Do you get nicely dressed to stay at home?

[Somethingsgotthagive]

Or just to take DC out? Someone I follow is all dressed up in her sezane outfits just to stay at home with the DC and bake cakes. I panic when I see her expensive, silky shirt potentially getting dirty with chocolate, I only keep my nice clothes for the office and nice going out occasions. This made me wonder whether I should generally make more of an effort as on days when I WFH or just take DC to the park, I don’t bother with makeup, doing hair etc and I just wear a pair of jeans and cheap sweatshirt. I’d like to move away from this mentality of “wasting” nice things if I wear them for every day occasions but really struggle.
Do you use your nicest and more expensive clothes to be home or for day to day stuff?

As far as I can see, the majority of her clothes (and indeed her children’s) are PR/gifted. I assume that’s only for the ‘gram though, and her daughter isn’t dressed up to that extent all the time.

I meant that I can well believe she would get dressed nicely in Sezane clothes every day and dress her daughter in cute stuff even if she wasn't on Instagram, as I can see my French SIL and her friends do (and they're not influencers and have real jobs).

I don't even try to hand clothes down to my SIL for her kids anymore because she dresses them so beautifully. She is very polite when I've offered in the past but will choose only the stuff that we have worn once to a christening or what I would consider a special occasion outfit. Never in a million years anything torn or stained or with a superhero or cartoon character on it!

Even thinking about it now, a French family from DS2's school came over once for a playdate - 4 kids under 10, the boys wearing matching linen shirts, chino shorts and leather driving loafers with no socks, the girl wearing a linen dress matching her brothers, cardigan and sandals. It was like a photo shoot for Bonpoint but that was just their normal.

panic when I see her expensive, silky shirt potentially getting dirty with chocolate, I only keep my nice clothes for the office and nice going out occasions

I buy clothes to wear and enjoy, not just to cover up my nakedness. I take reasonable care of them but they are there to serve me, I don't exist to showcase them. The longevity of my clothing is of less importance than me living my life whilst feeling like my best self. If they get ruined by an activity I'll replace them. If I won't be able to afford to replace a particular item or if it won't be possible eg it's not in fashion any more, then I may limit which activities I do in that item to reduce the risk of it becoming damaged.

I find it incredibly sad that you wear your nicest things (which I presume you feel happiest/most special wearing?) to work, of all places (a location where most people would prefer not to be), and "special occasions" only. Unless you're royalty, how many special occasions do you have in a year?

I buy cheap things that I don't mind if they get damaged for work, I dress up in something unusual for special occasions (that I'd feel out of place wearing on the daily) and I wear my nicest most expensive clothes for my favourite activities. These include hanging out with friends and family, lounging around reading books on my sofa or at a café drinking hot chocolate, walking in parks. I'll wear whatever I happen to be wearing that day to run errands, bake or clean up before bedtime.

I give a nod towards practicality, if all I'm doing that day is cleaning the house I wouldn't wear a long flowy maxi dress because it'd get in the way and I'd rather not sit on every dirty step (to clean the one above) in silk trousers or wear my brand new shirt to clean the toilet, but I don't keep scruffy clothes because I don't like looking or feeling scruffy.

If I'm painting the walls or something messy like that I'll search out my most worn looking items (which may not go together so I may look a state) to use and probably bin afterwards, if there's damage/staining. I don't keep raggedy things full of holes, stains and bobbles for gardening etc because I'd hardly ever wear them and feel like a tramp whenever I did. Why should I feel like I don't deserve nice things just because I'm cleaning or gardening? I don't see why I should feel like a scruffbag if I'm just lounging around at home either. Who cares if nobody else will see me? I'm not dressing for anyone else, I'm doing it for me.

I don't buy the argument that certain items of clothing are intrinsically uncomfortable making them unsuitable for lounging around in, either. The only time I find that to be true is when the item in question has become too small.

Yes, I do.
I deserve to feel good & look my best.
I wear my Cashmere, silk all the time because most of my life is the school run, working from home or cooking etc.
It makes me feel good to put make up, earrings, perfume on every day.
The only problem is I forget to wear an apron so I'm forever getting stains out of Cashmere/T shirts with Fairy liquid. Today I've made Cheese & Chilli Tart & some Sourdough Pizza base & my nice Navy Cashmere Jumper is covered in flour.
Staying that my Cashmere is Tk Maxx/M&S/eBay, not Sezanne ( which is the Emperors new clothes) to be honest.

Pre DC I always just wore my nice normal clothes at work at home or out

These days I own crappy clothes I'd never dreamed of even buying back then.

So yes I wear either very old comfy clothes I wouldn't be seen dead in outside or PJs at home

Currently wearing old black comfy trousers from Sainsburys and a checked shirt from Uniqlo both a least 6 years old. No bra.

