Heavy vs light make up debate

[pussinboots61]

I wear make up every day - foundaton, eyeliner, mascara and lipstick (usually doubled up as a blusher). I like defined eyes, brown eyeliner but not overdone) and nude shade of lipsticks.

A friend of mine wears heavy make up, meaning heavy foundation, plus powder, very dark and bright lipstick. That's fine, each to their own. However, she keeps telling me I look like I'm not wearing make up. She advises me to use powder, put on more foundation etc. She also advised me to quit the glowy make up and says she can't see why women 'want to glow'.

We are both in our sixties. i like to look like I'm wearing make up and making an effort and now I feel like it looks like I don't. My friend, however, I feel wears too much make up, it looks very cakey and she often has the orange line around her neck. I don't say anything to her as I feel its up to her.

I haven't used powder for years as it dries my already dry skin and I think it looks too ageing. Who is in the right here, should I be layering more make up on? How can I look as if I am wearing it without going over the top?

Why are you listening to a friend? It doesn’t sound like you like each other very much tbh as you’ve commented on her choice of make up in your post. Wear as much or little make up as you feel comfortable with and this comes from someone who has a full face of make up on every day. If any of my friends ever commented on my make up they’d be told where to go.

I haven't and wouldn't tell her that her make up is too heavy, that's up to her what she does but she comments on mine and I am just wondering now if I am too sparse with it, though I do see myself as wearing full make up.

It is not a 'heavy make up' vs 'light make up' debate. It is a 'friend insulting you' vs 'you allowing your friend to insult you' debate.

Also, to be fair, you have come on here pretty explicitly insulting your friend [albeit not to her face]. You don't honestly think everyone is going to say 'Yes, we agree with your friend, plaster on heavy orange makeup and look really dated and over-done', do you? So less of the faux naïve 'I am just wondering now if I am too sparse with it?'.

So you think she overdoes it and it looks cakey and orange etc yet when she says you don’t wear enough, you wonder if you should wear more (even though you don’t want to)? That makes no sense.

You both like different styles of make-up.
No problem here, just tell your friend that.

Different styles for different people
She's cheeky to force her opinions on you tho
Perhaps brush her off once she starts down the makeup chat route or hand wave and say "isn't it funny how we're all different" or something similar
As an aside I absolutely love Lisa Eldridge's videos on YouTube for mature skin.