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Can I wear a sari to a non-Indian wedding, or is it too "look at me"?

59 replies

Lentilweaver · 07/07/2024 10:10

Adding to all the wedding threads. I am Indian, haven't been invited to a non-Indian wedding for ages, not since the pandemic anyway. Styles appear to have changed. I don't generaly like wedding guest dresses. They are all too floral and frilly and polyester, and a waste of money for something I might only wear once or twice.

i want to wear a quiet, non-blingy silk sari in a blue or green. The bride is in her twenties, the daughter of one of my friends. Friend says "wear whatever you want as long as not white", but I am worried she is just saying that. On the other hand, I am in my fifties, and hardly likely to take attention away from the lovely bride.. I expect I will be the only one in a sari though. The wedding is in August.

I wear a sari to lots of events, but not usually to weddings.

OP posts:
Meredusoleil · 07/07/2024 10:12

In your situation, I totally would wear a sari. Sounds perfect to me!

LemonChiffon · 07/07/2024 10:12

I think that would be completely fine. I'm sure you'll look beautiful.

HermioneWeasley · 07/07/2024 10:13

It would be “look at me” if you weren’t Indian. Since you are, go for it

DappledThings · 07/07/2024 10:14

Absolutely nothing wrong with wearing a sari

Cosycore · 07/07/2024 10:15

Do it. It will look gorgeous

ChangeyTime · 07/07/2024 10:15

Please do.

Absolutely perfect wedding attire.

I've never worn a sari to any of my friends Indian weddings, I've worn what I'd wear to a non-Indian wedding as that's my wedding clothing.

I didn't think twice. Surely the same applies in the other direction.

Expect lots of compliments, as I'm sure lots of ladies in nice outfits will get. Only twats whose opinions don't matter would think it was 'look at me' behaviour.

UltramarineViolet · 07/07/2024 10:16

Agree with all above comments

Go for it and wear your sari with pride

Hoppinggreen · 07/07/2024 10:17

Sounds like a lovely idea

35965a · 07/07/2024 10:18

I say yes, wear a sari

StripedPiggy · 07/07/2024 10:18

I definitely think you should wear a sari, and I’m sure you will look fantastic in it.

MrsMoastyToasty · 07/07/2024 10:19

Do it. DH wears a kilt (with all the accessories) to every wedding we go to, whether it's in Scotland or elsewhere.

ButtSurgery · 07/07/2024 10:21

Absolutely no problem at all!

Plenty of Scottish men wear kilts to weddings where no one else does, so why not a sari for you? You'll look lovely and it's not at all limelight stealing.

Petrine · 07/07/2024 10:26

Yes, wear it. I will be elegant and appropriate.

foodtoorder · 07/07/2024 10:27

Absolutely wear a sari, they are beautiful and you will feel more comfortable than usual wedding guest outfit. No one will think anything other than, "what a beautiful outfit" .

Lentilweaver · 07/07/2024 10:28

Great, thanks everyone. I really want to wear some of my saris more, as I don't like modern styles much, and anything nice is so expensive. DH is saying he may wear a silk kurta to give me company.

OP posts:
plainjayne8282 · 07/07/2024 10:46

Sounds beautiful and completely appropriate.

Durdledore · 07/07/2024 10:48

Lentilweaver · 07/07/2024 10:28

Great, thanks everyone. I really want to wear some of my saris more, as I don't like modern styles much, and anything nice is so expensive. DH is saying he may wear a silk kurta to give me company.

Love that

Olika · 07/07/2024 10:49

I think you should go for it. 😊

MyFavouritePlace · 07/07/2024 10:51

Sounds lovely, I'm sure you'll both look great.
If I was your friend I'd somehow feel a bit honoured you would choose your best outfits for my child's wedding (hope that makes sense).

TheCountessofFitzdotterel · 07/07/2024 10:51

My Japanese SIL wore a kimono to my other brother’s wedding and it seemed very appropriate and stylish.

NoSnowdrop · 07/07/2024 10:52

You’re so right about wedding guest attire these days, I’d far rather wear my sari.

please do it and your DHs outfit sounds perfect too.

LakeTiticaca · 07/07/2024 10:55

Yes wear it and be proud 😀

Verite1 · 07/07/2024 10:55

Absolutely fine. Lots of my friends do similar. Sure you will look great!

Happyearlyretirement · 07/07/2024 10:56

Absolutely wear your sari, you will look elegant and lovely. I had a work friend who wore her saris to special occasions and always looked amazing.

itsgettingweird · 07/07/2024 10:58

You're Indian.

It's Indian dress.

Sounds like a lovely outfit in non attention seeking colours.

And you'd be comfortable.

Can't find any issue in it myself.

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