I would still be in my PJs but i changed for my food delivery this morning because otherwise when bending over my Boobs would have been on show

I'm proud to say that after finally getting round to being ruthless, I no longer own anything I don't think is nice and that i dont feel good in and enjoy wearing. Yay. Only took me 52 years! I have different outfit categories -at home, in the office, days out and nights out, but that's about situation appropriate clothes rather than how nice they are or how good I feel in them.

@IndianSummer78 do you have small DC? When I am not at work or out for a nice meal in rare occasions, I am at home playing with DC or at the park getting messy in mud/sand/running around. So for example I would never choose to wear my favourite, expensive silk blouse for that because I cannot afford to continously buy and replace clothes if they break or get permanently stained. I’ll still look nice and presentable and clean but with a nice, easy to wash sweatshirt or tshirt rather than the best items I own from my wardrobe.
i think if you don’t have small children it’s easier maybe

Depends. Sometimes I do because I fancy wearing something nice. Today I didn't because i got up too late and spent the day rushing around. Also I cba
I'll try better tomorrow

Well, I don't own any silk blouses or cashmere sweaters, but nor do I lounge about in sweats!

I'm a jeans and t-shirt with a nice cardi on top, decent shoes, hair and make up done kind of gal. I use an apron for cleaning and cooking.

Well I’d not wear a silk shirt, although I’d not feel panic or down watching someone else wear one.

i habe started to wear nice clothes at home, skirts, tops, dresses, as I’ve realised I end up giving my clothes to charity when they get dated, and they are hardly worn. So now I wear them.

I am a casual dresser ie M&S ,Next and Tu but I always am showered,hair washed,foundation,lipstick and colourful beads in place before going downstairs.
I wheat a uniform for work so that saves a lot of mental effort.

OP - you say you save your nice clothes for work, but if you are watching her insta, you are watching her work. This is her job, she, like you, wears nice clothes to work.

(however I also don’t believe in keeping things for best)

Absolutely not. If I’m at home for the day I’m in sweat pants and a sweatshirt or hoodie. No make up.

if I’m going out to meet a friend, I’ll wear jeans and maybe add a tinted lip balm.

I do go to work mon to Friday though so am in proper clothes with styled hair and (some) make up most days.

I live in leggings and Ugg boots, tshirts and hoodies. I wouldn’t wear nice clothes at home…they’d just get covered in dog hair!

i have a dozen or so lovely dresses for going out, smart jeans and boots etc I have a uniform for work. At home I dress for comfort

@Somethingsgotthagive I do yes. I don't own sweatshirts or basic t-shirts, they're not my style. I have everything from items costing less than £10 to items costing over £300. I wear whatever, most things come up just fine in the wash. If I know for a fact I'm definitely going to be getting dirty, I'll wear something I won't cry over if it gets ruined. It'll still be a nice top or blouse just not the expensive silk one. Mostly though I'm not planning to get dirty, so I wear whatever I fancy and take a chance that it'll be ok and usually it is. I don't find it a hardship to be conscious of not getting dirty. I guess I don't like being covered in smears of things so it's ingrained in my habits now to take extra care as I go about life. I wasn't always this way, I remember being careless as a teenager and ruining far more clothes than I do now. I agree it'd be a lot easier without DC though!

Not anymore, I did make more effort when I was younger (ironically I looked/dressed better when the kids were little!)
Currently sat here in a shein hoody and primarny jeans that I wore yesterday, covered in far to much dog hair.....
I will be having a shower and getting changed before I go out later but anything goes at home!

My comfy clothes are old,tatty and stained. I wfh several days a week. On these days I only brush my teeth in the morning. I sometimes don't even wear underwear with my tatty clothes. I don't need to go on camera. In the eve I always have a bath. I do the school run like this, but don't need to get out of the car for that. I have a long cardigan I use to hide the clothes if I need to pop out to get petrol or milk in the day. In the office I'm casual (we don't have to be smart) but have washed, done make up, hair etc and put perfume and jewellery on.

Definitely not! However, I am trying to slowly upgrade my wardrobe. I'm getting rid of old, worn out items and replacing them with a better version e.g. my tatty New Look leggings have been replaced by some nicer ones from Everlane. I feel much better for it!

I really like Manon's ig - feels aspirational!

@stardust777 yes, I get what you mean and it’s why I followed her too. The risk with some aspirationals profiles sometimes is that they make you feel bad about your own ordinary life

I don’t dress up dress up, but I have started wearing slightly nicer clothes when wfh or just being at home. During and after covid, I basically wore jogging bottoms and hoodies pretty much the whole time and I got quite bored with it.

Currently wearing a pair of Sahara bubble trousers and a Paisie sweater.