Dress needed for a Muslim wedding

[Devoilmum]

Very unexpectedly I’ve been invited to a wedding in Malaysia and have no idea what to wear.

Will need to be something that’ll keep me cool but also respectfully covered.

It’ll need to travel well too.

I’d really appreciate any ideas as spend all my time in joggers and jeans!!

It's worth searching using the term "modest fashion". Some brands will sell "modest" dresses aimed at fashion conscious muslim women - so sleeves, longer skirts, higher neckline.

You might find something here. Pakistani clothes, great variety from everyday to occasion wear. Very good prices too.
I have 2 dresses from them and can vouch for both quality and service.

https://damak.co.uk/?v=79cba1185463

I think you'll find a lot that's suitable in the shops right now op. I personally would look for a maxi dress with long sleeves and a high neck , a fitted waist would probably be fine as long as its not tight all over. Or ask your friend if you want advice about something more traditional.

Thanks for this. Some of the kurtas are lovely although I’m not sure I could pull one off. But the dresses may fit the bill.

There was a lovely thread on here earlier this year/ last year. Lots of helpful advice. But I do apologise I don't have it saved.

Do you know anyone else going, or the wedding parties friends/family that you could ask? Maybe you could find something local when you get there. I would think a Muslim Malaysian wedding might have different standards of dress to say a Pakistani or Middle Eastern Gulf wedding.

Here are some modest dress styles- although some don't look quite suitable with no sleeves etc.

https://www.johnlewis.com/browse/women/modest-clothing/evening/wedding-guest/_/N-ls4rZ1yzkk88Z1z0ropu

https://www.marksandspencer.com/search?searchTerm=modest&intid=normal&langId=-24&storeId=10151&catalogId=10051&searchType=normal

www.monsoon.co.uk/womens/dresses/

Personally I would boycott anything which marketed itself as "modest dress" and "modest wedding guest dress" suggests a new dimension of horrors.

Presumably you want someting midi to maxi length, full or 3/4 sleeves, not low cut, not sheer, clingy, see through or with cut outs.

There must be 1,000's of dresses which fit that remit.

What's your budget and general preferences?

If it were me I'd go for something like these. (With a slip under)

Cabbages and Roses
Cabbages and Roses 2
Cabbages and Roses 3

This might have been the thread. Hopefully some helpful suggestions. https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/style_and_beauty/5069491-what-to-wear-indian-wedding-august-suggestions-please

Modest and conservative. You don't have to go to extremes. Also I understand you do not shake the hand of someone of the opposite sex - follow what others do.
But don't overthink it. I recently went to a full Sikh funeral. I read all about wearing white and having a white headscarf, though Google said dark clothing was appropriate for westerners, but head must be covered.
Well I needn't have stressed! Very few wore white and even fewer wore a white headscarf (they wore many colours, mostly subdued). The men in particular were quite casually dressed.

For goodness sake (the replies), they've invited you, a non Muslim, to their weddding. I presume that probably means there are other non Muslims too. You don't need to go in some sort of ethnic fancy dress. I have also known lots of people of the faith who don't have a problem with men shaking the hands of women. I suspect from what you've said about what you usually wear that you're not the type for mini dresses, low necklines, which would be disrespecful for any type of religious service. Just go with your judgement and if unsure just ask your friend. Not Mumsnet many of whom seem to think people of the Islamic faith are some sort of alien species.

I hope I'm not included in "those replies" I posted normal dresses I wear.

It’s maxi dress central right now as PP says - monsoon is always full of this stuff but it’s all over

Try these: https://www.andaazfashion.co.uk/tamil-wedding-dresses/partywear-pink?srsltid=AfmBOorVsUCgUvJv5i7TOKQSfIWZxCBH2RUrl-OZKgdHM9O5a3Nn8EGg

Erm, plenty of Muslims happily shake hands with people of the opposite sex

you don’t have to cosplay you know

https://www.annahariri.com/products/blue-garden-womens-casual-spring

As others have said, just common sense :) Wear a dress at least knee length, covers the shoulders, doesn't show cleavage. Relatively formal- think cocktail style (and fabric) at least. While it will be humid, most likely you will be in an air conditioned space so don't feel like you have to wear something for 35 degrees and 90% humidity.

Malaysia has people of all different religions and the bridal party are not going to be shocked at a guest not fully covered lol.

Enjoy! Some Malaysian cultures have the most fabulous wedding traditions!

I’m malaysian. Dress whatever you want. I’m muslim and malaysian. In my wedding all the guests dress normal wedding guest dresses. Its better if you want sleeveless dress than its midi or maxi. Please dont do bodycon. As long as its not bodycon its okay.

I think lots of these suggestions are a bit strange. Not sure why people have suggested indian/pakistani clothing for a Malaysian wedding when neither you nor the bridal party are Indian/pakistani. Think it would look weird if you were to rock up in one of those, as if playing dress up. I think just wear a maxi/midi dress in a colour/cut you like, just avoid anything short and revealing. Lots of options on Asos.

Thank you. I definitely wouldn’t do bodycon anytime so no chance of it.

Any colours to avoid?

I guess I really wanted to find out how formal it would be - the reception part, as would like to blend in, rather than stand out as a westerner. But definitely not looking to dress up and try to match style.

We malaysian love colour. So any colour acceptable, sex but please avoid white or black