Outfit for Muslim wedding

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I have been by a Muslim colleague to her wedding in mid-September and am looking for help on what to wear. I appreciate that my "usual " wedding guest outfits would not be appropriate and don't want to upset or offend.
I am 5ft 5 and size 8/10 if that helps.
I did a quick Google for suitable wedding outfits and found this which I think is lovely but not sure if too fitted / sheer ?
As wedding is only about 3 weeks away it also needs to arrive on time!

m.rotita.com/rotita-patchwork-dusty-blue-long-scoop-neck-jumpsuit-g352669.html?currency=GBP&source=google&campaign=20978275369&creative=&gad_source=1&gclid=CjwKCAjwiaa2BhAiEiwAQBgyHp2SD2tSXCqHw1n7ES6f0pNcZvQIBJ9KvybZX8HPTITzynnIeHL1wRoCY_kQAvD_BwE

rotita.com patchwork dusty blue long scoop neck jumpsuit

Any help or suggestions appreciated.

Budget £75-£100.

Many thanks 😊

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That's a beautiful outfit and appropriate.

I think it largely depends on what sort of wedding it is, what the background of the bride is. Some Muslim weddings (Pakistani) are very blingtastic! But then I guess you'd want to wear the dress again? Personally I'd go for a maxi dress. Some options below -

www.asos.com/prd/205245801?acquisitionsource=pasteboard (personally love this one)

www.asos.com/prd/206146392?acquisitionsource=pasteboard

www.asos.com/prd/205870992?acquisitionsource=pasteboard

www.asos.com/prd/206694053?acquisitionsource=pasteboard

Also this -

www.asos.com/prd/205634528?acquisitionsource=pasteboard

And this if you're feeling flamboyant 😂

www.asos.com/prd/206031373?acquisitionsource=pasteboard

I'd be careful of the quality you'd get from a £30 jumpsuit. But the style seems appropriate

The outfit is lovely but only buy it if you're going wear it again. People of the Muslim faith living in the UK see other people's skin every day and don't fall down dead. The faith is about being modest yourself not dictating the clothing of people of other faiths or none.

You colleague has invited you, a non Muslim to her wedding and sees what you wear everyday. I am guessing she has also invited her other non Muslim friends to her wedding. I pretty sure she and her family and friends are well used to working and socialising with non Muslim people. This being the case, I am 99% certain that if your outfit isn't over the top on the skin showing front - which after all is what is most people would think appropiate for any church wedding, it would be fine for this wedding.

That being the case, if you have already have something suitable, wear it. If you want something new buy it.

What's the background for the wedding - is it a blingtastic party or a formal religious ceremony?

As a general rule of thumb, I'd say, if in doubt, cover cleavage, shoulders and knees. If it's at a mosque, there are sometimes rules about taking shoes off - in which case, you might want to think about your preferences re: tights, pedicure, nail polish, etc. Also, watch out for shoe thieves! (Yes, it's a thing...)

If you have outfits you want feedback on, there's also the Muslim Mumsnetters board, where we'd be happy to try to help there too.

Remember that your friend has invited you, and will just be happy to have you there - you don't have to pretend to be someone or something you're not.

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https://laam.pk/products/aizel-maroon?ds=v&feat=cl&ver=v24

I had to get a few for an up coming wedding in deceber. Here are the ones I got

https://mohagni.com/products/mgs-10-2pc-maxi?variant=41051362820205

https://mohagni.com/products/mgs-07?variant=40734972575853

and my favourite

https://laam.pk/products/raniya-5?ds=v&feat=cl&ver=v24

What is the colleague’s background, and where is the wedding? As all of that makes a huge difference on how to dress.

Also, watch out for shoe thieves! (Yes, it's a thing...)

