14 year old girl wedding guest outfit

[Borris]

Please help my sanity and save our relationship. We're going to a wedding in a couple of months.

Basically DD likes anything short and tight which I have vetoed as is not wedding appropriate. Everything she has picked out looks more suited to a nightclub.

She has now gone full flounce and suggesting she wears either a cardboard box or something out of pride and prejudice.

Please can you find something that will satisfy us both. She is slim build 5 ft 5 and it can't be green as that is bridesmaids colour.

so I am much shorter that your DD but I often only wear short skirts and dresses because I am so short and wearing maxis just makes me look silly. When I need something more suitable and formal I opt for a high/low dress, long a the back and either shorter at the front a side.

I am not suggesting this actual dress but this the type of thing I mean Formal Dresses Follow Me High-Low Floral Layered Gown Maxi Dress For Wedding Vacation (shopcider.com)

this is poss too much for a 14 yo but you get the idea
Wedding Guest Dress Puff Sleeve Dress Coquette Satin Floral Puff Sleeve Midi Dress For Vacation (shopcider.com)

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Have a look on asos for something floral or similar. Not black, dont wear black to a wedding

Buy her an Elizabeth Bennett costume and call her bluff?

Hi - I feel your pain.

I reckon there is a lot of choice here

https://www.hollisterco.com/shop/uk/womens-dresses-and-rompers

good luck!!

My 14 year old niece wore this to my wedding over the summer, maybe compromise with a longer dress but with cardi or bolero jacket?

My dd has this in green but plenty of colours available. It is very short but because it has a skort it's very secure

https://www.hollisterco.com/shop/uk/p/hollister-sofia-drop-waist-skort-dress-57709319

Could she wear a bodycon dress with a jacket over the top? There might be a jacket that would be a compromise of sorts. I would look at plt. Recently my daughter chose a long slim maxi skirt with a split up, and a boob tube top, I think if you put a jacket over that sort of style, and some heels, it would look smart enough.

Do you have a specific budget limit, I hope you don’t mind me asking ? If she likes brands (I don’t mean Dior types Ha, for instance several PP have mentioned Hollister, which depends on the teen whether they love or hate really - although the dresses look tiny, their models to tend to be super tall though, so it could be a good try), might be worth negotiating buying a ‘favorite brand’ (and compromise!) dress that she’ll be able to use in the future, could take away from the focus on the wedding, like ‘this is your opportunity to get a nice dress you like, these are my non negotiables’. There should be many options really

Have a look at shein co ord section for long skirt/ body con top type set, in a colour like mocha or royal blue, compromise on a jacket to go over the top, heels bag and hair done. Minimal make up and small jewellery.

My DD, 15, wore this in the flowery blue to a wedding recently. She's only 5ft and petite so the length was quite respectable.

I agree with you. I was a size 6-8 (but they rarely had those sizes only petite older women ranges. I had boobs too. My thighs, hips I thought were huge (they were nothing of the sort). I’m sure I wore an 80s floral Laura Ashley to a family friends blended family wedding. They’re divorced now…

Could it be that she consider this as her opportunity to get herself a nice “party dress “ ? Reassure her that it will be something for family occasions and that you will buy her a nice party dress of her choice for other events.

My nieces both ended up independently wearing quiz dresses to a family wedding we went to earlier in the year - having a look now the mini dresses are probably a bit shorter than you'd want but there are some nice midi dresses that should hopefully work for both of you.
https://www.quizclothing.co.uk/en-GB/red-red-bardot-ruched-wrap-midi-dress-p-273349
https://www.quizclothing.co.uk/en-GB/black-black-floral-print-satin-ruched-midi-dress-p-272698
https://www.quizclothing.co.uk/en-GB/berry-curve-raspberry-satin-ruched-wrap-midi-dress-p-272463

Alternatively for something very different, popsy has some fun dresses that also look comfy to wear... for example if she likes Harry Potter/wizarding, there's a tulip shaped dress that might work as something completely different...
https://www.popsyclothing.co.uk/collections/tulip-dress/products/albertina-wizards-spells-print-dress

www.asos.com/prd/205690432?acquisitionsource=pasteboard

www.asos.com/prd/207280016?acquisitionsource=pasteboard

What about something like this that has the "short" vibe but with an overdress that makes it a bit less out there? https://www.hollisterco.com/shop/wd/p/crochet-style-midi-dress-57044321?categoryId=12600&faceout=model&seq=01

How about a jumpsuit?

This kind of thing looks wedding appropriate (although no small sizes left)
https://www.quizclothing.co.uk/en-GB/pale-blue-light-blue-frill-culotte-jumpsuit-p-170593

https://www.quizclothing.co.uk/en-GB/mint-mint-textured-chiffon-frill-jumpsuit-p-259835

https://www.newlook.com/uk/womens/clothing/playsuits-jumpsuits/mela-blue-ditsy-floral-wide-leg-crop-jumpsuit/p/890615049

or this dress from hollister

https://www.hollisterco.com/shop/uk/p/smocked-waist-midi-dress-56681824?categoryId=85292&faceout=model&seq=01

Just let her wear what she wants. No one decent will judge a 14yo's style anyway

Oh dear God. That wizard spell dress - I’m 71 and wouldn’t wear that. It’s hideous.