Black for a wedding?

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Please can I have some advice? I am the mother of the groom and the mother of the other groom and I are struggling here! By no means is this wedding of our lovely boys in any way traditional and its stumped us a bit. The invites say dress to impress and whist thats fine I have found a fabulous black suit, but my question is can you/ should you wear black to a wedding? It is lovely and I would accessories with colours but it would be predominantly black. Is it ok or not? I just cannot decide if its the done thing?
Any advice welcome and warmly received!

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I'd just ask your son! But we had plenty of women who wore all black to our wedding (suits, dresses etc) and they all looked fabulous!

Thank you both for your advice. I did ask my son and all I got was "wear what you like mum" no help at all !

If that was his opinion, I'd go for it. It sounds great and I bet you'll look amazing

I always wear black to weddings, and I'm certainly not alone. I can't imagine two averagely sensible men getting married having the vapours about a mother of the groom Showing Up in Mourning. Your DS has explicitly said you can, so why wouldn't you wear something you know suits you?

I think that was sort of my issue..what would the other guests think? Would they think I am odd? I can say that no two gentlemen can possibly be as loved as these two are to me and I am so delighted for them I just dont want to let them down. I am probably being daft but I see their friends who are of their age,beautiful young ladies who will be in their lovely , pretty dresses and me thinking it is ok to walk my boy down the aisle in a black silk suit pant set! Its giving me a headache!!

Have worn black to countless weddings, if he says go for it, go for it. Sounds fabulous.

If your sons are good with it, then go for it! The opinions of the grooms is the only thing that matters

Thank you all so much for the reassurance. I will . I will wear my black and enjoy my day. You have all made me feel so much better. Thank you again x

Voice of dissent here! I would never wear black to a wedding, and I was astonished when two of my husband’s sisters wore it to ours, although I understood later that it’s not a faux pas in their country. It’s not a huge ask in the grand scheme of things, to wear something festive to a happy event.

I’m Catholic, white, not British but live here, for cultural context.

How spooky! My 90yr old neighbour has just tapped on my door to ask my opinion on a black outfit for a wedding this weekend. I thought she looked fabulous.

Go for it, I say!

The most recent wedding I wore black to was the wedding of my gorgeous friend and his husband, they wanted everyone in either black or white and it was an excellent day. What the grooms think is what matters, and a black silk pants suit sounds very stylish, and beats a floral pair of curtains dress any day of the week.

No. Not black for a wedding. its meant to be a joyous occasion! not a funeral.
I would have been quite upset if anyone had thought black was suitable at my wedding.

No i wouldn't, only exception is dinner suits if that's the dress code, then I prefer coloured bow ties at least. I like colour

Why not.
At my own wedding I wore a long white dress with a velvet long black cape complete with a black net train.

For cultural context so am I 😄

@GivePeaceAChance your ensemble sounds incredible! 😮

A black, silk jumpsuit sounds very stylish and classy to me!

Rightly or wrongly, and l am not exactly a traditionalist, I’ve always looked upon wearing black to a wedding as a parent's protest about their daughter/son deciding to marry.

I'm Catholic, white and not from the UK, but have spent most of my adult life living in England. I wear black to all weddings, and am certainly far from being the only one. The last Italian wedding I was at seemed to feature a lot of (very glamorous) black.

Another who thinks a black silk pantsuit sounds lovely, if that's what you feel most comfortable in. You can always add colour with your accessories. I went to a wedding last year where the mother of the bride wore a black dress with a red rose print, and she looked great.

I can honestly say with all my being that I couldnt be happier at the prospect of this wedding! I cannot begin to tell you how much I love these two men. I have gained another son and he means the world to me. Its going to be a lovely day and I am so excited. If I can get this outfit right!!!

I think that we to see it! Can you post a link?

But if you just want opinions, then mine is that if you can't go against conventions at a gay wedding, then I'm not sure where you can! Rules are made to be broken. All that matters is that you feel fantastic in the outfit!

Enjoy your day and have a lovely time. I wasn’t being critical but taking examples from 2 events l’ve known 💐

Bits of this post have actually made me cry with their wonderfully loving maternal concern. I am so happy that everyone in your family - and soon to be family - has each other in their lives.

I am adding my voice to the chorus who say yes, wear your lovely black outfit. Your son has specifically said wear what you like and you do like it!

I hope you all have a terrific day 🍾