I would also suss this out as if so, wear shoes you don’t mind ‘losing’. I’ve had this happen at both temples where you need to remove shoes and general parties at people’s houses where they don’t allow shoes in. One of my kids had 3 pairs taken while doing a martial art sport where they needed to remove shoes and leave them in shoe cupboards in the foyer, in the end they used to go in from the car bear foot. Basically, absolutely any environment where you need to remove shoes and don’t carry them around, wear crappy ones you don’t mind being permanently parted from.

I think any dress/outfit you would wear to a wedding will be fine. I would do as a previous poster said and cover shoulders and knees and not too revealing but other than that any wedding guest dress should be fine.

You could get a shalwar chemise, they vary from not very expensive to very very expensive.

Or you could wear and ordinary trouser suit.

Take a headscarf / shawl.

Re the shows, arrange with someone else so that it is one of your shoes and one of the other person in the shoe rack.

Depends if it's the religious ceremony or the reception party, if it's the latter then don't worry too much. Shoulders and knees covered should be fine, they know you're not Muslim. What's the brides background? South Asian weddings are usually very colourful and bright, I'd jazz up the jumpsuit with big earrings and jewellery, the bigger the better!

Anything you would already wear is perfectly fine. Just abit of common sense would make you more comfortable- so basically something a bit more modest, just above the knee length being the shortest dress ( no bum skimmers basically) and a sensible neckline etc. You'll be fine no need to go all out and purchase new but it's really thoughtful of you to be thinking of it.

ASOS has a 'modest fashion' section https://www.asos.com/women/modestwear/cat/?cid=50028

Posh, I think it's lovely that you're thinking about this, but if you don't find something online that you absolutely love, I am sure you can easily adapt what you already have. I am also wary of how when shopping online they can make any garment look fantastic - some are disappointing when they arrive.

You're keen not to cause offence, and you're thoughtful, so I'm fairly confident you won't upset anyone... but I don't think you need to go so far as playing dress-up in order to fit in. As others have said, a fairly long dress - personally, for me, below the knee - and making sure your shoulders and chest are covered, will probably do the trick!

Your friend will be chuffed to see you and will appreciate any move you make towards covering up the essentials - ie knees, decolletée and shoulders.

Another possibility that has been mentioned, Shalwar Kameez over your favourite smart trousers might be the perfect compromise.

I would speak to the bride. Let her guide you in what to wear.

Muslim here. Thats very considerate of you.
A maxi dress would be fine. Even calf length. I assume you wont be at the mosque so you don't need to cover up.

Aaaaand also i would assume not every one in the bride / grooms family cover up. So I wouldn't be too worried. At every single wedding there will be friends / family who are not Muslim / don't cover up at all.

I and several friends had the same concerns when we were invited to the wedding reception of a Berber friend.
We all covered legs and arms and were really surprised by some of the outfits that we saw. There were short skirts, low cut tops, loose hair, etc.
That's because there were women only, the men were elsewhere. At our venue, the women would enter the room and take their veils and outer garments off. What was acceptable when no men were present was much more daring than any of us had imagined.
Maybe ask your friend what others are likely to be wearing.

I think what you've chosen feels appropriate - you could also look at wrap dresses with sleeves.
Monsoon do quite a few dresses with sleeves, of a good length and neckline that's not too low!

If they are Asian Muslim it's likely to be full of bright colours, think Indian rather than Muslim but arms covered, hair isn't always covered. It's also fine to wear western dress but i would choose a skirt that's at least knee length and to the elbow's

I would make discreet enquiries.

I doubt you will be going to the mosque. But check which functions are you invited to. Are you invited to only mehndi? It's like a bridal shower. If you are invited to more than one function then you might need more dresses. It also depends which culture they are from. In arab cultures, women are segregated and wear all sorts of fancy western dresses. Including short dresses. If it is South asian then it varies according to preferences of people, who can wear from simple to very bling. And don't worry about outshining the bride in south asian culture as that can never happen. You can always tell the bride apart from others.

The outfit you chose is beautiful 😍