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How to dress as a bigger woman for summer

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WheresMyAlex · 20/04/2024 15:56

I’ve put on a lot of weight recently and I just don’t know how to dress myself anymore. I’m dreading feeling uncomfortable in the summer because I simply don’t know what to wear.
Mid 30s, size 16. A lot of my weight seems to be in my middle.
I am trying to lose weight as well, in the hopes of feeling a bit more comfortable and healthy.
TIA

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kaiadeluded · 20/04/2024 16:29

Im 47 & a size 16, slowly losing weight. Doing weights & cardio at the gym as fatigue allows, also eating more low fat protein, much less carbs, lots of veg & some low sugar fruit as I'm pre diabetic.
I'm quite big up top but I have a tum to disguise as well with slim legs and arms.

I've decided to wear swimsuits this year instead of bikinis as I'm heavier & just bought a lovely size 16 swimsuit from Next (see photo) which has tummy control & chest support plus looks glam.
I've invested in some new looking pretty sandals from Vinted by River Island, Dune & Accessorize.
Also bought 3 long linen mix shirts to wear on & off the beach - a white one from eBay, pink one from Accessorize & cream & gold stripe one from River Island. They can be worn as short shirt dresses with a swimsuit, with jeans / trousers or with shorts.

I got a long white fitted but not too clingy crochet dress with minimal black stripes from New Look with a side split - I find longer dresses are better if they drape a bit over bum & tum while being more figure fitting rather than floaty dresses which can resemble tents if you're busty up top like me.

I either get longer (below calf to maxi length) or mini length dresses or skirts as I think around knee length can look a bit unfashionable.

My legs are ok so I also got some Next boyfriend style denim shorts to wear with various T-shirts from New Look, River Island, Vinted. New Look do ribbed crop T-shirts that actually are longer over your tummy so you get that fashionable crop look without flashing any flesh. I also like varsity T-shirts and longer dark boyfriend styles.

kaiadeluded · 20/04/2024 16:31

Sorry forgot the photo. The swimsuit is actually a bit lower cut on the chest than it looks.

AndBeyond · 20/04/2024 16:34

I'm the same op. Weight gain and I'm not happy with my tummy.

I'm doing lots of yoga as I read it helps get a bit of a waist back. I'm also trying to improve my diet starting with booze - thinking it might be a bit of a beer (or wine in my case) belly developing 😬😒

AndBeyond · 20/04/2024 16:35

Sorry I didn't answer you question there at all 😂

Clothes - I'm still in jeans tbh as it's so cold. But planning to wear summer dresses when it warms up. I've had a leg wax and pedicure which I'll try to maintain. I may be chunkier than I'd like, but I will at least have pretty feet

daffodilfan · 20/04/2024 16:38

Just jumping on to say I also have that swimsuit in black and it's a good fit and quite flattering.

kaiadeluded · 20/04/2024 16:45

Ah that's good @daffodilfan

This is the striped shirt I bought from River Island - it really is oversized so even though I'm a 16 I had to get a Small in the end - I find their sizing varies hugely.

& the striped dress from New Look I got in a size 16.

How to dress as a bigger woman for summer
How to dress as a bigger woman for summer
kaiadeluded · 20/04/2024 16:48

Obviously at present it's still quite chilly so I'm in jeans & jacket / long gilet etc. but unfortunately getting hot flushes so I have to keep taking spare Tshirts or tops out with me! Can't wait for summer even so.

NeverDropYourMooncup · 20/04/2024 16:58

If you're thinking of physical comfort in hot weather (rather than fashion, which is a subjective matter) -

Big knickers prevent irritation from low rise underwear rubbing directly on hot and damp section overhangs. If you get high waist (over the navel) antichafing shorts, they are more comfortable and protect the skin over a wider area. If you're prone to sweating, adding a pure cotton, unperfumed towel or liner also helps, as does trimming any hair.

Bras with thicker straps, wider back band (make sure you get a back size that doesn't slice into you, particularly if you normally wear underwired) and less scratchy lace reduce chafing there.

Using a long acting cream/stick antiperspirant on skin folds, upper thighs and the small of the back is easier on your skin.

Physical coverage is better sun protection than sunblock. You don't have to expose everything - and missing a bit with sunblock or running out because you're having to cover from neck to cleavage, upper back, shoulders and full arms every day is painful. Obviously, you still need sunblock, but at least it's at sustainable quantities, as you're covering face, neck, nape of neck, hands, not 1/3 of your body every morning.

Dresses are cooler than trousers or a skirt and top - the need for the waistline to be tighter on separates creates another area for heat/discomfort, whereas a dress doesn't do that.

