decent like bravissimo and book a fitting.

I know I keep popping up on threads extolling the virtues of the Carol Vorderman detox but really, I can't recommend highly enough. After having my 2nd dc in December, I felt frumpy and fat - not helped by the fact it was winter, plus having an active toddler to care for, and no family close by (they're on teh other side of the bloody world) meant that I had no 'me' time. My hair was (still is) a mess, my wardrobe wa foul, my skin ws okay but greyish and sallow ... you get the picture. Did the detox, lost a stone, feel fantastic, loads of energy, glowy skin, and really felt good about doing something for ME. Every salad I prepared was about ME, you know? I spend so much time making my sure my kids eat the right stuff, yet was totally neglecting myself - stupid really. I am now wearing short dresses again for the first time in years, it's really done loads for my confidence. Give it a go. Tip: don't pay full price for the book in case it's not for you, bu one off Amazon marketplace.