Help-bought expensive earrings and can’t wear them!

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DH bought me a Selfridges voucher for my birthday. I don’t have many pairs of earrings as I have sensitive ears and can only usually tolerate solid gold/platinum or nickel free so I thought I’d use the voucher to get myself some solid gold hoops. Added some of my own money to the voucher and bought a pretty pair of small gold hoops. Online order.

I can’t get them in. I’ve tried and tried but the bar that you put through the hole is curved (deliberately) and also quite thick so I can just about get it in the front of my ear lobe but it won’t come out of the back. I’ve been trying on and off for days but I can’t wear them. My ears are also now really sore!

Any ideas or do I just have to accept that I’ve thrown good money and a birthday present down the drain? Whilst they’re personally unsatisfactory, I don’t think I could argue they were faulty. I’m gutted.

So, any tips on either how to get them in my ears or what to do with them?

There's a knack to it but it's difficult to explain...

You'll get there someday hopefully! Might be easier if you can get someone else to do it for you. DH could try?

I was given some earrings for a birthday. The posts were much thicker than all my others, and I just couldn’t wear them. The jeweller (posh chain) were spectacularly unhelpful.

A small local jeweller replaced the posts for me. Must have been about £40, and this is somewhere well known for quality - so I was really surprised at the low price.

You can buy ear stretcher kits. Obviously these go up to huge sizes but you will only need the first couple. I have three piercings in one ear and wanted to get a spiral to go between them but it was chunky and very awkward so impossible without expanding the holes.

I’m pretty sure a piercer can slightly enlarge the size of your piercing using a lance and put them in for you. You would then wear them continuously for long enough for your ears to permanently adapt to them. I’d let them heal and feel a little less sore first though.

Get your piercings redone?

I always do this to help slide the earing about until you find the exit hole- lick your thumb and forefinger and then rub them front and back of your ear. It seems to work.

Try putting them in from the back of the lobe first to stretch the back of the hole

I do this too, also make sure you have been wearing earrings for a day or so before trying to put them in to make sure the holes are very open

Yeah I’d be pushing them in until they went in! They will be sore for a few days but it’ll settle.

Thanks very much. I will definitely try the tips to get them in. Asking a jeweller to replace the post to a thinner one might also be a good last resort before I abandoned them forever.

I can’t get hoops with a curve in either, I had a pair of hoops that were my grandmothers that she left to me and I couldn’t get them in, my local jeweller altered them slightly so there was a straight bit with a stud at the back instead but still look like hoops when you’ve got them in. It wasn’t expensive at all.

Vaseline. I usually stick the tips of earrings into Vaseline, because of similar issues.

I also wet my ear holes to help earings slide in.

There’s definitely a knack with curved posts.

leave it for today because if you have sensitive ears and have been trying they’ll be a bit swollen.

tomorrow try again: it’s an angle issue, you need to position the hoop upwards at the back so the post goes in at less of an angle.