I don’t get ready in the mornings anymore

[PinkMimi]

As the title says really 😅. I use to take time to get ready and would never leave the house without make up on and an outfit put together. I don’t know if it’s since having a baby in lockdown … 4 years ago! Or since WFH but I work from home, sat in my pyjamas, no make up, hair chucked up. Is it just me? How can I snap out of this? On my days off I’m finding I’m going out in joggers etc, no make up. I also just don’t feel good about myself anymore. Help me break the cycle! ❤️

If you roll out of bed and put in clean PJs you just need some clothes that are as comfy as PJs and to keep them all in one place. Once you find them buy the same in several colours! Maybe loungewear sets? Or really soft comfy trousers and a jersey top? What style of PJs do you go for?

OP if you are happy and comfortable in joggers etc..then I would carry on wearing them but 'upgrade’ them to better quality. There are some lovely co-ords out there that you could wear instead?

So maybe get a few sets in different colours that you can mix and match? I second wearing earrings- I don’t know why but they always make me feel and look more finished 😃

Make up is optional but clean well moistened skin always looks healthy. Perhaps a tinted moisturiser or BB cream?

Clean hair ideally but if you are short of time or can’t be bothered then a quick spray of dry shampoo and a messy bun or plait/pony will do the job.

Yes, so true about earrings!

Ditto! exactly the same ...but I think I'm depressed 😐

I did the same for 3 years. The bra went at the start of the first lock down and it was down hill from there

It took seeing myself in just me knickers in a full length mirror totally by accident ( so no posing ) that finally bought me to my senses

At that moment in time I was having to look for a new job and seeing myself I just thought Id never employ me looking like that

Just trying to find some clothes that fitted and looked smart enough to be interviewed in was impossible, wearing stretch waists meant my waist ( and everywhere else had stretched as well ) My skin was dreadful, hair a complete mess

That was a year ago next week

Its taken a while, but it took a long while to get in such a mess, but Im now at the stage of adding a bit of make up if Im going out the house :)

Every part of me has had an overhaul, new hair style, I get my eyebrows done, I have a skin care regime ( basic but I have one ) , Ive lost most of the excess weight, I now wear fitted clothes and the leggings are for walking and housework only. I have bras that fit properly and I wear one everyday, proper ones, not bralettes , my knicker and socks are all in good repair and I wouldnt be embarrassed being rushed to hospital :). I havent got the most stylish of wardrobes but it only contains clothes that I like, that fit well and I feel good in. I bought a few bits of cheap jewellery - earrings and pendants, I do my nails. I did find a job that is customer facing and I enjoy that I have to look pretty well groomed in that, keeps me motivated. This week found me applying mascara for the first time in god knows how long

And this week I have received compliments - one for my hair and two saying how fresh Im looking

Like I say, its taken a while, because a complete overhaul over night was just beyond me. Its just been a progressive thing. Hair first, then cos I could then see the eyebrows, they had to be done. Then sitting in front of a mirror and seeing how dull and aged I looked pushed the skin care on me, the improvement there got me back trying a bit of make up - just a big domino effect really

You may well be depressed. Huge change in lifestyle - covid, baby, wfh - it may be worth speaking with your GP. I became very anxious during lockdown - menopause wasnt helping, and I needed medication for a few years - Im now off them

I think it's an easy trap to fall into, I did the same and am slowly making changes that make me feel much better. What helped me is:

Never staying in my pyjamas for the day. If you are getting dressed in the morning into fresh pyjamas you could easily get into leggings and a comfortable jumper with just the same amount of effort. I don't always look stylish, often when I'm WFH I'm wearing black joggers and a t shirt plus a long cardigan but I could answer the door to the postman or nip out at lunchtime and not be embarrassed.

I would get some comfortable but presentable clothes, have them in a drawer and they are your WFH uniform.

I moisturise my face after brushing my teeth and I spray a bit of perfume on immediately after applying my deodorant in the mornings. It's just become part of my routine and takes 30 seconds to do those additional steps but makes me feel better.

I upgraded to some nice studs so always have stud earrings in, I just swap them once a week or every couple of weeks but other than that they're in permanently. I don't know why but they just make me feel more put together with no effort.

I have a very basic makeup kit of: foundation compact with sponge and mirror, mascara, tinted lip balm and a refillable mini perfume spray. I have three sets of these and keep one in my bathroom at home, one in my handbag and one in the car. It means that even if I don't want to bother with lots of make-up I can always put a bit of powder and lip balm on and spritz a bit of perfume even when out and about.

Shower and blow dry hair in the evening takes a load off in the morning.

I set myself a goal of 7-7.30 is my time to get ready. Alarm goes off at 7am, count 5,4,3,2,1 and I’m up. Coffee, Brush teeth, Skincare, Basic makeup, Dressed. I feel a million times better.

I also pick out and iron my outfits for the week on a Sunday evening (had a big clear out and only kept things I feel good in). I keep it simple. I wear and leggings and a top during the week and jeans and a top on weekends.

Thank you everyone ❤️ I really appreciate it. I think I just need to go back to basics, I have all the skin care products in my draw, hair products, hair tools, I just need to use them. I washed my hair lastnight and blow dried it and today I curled my hair and did my make up, I put on a dress and someone in the lift complimented my dress! I know it sounds strange but it just really set my mood, I felt calm, not conscious and like I had my sh*t together. I’ve decided I’ll get my nails done on a regular basis and my eyebrows too. I do think I’ve got myself stuck in a rut and possibly do have depression but I’m looking forward to change. Tomorrow I’m going out to lunch with my friend which I’ve not done in honestly years and it feels good. I was to reclaim myself back, even if it’s a new me. When I look around I think most people do something, whether it’s clean hair, mascara , BB cream. I’ve just totally neglected myself, I feel a bit embarrassed and I feel like I’m not sure how it’s happened but over time I can make changes x

And believe me, those changes will come

You have made the biggest change , acknowledging that you are stuck. Once you face up to that, the rest will follow - quite slowly it feels, but this day next year, you will be able to look back and see how far you have come, you already have made change in 24hrs - bloody brilliant

Ive have a few months where Ive felt Im just treading water and keeping afloat, but then some really minor thing happens, as simple as OMG my skin actually feels smooth, or even simpler, sticking an emery board in the handbag so if I do snag a nail, I can sort it. Tiny tiny wee steps which give me a ( more) polished look

Oh and Im buzzing today with the compliments, lol. Most of my customers are older then me, we chat, they are return customers, one pair of ladies did not believe me when I said how old I was, and again another lady thought my hair was fab and asked for my hairdressers name . And as an older lady, trying to embrace the grey and ignore the turkey neck and sagging jowls , Ill take a compliment no matter where it comes :)