Has anyone upgraded their wedding/ engagement ring?

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I have a very, very simple wedding band. It is about 1mm thick, platinum. I also have a very simple engagement ring, which has a very nice simple diamond. We got these in our 20's when we didn't have a lot of money.

It is our 25th Wedding Anniversary and DH has promised me, his long suffering wife, a new/additional ring. I was going to get a 3rd to wear with wedding and engagement, but I don't want that. It is too much for me on one finger. I'd like an eternity band with diamonds.

Last year my engagement ring finally gave up on life and the diamond was lost. I was devastated as the diamond was beautiful. It was a complete clear one and I loved it. It was very sentimental to me. The insurance co. offered me a lower value cash, or same value diamond replacement and ring repair and I took the latter. Now I just don't feel the same sentimentality to it. It hasn't been with me through thick and thin.

If I sold this, and my wedding ring, and added it to my budget for my 25th anniversary ring compensation gift, I could get something really beautiful. If I get another ring, that means I will be swapping them in and out, and I probably won't wear my old wedding and engagement ring that often.

What's stopping me is I feel a bit superstitious about doing this for some reason. On the other hand I feel like DH and I are much better off/ have evolved into a different couple and a new ring is about who I am for the next, hopefully, 25 years.

Finally, my DH never wears his wedding ring as he doesnt like jewellery. He was offended when I told him to trade it in. He says he doesn't want to ever wear it again, so why sit there when he can add it to mine?

Anyone traded in/ upgraded their engagement/ wedding rings?

I had a new ring for my 25th anniversary. I don’t see it as an upgrade, just a change. My original engagement ring was an antique, with emeralds and diamonds but the setting was breaking down. I spoke to a jeweller who said I’d not be able to reset the emeralds due to the heat needed, so I had to bite the bullet for a new ring😉

My wedding ring is just a plain heavy 18ct yellow gold band so the new one works perfectly with it

No. I have worn my £30 9 carat plain gold wedding ring for nearly 43 years now.

Congratulations on your upcoming silver wedding anniversary

Just to caution you the resale value is negligible unless a particularly desired style.

I did get a new wedding ring some years ago, but didn’t sell the old one. I gave it to my GD.

Hmm I have to say I'd be a bit dubious about this too. Though I managed to lose my engagement ring once. It was insured luckily and I just got a direct replacement. I never really felt it wasn't my ring, in fact usually I forgot it wasn't the original.

I'd probably keep the wedding ring somehow, sorry.

I got the claws repaired on my engagement ring last year and the jeweller told me that the diamond was damaged. Goodness knows what I've done to it.

However dh has said he will upgrade it next year for our silver wedding anniversary. I think I'll get original ring made into a pendant.

Go for it. I know quite a few couples who have got newer rings as the years have gone on and taste and finances have changed.

I don’t have a wedding ring but my parents did this. Mum had new when they could afford it and my dad bought a new one when his wore away to almost nothing. They’re still together after 49 years.

This is my new ring, made from my Mum’s wedding, engagement and eternity rings.
Mum gave me her rings a few years ago as they no longer fit her. They were too big for me, but the jeweller was reluctant to resize them again.
We came up with this design, that is similar to her original eternity ring.
I love it. The tiny diamonds at the side were so I had all her stones included.
I wear it every day and my original rings sit somewhere safe.
I am a bit superstitious, my original wedding ring was my grandmother’s and her marriage failed very early in the 1930’s. I always felt DH and I argued more when I wore it, so I don’t wear it often.
Could you redesign what you have, and add to it?

I wouldn't sell your original wedding ring for sentimental reasons and if your DH wants to keep his then he should.

I can understand you selling the engagement ring if it no longer feels like your ring, but personally I would wear it on the other hand if you get an eternity ring and don't want to wear them together.

I would definitely buy a new ring but I would wear them all although not necessarily together

I have swapped my rings out for a more simple band. My engagement ring sits into my wedding ring, and they are kind of bulky. Also my fingers are smaller now and they can't be resized easily. I got a plain band for everyday wear a while ago (a cheap one from Argos), which I upgraded to a lovely new gold band last year. DH has never taken his off. Mine is on and off pretty frequently

I couldn't find an eternity ring I like, and don't have the fingers for three rings on one finger anyway, so am in the middle of getting a custom ring made which will have the stones from my engagement ring, a couple from my late mums ring, plus new stones. The rest of mums stones, nans stones, and the gold from their assorted rings is going to be a pendant

My fingers got too fat for my original wedding ring so I got a new one for our 30 wedding anniversary. I wear my engagement ring on a chain round my neck because that doesn’t fit me any longer either.

No I wouldn't. I've had to have my rings resized over the years and my wedding ring had to be cut off after an accident and is a bit battered and the beading is worn away but it was blessed before God and I wouldn't change it.

The last time they were in the jeweller said that next time, my engagement ring would have to be reset because the claws wouldn't withstand another repair

When I received an eternity ring (for my 40th), I realised that wearing three rings looked odd on me. I had my engagement ring diamond reset into a thick plain gold band, containing the original gold, and wear it on the little finger of my right hand.
I would have awful selling such a sentimental item, the value is in the moment it represents and the commitment it signifies.

I bought a nice eternity ring I wear mostly now and since a dress ring
when we married dh had a small budget

I had my engagement ring melted down with my DMs engagement ring and a new troilogy ring made using the gold and stones. This was for my 10th anniversary. I had a ruby added to my two diamonds and the whole thing cost me £500. Speak to your local small jeweller. I found mine via a recommendation on facebook.

I think you sound like quite a sentimental person and would maybe regret selling your wedding ring.

You could see the replacement engagement ring, since it doesn't feel like yours and buy a narrow full eternity ring to wear with the wedding one - I don't think it would be too much for your fingers since your wedding ring is also narrow.

I have changed the rings I wear as an 'engagement' ring over the years, but kept the wedding and eternity rings the same. Sometimes I wear just the eternity ring in its own. I still have the ring that dh gave me though and wouldn't sell it.