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[Singleaftermarriage]

I'm fed up with a lot of my clothes and want a bit of a revamp.
I'm 5ft 10, 34f chest, size 14, apple shaped, no bum, long legs and 45. I have no idea what I like or how to dress. I feel like I'm stuck in my late 20s, early 30s. I want to look more grown up but not middle aged. I'm a single parent with limited funds but can buy a few key pieces. I need tall or extra long trousers.
Any ideas on shops or online sellers that would have clothes suitable??
Thank you

more grown up but not middle aged

Hmm …

I think you may struggle until you shift your perspective on middle age. You’re 45 - that’s probably, definitely middle aged; so whether you wear a £1k Saint Laurent leather mini skirt, or a £100 Nobody’s Child frock, or a £15k fake fur Phoebe Philo coat, or a £30 Primark anorak you will be dressing like a middle age person. But not all of them - just one - wearing whatever she wants to wear.

I like Zara and Mango. River Isand leg lengths are often quite good and I have long length Zara jeans. M&S are good for leg length.

Have you tried M&S?
They do different leg lengths in trousers and I find a lot of their clothing is lined so hangs much better.
I don’t want to look like a 24 year old though, if I did I’d be wearing cheap, ill fitting clothing from shein. I don’t mean that in a condescending way either. When I was 24 wearing short, tight clothing wasn’t a problem. There is no way I’d go out in see through polyester now.
I also use a lot of independent shops as they tend to display their items better and have more unusual items.

I’d have a look at Melissa Murrell on YouTube or Insta. She gets recommended a lot but that’s because she and team have a knack of finding nice high street pieces and putting together simple, trendy looks - but as she says herself it’s all about how you style an outfit head to toe, not just the individual items.

This ^

Middle aged clothes are literally defined by what middle aged people (i.e. you) are wearing.