Help with funeral dress/outfit please

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For next week so my problem is I think it's going to be hot. I don't feel black is appropriate as for someone in their 50's.

I'm of similar age, slim, 5 ft 4"

Price range up to about £100

Thank you!

I agree. So really anything reasonably smart you already have will be fine. Last funeral I went to I wore a Mountain Warehouse dress, mainly green with black and red flowers. And probably some plain black ballet pumps, I can't remember.

Every funeral I have gone to people have worn normal smart clothes with a vague attempt at dark colours.

Noticeable exceptions for hot weather as nobody has a black smart summer outfit, and winter as people just wear their normal coats and cold weather wear.

Never been to one where everyone was wearing black, even close family. A more distant friend/relative wearing full black would look attention seeking.

Black is Victorian? Most people at a funeral will be wearing black, unless specified otherwise. Last funeral I went to recently was a 31yr old and they asked for football tops if people wanted. I wore mainly black but a checked jacket so wasn’t full on black.

someone I went with wore trainers. I personally wouldn’t for a funeral but no-one cared

Not my experience though really, very few all in black. Maybe black trousers

I went to my friend's funeral a few weeks ago. He was a big 70's music fan. I wore a smart denim shirt dress with bare legs and flat shoes (I'd usually wear trainers with that dress) : honestly no one batted an eyelid

I wouldn't wear all black.(SE England.) If the closest family are not all in black, it could look OTT. Last three funerals I've been to, all autumn, I wore black trousers and long grey cardigan. I've never been to one where everyone was all in black.

Isn't it going to be cooler next week?

I've never been to a funeral where anyone had a special black funeral outfit. I think these days people just go smart, basic, suitable for the prevailing weather. Dresses, shirts, skirts, trousers, all fine. Any kind of shoe. The only thing perhaps unsuitable would be jeans and trainers.

I went to a funeral for a guy in his 20s sadly. His mates looked really smart in traditional black suits and ties/dresses so I wouldn't necessarily say black is only for older people. However, you may also be overthinking it a bit. I'm finding dress for all events is increasingly casual and it's easy to look a bit overdone in comparison to others. As long as your outfit is "decent" for want of a better word and not garish no one will look twice.

For sibling funeral - at which I gave a eulogy - I wore a navy blue sleeveless shift dress with a very fancy statement piece necklace that he bought me. A plain navy wrap/pasmina was loosely around my shoulders during the speech.

For my mother’s funeral - at which I also spoke - I wore a sleeveless, drape neck black jumpsuit and black trainers (knitted sort) no logos. I’d broken my toe and coukd not wear shoes or sandals. No one noticed

I'm in Scotland. I agree with AnnaMagnani and others. Funerals, in the absence of specific requests, are normal smart clothes with attempts at dark colours.

What kind of flats did you wear?

I’ll be wrong then 🙄

You posted as if you were speaking for the whole of Scotland, so to that extent, yes you are wrong.

Last funeral I was at in Scotland, this summer, 90 yr old gentleman, so traditional in an understed way, everyone was dressed sedately but not solid black. Even close family wore eg polka dot black dress or black and cream striped top.

I find these comments about wearing black really strange, I wear a black dress and black shoes to work sometimes! It’s definitely not OTT to wear a black dress and black shoes to a funeral. In my opinion it’s safer to wear black if you don’t know them too well. OP, I’d go for a black midi dress like this www.newlook.com/uk/womens/clothing/dresses/black-tie-waist-midi-shirt-dress/p/905838101?extcam=UK_PPC_PMax_Generics_Priority_Google_DV_m_AGID__PRID_9058534&_cclid=Google_EAIaIQobChMI2NW8gJnYhwMVaJNQBh02ThGeEAQYCCABEgJTqfD_BwE&gad_source=1

There might be an unspoken dress code. I’m from Liverpool and a Berkshire friend was attending a funeral in my city. He said his wife and mother in law had decided to wear bright, floral and uplifting. I said that might be a mistake. They stuck to the brights felt very self conscious amongst the sea of black.

This time last year I went to a funeral and the crematorium (in Bristol) was so packed that people were standing in the lobby and one person in the main room bit actually fainted in the heat. Dress for comfort is what I recommend.
I wore a Seasalt cotton skirt with a small pattern and a plain navy sleeveless blouse from Roman. It was a funeral for an older man but his lifestyle had centered around rock and roll, so I think that I judged it right.
In the past I have also picked up funeral suitable clothing from charity shops, especially when funds were tight.

I think a lot depends on location and possibly dress codes in that social group.

Liverpool example did make me smile as when I went on holiday to Liverpool, I felt very underdressed eating out, wearing clothes that would have been smart where I live.

Liverpool totally has it's own dress code.

The last funeral I was at was for a member of the Scottish aristocracy. The male family and close male friends wore black morning coats and dark grey trousers. The female family and close friends were in black. The rest was a mixture of smart black coats, dark suits, to just generally anything subdued, in any colour. I wore a smart black coat, can't remember what colour of dress, probably black or dark green.

I'm sure the deceased would have understood that in the very large number of attendees many of them would have morning dress or smart black coats etc, as part of their standard wardrobe, but many people don't and he wouldn't have expected some one to buy black clothes.

I would say Dr Marten black sandals would be fine, or metallic gold/silver shoes are still a ‘neutral’- don’t have to wear black footwear.

If colour or something specific is wanted at a funeral I would expect it to be expressly specified by those organising.

A funeral in warm conditions would definitely warrant sandals or sleeveless top/dress.

Sadly attended an ex colleagues funeral a few weeks ago in hot weather (for scotland)

I wore black trousers, ballet flats and a smart but cool muted floral print 3/4 sleeve top (greys, pale pinks on a cream background) and carried a black handbag (from the charity shop)

Most of the female mourners were dressed similarly, or in black linen look short sleeved dresses with sandals

I wore a navy polka dot (subdued dots, not big bright white ones) dress and navy flats for MIL’s funeral this summer. I did wear sheer tights to make the shoes less likely to rub but wouldn’t have it was a really hot day.

I don’t own anything black so wouldn’t buy a black dress specifically. I don’t think anyone was in black, just dark, muted colours.

I agree. Black, or another sombre colour, unless family have requested more colourful clothing.

Yes agree, no to bright floral unless specified