Is it in poor taste to wear 'statement' jewellery to a funeral?

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I'm not even sure what people wear these days, whether formal black is too formal or whether this never changes. (I know there's black and black - black chinos and jeans both looked too casual.)
Anyway, friend's DH has died, funeral coming up, and I'm planning on wearing a black suit jacket and smart black trousers, white linen top and black ankle boots. I do like a brooch and often wear one on jackets & coats. I have a black and silver marcasite one but it's quite big (2 inches long). I don't want to be 'look at me' but OTOH my outfit is hellish boring, although that's not the end of the world, and the brooch would lift it. I could wear a silver necklace instead. Friend is likely to be dressed quite formally. What do you think?

If it’s a formal funeral it’s a little bit questionable taste, but not to the extent that people will remark on it. Boring is the right look.

Much as I love a brooch, I'd pass. It's better to be hellishly boring and go unnoticed.
I may be tempted to slip the brooch into my handbag though, just in case I had to pop into Waitrose on the way home. 😉

I agree that it's the ultimate "don't make it about you " event where should dress in a way that means you blend in. So I wouldn't wear it.

And I love statement jewellery

I keep jewellery plain for funerals (pearl earrings or plain studs, a fine chain eg)

Boring look is fine at a funeral.

I think it is absolutely fine.

If what you are wearing is so safe that you might be mistaken for catering staff at the wake, jewellery is OK.
I actually think your brooch sounds fine on a restrained outfit

I wore a Whitby jet brooch yesterday (to an interview) - as jet became very fashionable for Victorian mourning jewellery, it would be very appropriate for a funeral.

Black and silver sounds okay to me. If it were bright enamels or something, then less so. However, if you have doubts, you might not feel comfortable wearing it, in whuch case, don't.

I think it sounds fine. Could you post a pic of it, on the jacket so we can see how much it stands out and how big it is?

If I need to think about it I don't do it

What's the silver necklace like? I'm sure the brooch is perfectly acceptable and nobody will be offended but plain is absolutely fine for a funeral, even if more sombre than you'd usually wear

I actually asked ChatGPT this question recently as my very simple black outfit looks so good with an opera length chunky amber necklace.

It suggested not in the best taste especially as I was giving the eulogy.

Somber and demure is more respectful.

That said if I was going to my Mothers funeral she would expect a touch of flamboyance.

Boring is usually a safe choice for a funeral. That said, it depends on the occasion and you're the only one who knows what your fried might want. For my mum's we told people to wear colour, if they wanted, as we wanted to try to make it a celebration of her life. And although I hope we have decades before it happens, I know that for my most stylish friend, when the time comes I would really want to make an effort to chose an outfit she would admire.

Sounds fine, it’s not ‘novelty’.

Two inches is not very big and it sounds entirely appropriate for the occasion. Nothing wrong with being stylish and put together at a funeral.

Most funerals I've been to lots of people don't wear black or even formal clothing. I wore a navy blue suit for my dad's funeral and had a brooch on the lapel. He loved blue.

I went to an exs funeral in my best.
I didnt want to take his shine away it was his day.

Funeral jewellery is traditionally black stones, pearls or white stones. The brooch sounds very "Victorians at a funeral" and I would wear it but only you know the context.

No, not at all.

I can't imagine ever being upset because someone wore a brooch at a funeral.

I think it's in slightly bad taste - the focus should be on remembering the passed and supporting the grieving, I wouldn't want to give the impression I was trying to be really stylish or "look at me".

Unless stated, I would avoid statement jewellery. It is a funeral so understated dress code is usually the safest way to go.

Have you a picture of the brooch? It doesn't at all sound like it would stand out in a bad way.

It's a brooch, not nipple tassels - it will be fine. People will be too caught up in remembering the person at the service and then catching up with friends and family afterwards to give your brooch a second glance. Or at least, they should be.

I think statement jewellery at a funeral is only appropriate if it's been requested.

FIL bought both his DIL's and his granddaughters a piece of statement jewellery when he retired. His sons and grandsons he bought something related to a shared hobby they all have. We wore the jewellery to his funeral as it was fitting

If it's statement enough that anyone will be thinking "look at her brooch" then it's not suitable for a funeral imo. Boring is fine for a funeral.