I’m lost. Please dress me

[Ohhawtdang]

I’m mid 30s
5’2
hourglass
larger size 12, hoping to get to a large ten, small 12.
big boobs.

I want to look a bit more put together but not high fashion. Right now I’d say I’m sporting the zero fucks given horse mum vibe. I’m a mess. I want to be smarter when I can. I love a dress, and am eyeing up nobodies child types, but I’m hesitant because, does the cut age me if I’m not tall and slender? I feel like drawn towards more old money, very low key, hate big logos etc, but high quality items but then stumble because, I feel short and frumpy.

please dress me so I can stop living in jods and oversized Ts and the occasional floaty dress

I am a similar age and shape/size just a little smaller.

My base is always a really good pair of jeans as in, good for my shape and size- GAP are good, Levi's and M&S. For me I like a Mom jeans for a more casual look and a flare for a bit smarter- these in a good cut/shape are the basis on every outfit.

For casual I wear with a quality T shirt- not see through and again focus on fit. If you're an hourglass experiment with tucked in/untucked/french tuck to see what works with your shape.

For smarter I would update with a good blouse type top- I wear Sezane Chlo to work but these are pretty high maintenance as 100% silk.

My secret weapon to looking put together but casual is Sezane cardigans- the Emile/Basile are chunky and comfy casual, whereas a Barry/Gaspard is more delicate and can emphasise shape more if you buy a smaller size. I rarely buy any of it direct from Sezane due to £££! It holds it's resale value well but if you become a good Vinted stalker and keep watch for specific styles you can find some great stuff- I once bought a. Cardigan new with tags for £40 when it was still a a available for £130 on the website! I also love Boden double layer vests as a base for the knitwear as they look so quality.

Then for shoes I have tan ballet flats, a quality pair of white trainers and Birkenstocks and use the shoes to upgrade/downgrade smartness as required!

I would focus on finding shapes that work for you and then building a kind of recipe- jeans- T- cardigan that works for your shape and start buying stuff that fits in those categories

Argh I can't edit on the app but type "just a little taller" NOT smaller!!!

Gosh I hate ballet flats- fat wide feet. What about a loafer maybe? Again though worried about aging myself. Maybe some Fairfax and favour boots to go with the dresses?

Ive got a really lovely figure but I find it so hard to dress, being short just makes it so easy for clothes to widen me, I put on a light knit jumper this morning and immediately felt like shit.

is it impossible to look really smart if you’re not thin?