Quick visit and change? Train, Theatre and dinner

[Sladequeen]

As above
I’m going to a show on valentines weekend, travelling by train so want to travel light.
ordinarily I’d be happy to go for food and show in my travelling clothes but with it being valentines I’m thinking I ought to make more effort but don’t want to make that much effort for trains and tube etc
im thinking go in travel clothes and change at hotel for dinner but when does that fit in time for valentines lingerie thing ,
I’m not good at logistics, so do I wear the lingerie to travel (feels grimy) and then switch into going out dress at the hotel?
or lingerie after show and dinner? Knowing dp, food and show won’t leave much space for sexy time
is it too much to try and fit in dressing up and makeup etc for dinner too?
we’re travelling to arrive at lunchtime and leaving mid morning next day.
sorry for word salad, thinking as I type and it’s early following more travel last night.
packing light and planing are not my area of expertise and valentines is adding an extra conundrum

You staying the night so surely shower and get ready in the hotel? Check in is usually 3pm so plenty of time to get ready. . What am I missing?

Cannot believe I’m answering this - it’s only because the effort and uncertainty of train + hotel + events is all too familiar.

Why, in God’s name, can you not, having travelled in travel clothes, change into your lingerie and dress at the hotel? Then you wear the whole ensemble for your evening out. You’re surely not going to say the lingerie won’t fit underneath? Because in that case you would be guilty of exceptionally poor planning and I’d have almost () no sympathy for you.

It's pretty easy...
Arrive
Mooch around until check-in
Sexy time (your words 🤮)
Get ready
Go out

your train arrives at lunchtime, show is 7:30 and you’re doing a pre-theatre meal at, say, 6?

To me is seems obvious that the order of events would be get off train, have v light lunch given dinner will be early, check into hotel at about 3, have sex, shower and go for dinner.

If you need sexy lingerie to get you in the mood for sex then you’d better wear it on the train! But, presuming you are happy in your relationship, usually an afternoon hotel room does the trick!

What? You get there at midday. Get into your fancy knickers when you change for dinner.

I don't understand the conundrum at all.

Maybe it's a pearl thong.

Bracli Pearl (Instrument of Torture) Thong

[ Not that I've tried it, but it looks like torture]

I’m not clicking that!

Lol, love the responses especially the vomit emoji, am tongue in cheek with ‘sexy time’ 🤮

I have cognitive, visual and physical impairment, probably should have said earlier but was typing in a hurry.
Task initiation and planning are exceptionally hard when coupled with travelling and public transport, hence need for step by step planning and asking people who might do this sort of thing more frequently than I.
in my own town I would have no problem planning dinner and theatre wear but I won’t be travelling over and underground for half a day prior and wouldn’t be setting off first thing in the morning wearing what I plan to wear to a romantic meal later that night. Nor would I wear {possibly fetish} underwear to travel for hours and turn up to my date feeling all crumpled, also I don’t want to spend loads of time on our arrival / trip changing outfits .

I want to leave no stone unturned in order to feel in control of the situation because of my challenges, plus the lingerie choices are impactful on what I wear on top or vice versa, eg stockings aren’t conducive to short skirt in public places or under jeans for example due to visible stocking tops / suspender clips etc

Wear comfortable clothes and comfortable underwear on train. Change into going out clothes and going out underwear when you check in at hotel- go out.

If the "underwear" isn't real underwear change into going out clothes, and if you feel you want to, clean normal underwear - go out. Change into the the bedroom "underwear" when you get back to hotel.

Is this a new partner? It sounds quite pressured. I in my very long standing relationship would have sex the next day rather than try to fit it into a packed timetable, but you do you.

Thanks that’s really helpful.

I have to do this every time I go away, not just for romantic purposes , for any transition, whether weekend, holiday, traveling to new space, I usually use chat gpt type thing but just wanted to get some real people perspective ref clothing changes rather than ai l.
i can’t multi quote messages but there’s no pressure ref sex I just like to know where I stand with everything, it is part of my condition, if it doesn’t happen until the next day or not at all, that is all acceptable, I just need to be prepared for any situation where possible or it causes me confusion which i don’t need on top of travelling .
as long as i feel prepared for anything then the transition is more manageable.
I don’t want to miss out on life enhancing experiences just because of my disabilities.

perhaps coming to a space for able bodied neurotypical people and asking for advice is my mistake , but thanks @PullTheBricksDown you keep doing you too, it’s a lovely thing you do