What to wear to my wonderful dad’s funeral

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I can barely leave the house and I’m just trying to keep it together for my three children who are completely beside themselves after my dad suddenly and very unexpectedly died this weekend.

As the eldest daughter I’m doing the heavy mental lifting and organising. I’m struggling to cope.

The last thing I have the energy for now is searching websites or having to go out shopping, so I was wondering if anyone might be able to help with some suggestions that I can easily order as I just realised I don’t have anything to wear that is suitable.

I’m in my late 30s, apple shaped but big boobs, 5’5, about 10st7lb (possibly a bit less now as I just can’t eat), and a size 12 (sometimes a 14 on top if it’s unforgiving). The funeral is likely to be within the next two weeks (I think, we’re waiting to hear from the coroner).

I was wondering if anyone could please help. Thank you

Do you have an outfit already that your dad liked you in?

Sorry for your loss. I always just play safe for funerals with black trousers and a white/cream/black top/shirt/blouse. Next workwear section is generally my go to. If you want a bit of colour either a nice scarf or even a coloured top.

Sorry to hear you lost your dad.

Do you want to wear black? I tried this on for FIL’s funeral, it was lovely but at the time too expensive, you may not want long sleeves at this time of year though.https://www.hobbs.com/product/antonia-dress/0223-5907-9845L00-BLACK.html#navAjax=true&is=true&cgid=sale-clothing-dresses&sz=60&start=0&isSecondPage=false&prefn1=refinementColor&prefv1=Black&pid=0223-5907-9845L00-BLACK&pos=21

Or this
https://www.next.co.uk/style/SU061295/M37470#M37470

for my mum’s many years ago I wore a black trouser suit with a bright blue Red or Dead shirt.

I’m so sorry this has happened.
How old are your children? Do you need to be lifting them or have them sitting on your knee?
If it is a burial and you’ll have to walk over possibly wet grass, I’d recommend block heels or flats so there’s no chance of sinking on the grass.
If you have a suitable black dress, or a pair of black trousers and a top, I’d go for something you already have and you are comfortable in if possible.

Sorry for your loss, it’s so hard isn’t it. Personally I didn’t buy anything new because I knew I’d never want to wear it again. I just wore black trousers, plain top and a smartish trenchcoat. Honestly nobody notices so just go for something you’re comfy in and if you think your dad would have liked it that’s a bonus.

If you do want to get something places like John Lewis, Next and M&S that offer click and collect are really handy - you can pick up from Waitrose or an M&S foodhall to save going into town if you have anything like that nearby.

Or of course have it delivered but click and collect is usually free.

My Dads funeral was this time of year ( a few years back )
He loved botany , gardening and being outside , I wore a grey sleeveless chiffon type dress with big pale pink splashy flowers on it with a black jacket and shoes
It was from M & S , and I did wear it again as I didn’t want it to become my funeral dress

Whatever you wear you’ll be doing him proud. He was much loved I’m sure. So sorry Op.

I'm so sorry for your loss OP, I lost my Dad earlier this year and also bore the brunt of the associated admin etc (although I've been doing that a while). Think about comfort more than anything else, you don't want the annoyance of breaking in new shoes, itchy labels or too tight tops etc on the day. I don't wear black and mum wanted people to just wear what they wanted to so I went for navy trousers and simple ivory tunic style blouse with a pale blue scarf (funeral was in feb). Try not to worry about what anyone else thinks, it's your day to say goodbye in your own way. Big hugs x

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Thank you all very much and thank you for your kind words.

I don’t think there’s anything he especially liked me in. We used to do a lot of outdoors hobbies together, but obviously none of that is funeral appropriate. I don’t know if he had any opinions on what people should wear to his funeral or anything of it really. His death was completely unexpected and such a shock. He was fine, long term and in his he immediate, all of that day he’d been completely normal. And then he just dropped. And that was that. My grandad only died 3 years ago on his mid 90s, we thought we’d have years left with my dad.

My youngest is 8, so not normally a small child on your knee, however at the moment they are both needing a lot of physical reassurance and cuddles - even the middle one who’s a teen.

I think it’s a good point about are you going to want to have anything to do with the outfit afterwards… it’ll hold such bad associations.

I think I have a suitable black blouse. I need to check if it still fits. Maybe I’ll just order some black trousers from next/m and s. He was not interested in material stuff/fashion for himself or others really. He was still happily wearing his 1980s m and s jumpers, until my mum would insist on replacing them when they started to get holey. He was more interested in doing things- he did a lot of sport, a lot of outdoor hobbies, and liked travel, and would rather spend his time and money on that really.

thank you all again, it’s appreciated