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What does a size 22 atheist wear to a christening next weekend?

41 replies

icebearforpresident · 28/01/2024 18:15

Seriously, help me!

I’m a jeans and a t-shirt girl and the few dresses I own are party dresses and wouldn’t be appropriate for a christening. The last christening I went to was over 5 years ago but was on a lovely summers day so the dress I had for that would be freezing in a chapel in January. It’s also a catholic service so not sure if that means I should be more dressy or if smart casual would be appropriate.

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Britpopbaby · 28/01/2024 18:19

Wide leg trousers ( look at M and S) smart cardigan over a nice blouse topped off by your most formal coat.

Likemyjealouseel · 28/01/2024 18:21

What kind of thing do you wear to work, any potential there?

Echobelly · 28/01/2024 18:22

Similar to @Britpopbaby , I was thinking palazzo-pants and drape-y top-type ensemble?

FancyFran · 28/01/2024 18:27

You don't need a hat unless it's super posh.
I'd wear a jersey dress.
I'm tall and a 20.
I buy seasalt, David Niper, Max Mara, marks and spencer.
A nice coat and scarf would be fine.
Remember you don't need to say the prayers just be respectful.

Ladyj84 · 28/01/2024 18:28

All the christeningsive been to everyone was in dresses or skirts and top.. my worst nightmare since I'm a jeans and t-shirt girl but hey ho

Multipleexclamationmarks · 28/01/2024 18:31

Smart casual is fine. Pants and a decent shirt.

dudsville · 28/01/2024 18:33

I share great thread titles with my husband when they arise. His response to yours was "I didn't know we (atheists) came in sizes!". I don't know OP, but comfort is key for us. Good luck, and may Dawkins be ever on your mind.

Jollyoldfruit · 28/01/2024 18:37

Firstly it's a baptism if it's in a Catholic church.

Secondly as it's not going to be warm a smart coat over smart trousers and some nice boots should be fine.

couiza · 28/01/2024 18:43

It might be called a Baptism in Catholicism, but all my friends in Ireland who are Catholic call it/them Christenings.

Anyway, I've been to a few in Ireland (not UK yet), and people do make an effort to be smart and groomed for the occasion. Not wedding like at all, just either a dress or smart trousers and top. No jeans, hoodies, trackie tops/bottoms, you get the drift.

In Ireland, the christenings are nearly as mad as weddings anyway, well the "party" afterwards is. Great fun and why not? Both weddings and christenings Baptisms are happy events.

icebearforpresident · 28/01/2024 19:21

I mean, I don’t want to say that I don’t care if it’s called a baptism and not a christening but…

I am actually familiar with a catholic service, I’m not catholic but went to catholic school (hence I am now atheist) and have some priests in the family via my late aunts husband. Never been to a catholic christening/babtisim/whatever you want to call it but sat through many a wedding mass, funeral mass and Sunday mass and it’s all like muscle memory - stand up, sit down, kneel and shake hands.

Work wear is black trousers and tops, although my tops are mostly chunky jumpers and smart-ish t shirts, nothing quite right for this. You have reminded me though that I own a blazer so that’s something that might come in handy.

Thanks for the suggestions, off to do some browsing and will report back.

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icebearforpresident · 28/01/2024 22:30

I found a discount code for Fatface so got a patterned knee length skirt and plain top in the sale - the skirt will look good with tights and boots and both will do for work. Then I ordered some black wide leg trousers from M&S (I always thought wide
leg trousers made you look fatter if you are fat to start with?) along with a blouse that looks like a denim style fabric so hopefully won’t look like I’m just wearing work stuff, although it will also do for work as well. Glad I don’t need a hat because, quite frankly, I draw the line at a hat. I also found a smart coat in my wardrobe which is cropped so might still be a bit chilly but will do the job.

Hoping between it all I can put an outfit together otherwise it really will be faded blue jeans and a clean hoodie!

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dudsville · 29/01/2024 09:21

Sounds like you've got a good connection of items together. Fwiw, i don't dress to try to look slim, I'm not slim so i don't want to add to that the hassle of not being comfortable!

PieAndLattes · 29/01/2024 09:24

Think graduation/dinner in a nice restaurant level of dressy upness. A wide leg trouser, and a nice top under a coat or jacket would be perfect for your purposes.

PieAndLattes · 29/01/2024 09:25

Sorry - just realised you replied - glad you’re sorted!!

soupfiend · 29/01/2024 09:27

Whats the relevance to the atheism?

HellonHeels · 29/01/2024 09:31

I have been at a christening where the mother of the child was wearing a backless strappy crop top...

Bandwaggon · 29/01/2024 09:39

I would also add a large plain smart scarf. Not for fashion, just for warmth in a church in winter. Easy to remove if not needed.

Comedycook · 29/01/2024 09:42

I really wouldn't wear trousers.

I'd go for a tea dress, maybe floral...mid length...maybe a cardigan to go over

quisensoucie · 29/01/2024 11:37

Why as an atheist, are you going to a christening?

Comedycook · 29/01/2024 11:40

quisensoucie · 29/01/2024 11:37

Why as an atheist, are you going to a christening?

Because she was invited I'd imagine.

I'm not a Christian...I'm a Jewish atheist but I'd attend church weddings and christenings. I had no idea you had to be that particular religion to attend.

Musomama1 · 29/01/2024 11:50

So here's a bit of knowledge: christian's dress just the same as atheists! I know, it's just like they are real people!

Not sure why atheism is relevant to one's sartorial preferences.

quisensoucie · 29/01/2024 11:51

It's not a case of being a particular religion @Comedycook ! It's that atheists do not believe in religion and all its associated nonsense (whatever the religion), so why go to church?
I am not suggesting that an atheist will spontaneously self-combust if they enter a church or other place of worship, just asking why you would involve yourself in a religious ceremony if you don't believe in it

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