Unless you're wearing supportive, comfortable sandals, you're going to need a way to reduce the sweat, slippage and friction on your feet - so thin socks or some kind of liner in your shoes is important. Using larger wound dressings at the first sign of a hotspot on your foot rather than plasters massively reduces the likelihood of blisters, cuts, swelling and a shedload of pain. Slip on synthetic shoes are not your friend in the summer.

Essentially, once you've taken care of your physical comfort at skin level, half the battle is won; all you need to is pull a dress over your head/step into it, put your footwear on and you're winning.

learieonthewildmoor · 20/04/2024 21:59

Use aloe Vera gel rather than those chub rub sticks - no stains on your clothes.
Linen tops and dresses. Things that skim and float.
Cotton cropped leggings under dresses and tops.
Wear colours and fabrics you really love to balance out feeling bad about being heavier.
Get a great pair of sandals and sunglasses.

Doratheexplorer1 · 20/04/2024 22:08

NeverDropYourMooncup · 20/04/2024 16:58

If you're thinking of physical comfort in hot weather (rather than fashion, which is a subjective matter) -

Big knickers prevent irritation from low rise underwear rubbing directly on hot and damp section overhangs. If you get high waist (over the navel) antichafing shorts, they are more comfortable and protect the skin over a wider area. If you're prone to sweating, adding a pure cotton, unperfumed towel or liner also helps, as does trimming any hair.

Bras with thicker straps, wider back band (make sure you get a back size that doesn't slice into you, particularly if you normally wear underwired) and less scratchy lace reduce chafing there.

Using a long acting cream/stick antiperspirant on skin folds, upper thighs and the small of the back is easier on your skin.

Physical coverage is better sun protection than sunblock. You don't have to expose everything - and missing a bit with sunblock or running out because you're having to cover from neck to cleavage, upper back, shoulders and full arms every day is painful. Obviously, you still need sunblock, but at least it's at sustainable quantities, as you're covering face, neck, nape of neck, hands, not 1/3 of your body every morning.

Dresses are cooler than trousers or a skirt and top - the need for the waistline to be tighter on separates creates another area for heat/discomfort, whereas a dress doesn't do that.

Unless you're wearing supportive, comfortable sandals, you're going to need a way to reduce the sweat, slippage and friction on your feet - so thin socks or some kind of liner in your shoes is important. Using larger wound dressings at the first sign of a hotspot on your foot rather than plasters massively reduces the likelihood of blisters, cuts, swelling and a shedload of pain. Slip on synthetic shoes are not your friend in the summer.

Essentially, once you've taken care of your physical comfort at skin level, half the battle is won; all you need to is pull a dress over your head/step into it, put your footwear on and you're winning.

This makes me a little bit emotional. What a thoughtful, thoroughly lovely post. I’ve just had a baby and I will be employing some of these tactics myself. Absolute legend. Thank you ♥️

Zebracat · 20/04/2024 22:35

It’s a cliche, but a black sundress/ open white shirt, or vice versa covers most eventualities.

kaiadeluded · 21/04/2024 15:39

I wear anti chafing short length slip shorts from The Big Bloomers Company- they're not so cheap but they're cooling in hot weather & very comfortable I find

GameOfJones · 21/04/2024 22:09

I'm a size 16 and find I look best in a maxi dress with a denim jacket over it for when it gets cooler or floaty wrap style dress which also helps with feeling cool and not too hot and sweaty. I wear chub rub shorts underneath dresses (very similar to cycling shorts) to stop my thighs chafing in the heat.

JaceLancs · 21/04/2024 22:17

I’ve embraced dresses since I’ve got bigger
Linen shirt dresses or slightly a line v necks are good
Bought this today - actually looks better on me than the model! I’m a size 18
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unsync · 21/04/2024 23:35

Get some Fussy or Wild deodorant, it's great if you get sweaty bits - not just for armpits. Also get some long leg knickers if you want to wear dresses, no worries about chafing or flashing. The main thing is to go for natural fabrics that will keep you cool. If you are cool and comfortable, you'll feel much better in yourself. I can recommend this https://www.clarins.co.uk/energizing-emulsion-for-tired-legs/CS01031050.html for feet and legs, it's bliss in a bottle when it's hot.

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Marchintospring · 21/04/2024 23:41

Look smarter more dressy.

For some reason skinny can wear any old shit and pull it off. Bring fat requires demonstrable effort apparently.

Cotton jumpsuits are great. Hides a multitude of sins but looks pulled together.

Fluffybagel · 11/05/2024 20:47

I like midi dresses in a skater style - with some snag shorts underneath! I always find this much more comfortable than wearing actual shorts that seem to ride up and be really uncomfortable! I was a size 16 last year and mid 30s ☺️

WooWooWinnie · 11/05/2024 20:55

I’m a size 18 but very bottom heavy. Luckily I’m rarely too hot so can get away with jeans and a loose white shirt for much of the year. Otherwise I’m in a short sleeved maxi dress with chub rub shorts underneath!

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