Is it me or my hairdresser?

[PinkMimi]

Ive been going to my hairdresser for 10 years. I’ve not been happy with my hair for probably 5 years now but even more so now. I pay £130 for a full head and cut. Does this application look ok? My hair was done 2 weeks ago. She said she did a full head of back to back foils. I don’t want to hurt her feelings but I need to go elsewhere I think. Can anyone help on drafting a message, we are also friends with lots of mutual friends so I don’t want it to be awkward and I don’t want her to feel bad or that she’s done a bad job either…

I could do a better job than that and I've never done highlight foils in my life.

I think you've been loyal for 5 years too long. Don't go back.

Jesus, she needs to see she’s gone a bad job. These are horrific. Stop giving her your money.

They look awful

Is that highlights? Look like it's all one colour so what was the point. I'd go somewhere else

I'm not a hairdresser but this is awful. If you don't want to make a fuss, just don't book another appointment and go somewhere else.

Jesus that’s bloody awful. Can you not send her the pics and say your unhappy?

If not just go elsewhere, there’s no need for a break up chat.

The fact that she is a friend makes it really awkward, I'm not sure how I would handle that, but then again you've been walking around for FIVE YEARS with hair you don't like to spare her feelings, so... time to put your big girl pants on.

Also, it's not as if she's giving you mates rates by the sound of it. On that basis I would say you need to tighten your belt so are going somewhere cheaper. I get a different process (balayage) but only pay £70 for it. So I think it would be believable to say you can't afford her. OR say you got a voucher as a gift for a different place? White lie but might be easier than a confrontation.

Either way, she's done a bad job on your hair and you need to change it or you'll be walking round like that forever!

Normally I'd say just go elsewhere, but you mentioned you are friends.

I would book elsewhere, find somewhere you like and if she asks, be honest and tell her you booked with someone else. That way, she cannot guilt trip you into going back.

My husband could do a better job for you. And he's half blind!!

That looks horrendous

That is terrible to be honest. Was she having a bad day? Maybe you could say that you would like a root blend/smudge whatever it is it's called and a toner?

Terrible job-looks rushed & sloppy. Maybe just book somewhere else and say nothing for a while. If she mentions it say you were cutting back so needed a cheaper option. How often do you see her? Do your mutual friends also go to her? If not, you now know why.

That's bloody awful.

Perhaps you need to develop a reaction to normal highlighters, and go to someone who does natural ones? Or something.

I cannot believe what you paid for that!

Quietly find somewhere else. Buy a gift voucher Then get your hair done. Await the compliments from friends. Explain that you won the gift voucher in a raffle and were pleased with the results too.

The cycle is broken.

Do it at home with a kit like the Wella one
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You need to have a consultation with a different hairdresser and get an opinion.

It is not well done, sorry. What do you want to say in your message? That you are unhappy and want something done? I would just go elsewhere.

Your natural hair colour is very dark and will have changed probably over the last 10 years when it might have looked good when she coloured it. When mine went more dark grey I went for a smudged root colour so my regrowth is far less obvious than the harsh line you have. Lots of videos on youtube about smudged roots so you can see what I am talking about.

I think watching lots of videos on youtube will help you to see how well it can be done and for what you are paying it should look far more natural than that. There is no consistency in colour, it looks like she just bleaches it without adding colour or toner. Bleach just removes darker pigments.

They don't look very good at all. She has done a bad job!

Clearly you stayed way too long because of misguided loyalty. I suggest you get a new hairdresser and if the group kick off get new friends. Use this as a learning experience and learn from it.

Highlights are not as easy to do as people think, but I'm absolutely not saying they're ok! Just don't part your hair like that, do some research, ask people whose are done well, etc ...

Genius idea!

Good highlights are, and should be, very expensive.

Those are not good highlights.

I think you need to let go of the worry about what to say, and just not say anything.

Just go to someone else from now on.

If she asks, you just fancied a change. Easy breezy.

Don't confront. But never give her your money again.

You've either got very fast growing hair...or erm yeh not the best salon hair.
I really like justasking's idea of the voucher and breaking the cycle!
It's awkward because she's a mate, but as lovely as she might be, she's not quite got the stylist knack.

I would tell a fib to get out of the awkward situation. Something about how your husband/friend/mum treated you to a cut and colour as a treat and part of a day out. And then you just don't go back.

My hairdresser has been out of action for over 4 months following an accident and my hair still looks decent. When I go back in a few weeks I'm going to give her flowers! I never thought about going anywhere else because she is worth the wait. Your hair is not what you want, and the pictures don't indicate a high quality, regardless of price.

No, no, no!
The bleach has bled and it needs toning.
Find a new hairdresser

God, why fib? Why do people advise that? It only leads to more problems.

Just go to someone else. No need to announce it.

I’m not a hairdresser and neither is the person who did your hair. You need to just stop going to her. You don’t need to explain, even after ten years of being her client/friend.

I found a fantastic colourist by looking up the instagram accounts of local to me stylists. I loved being able to see a good amount of their work and get a feel for their personality and their salon before choosing to contact one of them. Good luck.