How do you "find your style"?

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Has anyone successfully "found their style" after having a baby?

If so how did you do it please? I follow many fashion bloggers but I just can't seem to find a style that suits me and that I also like. I also (like most of us) don't have endless money to spend on clothes! I have a few nice things that I like and that I think suit me but I struggle with putting vaguely stylish outfits together these days especially considering I don't go anywhere that fancy!

Doesn't help that I am also 8 weeks pregnant with my second so I have all of that ahead of me but I'm hoping to be able to put a few nice outfits together thing time around that I feel good in.

I don't think I dress frumpy, old-fashioned or scruffy by any means but I just don't really feel like I have a "style" anymore , or know where to shop, whereas I did before having a child. Whenever I buy things online they end up getting sent back and it all feels a bit exhausting. Lockdowns, pregnancy, post-partum and working from home all happened and then I felt like the world had moved on without me and I don't really how to dress.

A few thing I am considering:

John Lewis personalised shopper service. I've heard this is good and free?

Colour analysis. I've always wanted this done and wonder if it will help guide me a bit when choosing clothes as it can feel overwhelming!

Any helpful advice or tips!?

I've found this youtube channel really helpful https://www.youtube.com/@UseLess_dk/videos

She is based in Denmark and advocates so-called slow fashion, where you make fewer but more considered purchases. She's built up a library of videos about how to find out what your personal style is, what your colours are and create a capsule wardrobe to match.

By find your style do you mean find a specific look / tribe? Obvious examples being "the Toasties" in the Toast appreciation threads or the " looks glossy" stuff-or do you mean clothes you enjoy wearing?

I've never used a personal stylist but John. Lewis one gets much mentioned on here.

I wouldn't touch colour analysis with several bargepoles. I don't think it does anything beyond limiting choices and narrowing opportunities for wearing clothes you'd otherwise like-. It leads to the
"that's beautiful but I'm a cool, soft autumn and only warm, hard springs can wear that" syndrome

I just buy what I like, you can't discover your style by watching others.

Once you know your style that can help find products.

I found my style by tuning out other influences.

I’ve had the same simple, classic style since I was a teenager and used to get a lot of “lamb dressed as mutton” comments so would try to branch out into something more interesting.

A few years ago threw out all the interesting clothes and only kept the clothes I’d buy if I didn’t care what other people thought.

It’s incredibly freeing not to give a shit about anyone else’s opinions. I guess my advice is just to shop and buy what you are drawn to without worrying about what image you’re projecting.

I was 44 years old when I learnt this and wish someone had told me when I was 14!

I agree with your comment on colour analysis to an extent, as in I don't think you should trust someone else to do this for you. I think it's possible to do your own colour analysis, as in figure out what colours/ colour schemes you feel most comfortable with, what makes you happy or grounded when you wear it for example and then come up with a personal colour palette that you always work from when buying anything new. This way everything in your wardrobe works together and you don't have to think twice about what to wear in the morning. It was a bit of a process to get here, but now I am finally happy with the system I've worked out for myself and it's a real pleasure getting dressed, rather than a chore and a stressful experience first thing of the day. Each to their own of course, just something that has worked really well for me and I know many others who swear by it too

Thanks for all the replies.

@IHaveAlwaysLivedintheCastle I don't so much mean a certain look/tribe. I'm not sure how to articulate what I mean, really. I look in my wardrobe and it all feels a bit random and not put together. I'm fairly indecisive in life so it's probably in line with my personality 😂

I think I used to have a certain look/consistent style when I was in my 20s. I'm 36 now and somewhere along the way I grew out of that style and didn't really find a consistent way of dressing that I like and also suits me. I don't think it helps that a lot of what's in the shops/in fashion just doesn't suit me so I'm never sure where to shop anymore that's within budget. I like the oversized look but a lot of it swamps me and I don't look right, also a lot of the muted tones/neutrals or dark duller colours which are in most shops like black/navy/dark brown just don't suit me and wash me out.

I find summer a lot easier but I struggle so much with winter and transitional dressing.

I had my colours done as a present and found it amazing. The lady showed me colours that suited me, ideas on making outfits from clothes i had bought along, I was advised on styles. I went on a trip to the shops with her and she did a make up session with me. Rather than finding it restricting the information is useful as I know which colours suit me. That was a good few years ago and nowadays I do not buy anything that does not suit me. I don't spend a lot on clothes as I love going to charity shops nd people often tell me they like my clothes.