If you're 40 ish, 5'7, athletic /bottom heavy- what outfit makes you feel amazing?

[thenewaveragebear1983]

I've lost my way with clothes, totally. A combination of weight loss/ gain/ loss , working from home, dog walking and sports, and a couple of years of feeling pretty crappy from peri and anaemia I've basically given up on myself. I'm clean and I keep my hair coloured but other than that I pretty much live in trackies, sports wear and big jumpers. I chuck on a big coat to go to school. I feel like a scruffy mess, none of my clothes fit me properly and I just look at myself and think my belly looks huge, or my arms, or I don't have the right shoes, or just something like that. I have absolutely loads of clothes as well, lots of jeans and dresses. I just don't know how to wear anything any more. I see myself on teams calls and I just think what must everyone think of me, I feel totally invisible and I'm ready to be seen again.

I need a glow up basically, I feel miserable and old before my time, I look like a farmers wife and not in a cute fairisle jumper and Barbour way, in a 'mud on my clothes and just walked the dog in the rain' kind of way.

Please be kind. I've typed this post multiple times and not posted it. I'd love some inspiration and ideas, please hit me with your favourite outfit ideas- I'm 5'7, 10-12 on bottom and 8-10 top.

I would like to see people’s answers to this too, as I am a similar size and circumstances. Solidarity 😊

@user1467300911 🤣 we can just hang out here together until someone swoops down to help us out!

I did go through a phase of wearing high waisted mom style jeans, but I've regained a little weight (all on my tummy) so now they look like maternity jeans. 😢

Style wise I like quite classic things, nothing too flouncy or bold. I like dresses and look good in them (midi length is good, or actually I can carry off a shorter skirt as I have decent legs from running miles) , but I never know what to wear over them or on my feet.
I don't own a pair of boots for example, and every year I go and try to get a cute pair of brown leather boots but they make my calves look chunky and I never buy any.

I think I need a rethink of my actual style, maybe grow it up a bit. I need belts. Decent shoes. I also really really struggle for tops. I am almost completely flat chested but I have quite broad shoulders, my shoulders and arms are quite toned actually but they make me feel big.