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I look great!

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Umcanijustsay · 05/01/2024 15:57

OK, bear with me. There's nobody I can say this to without sounding full of myself.

I'm early 40s, and for the past few years have been pregnant, breastfeeding, sleep deprived, hormones everywhere, adult acne and carrying extra baby weight. I work full time and have been dressing like someone from the 40s, in mid length dresses and bulky, shapeless cardigans.

My smallest child has started sleeping. Breastfeeding seemed to stop my spots, and ive been treating my acne ever since and its all gone. I've had several health problems over the past few months and a stone has just melted off without me even realising.

I've recovered, am feeling well rested and about a week ago I looked in the mirror and thought 'My spots have gone, I don't look haggard, I've lost so much weight!' Somebody got me makeup vouchers for Christmas and I used them for some great makeup. I'm like a different person. I went and got my mousey brown/grey hair dyed and coloured for the first time in years. I tried on some size 8 dresses in the sales and they slipped on; beautiful, fitted dresses. I pulled out some high heeled boots I've hardly worn and have been wearing them instead of my usual trusted Chelsea boot. I was in a shop today, in all my new garb, and the assistant said to me 'you're beautiful!' I think i went bright red and started talking about my coat and how I got it in the sales because I felt so shy in that moment, but I felt like I was walking on air. I've noticed heads turning when I walk past and that certainly never happened to me before, at least not for a very long time.

I've been through a really rough time recently where my mental and physical health felt very damaged. I feel like I've woken up from a deep sleep with a new look and new confidence.

I'd resigned myself to my big beige cardigan and dreary mum-bun and recently realised that I'm still in here, not just a mum who is forever scraping dried weetabix off the highchair with a ruler.

Anyway, I feel like a transformed person but didn't know who to tell. It felt like such a moment of happiness but I can imagine my friends faces if I told them how good I think I look! So here I am.

I look good!

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BridgerGo · 05/01/2024 16:00

What a lovely feeling! I’m happy for you, OP. Enjoy it.

JaneJeffer · 05/01/2024 16:02

Good for you

KrazyboutKillian · 05/01/2024 16:02

how lovely of her to comment , I bet you will remember that compliment for a long time .
and kudos to you for all those seemingly small steps that have helped you

Wytchy · 05/01/2024 16:03

Delighted for you! I hope this physical and mental transformation continues.

Luxuriate in the feeling, God knows we spend enough time in the negative feelings.

Alwaystired2023 · 05/01/2024 16:03

Love that OP! Good for you I bet you look amazing and it's great you feel it ❤️

ShirleyPhallus · 05/01/2024 16:04

This is LOVELY

we lose so much of ourselves having children, breastfeeding, aging that it can feel like you never get it back…. Then when you do, it truly feels magical

delighted for you OP

Umcanijustsay · 05/01/2024 16:12

I feel like such a twat saying it but something has recently just clicked and everything seems to be slotting into place. Weight loss, clear skin, rest, new hair colour, new makeup, new (figure hugging!) clothes and a new spring in my step. My husband took a photo of me about to go out for a drink with my friend recently, and I couldn't believe it was me!

Sorry, I've just got nowhere else to brag!

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Louieloves · 05/01/2024 16:13

What a lovely post! Good for you, this brightened the day.

AuntieJoyce · 05/01/2024 16:22

The best I ever looked was after a year of maternity leave with my second baby, just before I went back to work. I remember being on holiday and seen this really healthy face looking back at me in the mirror. God knows how as DC didn’t sleep at all that holiday. I number one memorable night having to get up to him seven times.

I do think for some women pregnancy seems to sort out the hormone problems that cause spots.

Umcanijustsay · 05/01/2024 16:25

About 6 months ago, I would say I resembled a drab version of Edie from Absolutely Fabulous and would liken my new look to Kate Middleton (if I may be so bold!). Again, feel massively knobbish saying this but gosh, it feels good to feel like I look good! Something feels different inside of me too, and I don't know if that's a chicken or egg effect. I'm making much more of an effort to go out and be sociable now. I always thought 'what's the point, I'd rather get an early night' but now I'm thinking 'ooh a chance for some fashion and make-up!' and so I'm making plans and going out for drinks and meals and coffees with friends, as much as I can. Everything felt very 'meh' and now I'm feeling 'wheee!'

Sorry, I'm a puke!

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Atethehalloweenchocs · 05/01/2024 16:29

Good for you OP! It is really important to acknowledge when we look good - instead of just when we dont. Keep looking after yourself, it is so important to do.

inamarina · 05/01/2024 16:39

Aww, your post sounds lovely! 😊
It’s so important to feel good in one’s own skin (and not just as someone who’s forever scraping dried weetabix off the highchair with a ruler - love that image! 😅)

Icantbedoingwithit · 05/01/2024 16:43

No I love this! You are spurring me on from the funk I am in!

Gnomegnomegnome · 05/01/2024 16:47

I love this. Good for you!

Umcanijustsay · 05/01/2024 16:51

Honestly, the last time I looked in the mirror and felt the way I currently do was on my wedding day, over a decade ago, pre babies, pre weight gain, pre acne, pre dressing-to-hide-my-bumps. Except, I look better as my face has lost some of the puppy fat it had back then!

Although my circumstances were sort of forced on me, I would advise anyone who feels in a funk to come at it from all angles. Get sleep, rest, look after your skin, invest in new make up, start looking at fashion you want to start wearing, up the grooming and everything seems to pick up momentum as you go.

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TheChosenTwo · 05/01/2024 16:54

What a lovely thread to read OP, really pleased for you that you are feeling so good about yourself. We all deserve to feel like this 🥳

pickledandpuzzled · 05/01/2024 16:54

I used to help at a camp toddler group, so saw families annually. When women aged out of my group I’d see them around the site looking unrecognisable! They reclaimed themselves. It was lovely.

Umcanijustsay · 05/01/2024 18:09

pickledandpuzzled · 05/01/2024 16:54

I used to help at a camp toddler group, so saw families annually. When women aged out of my group I’d see them around the site looking unrecognisable! They reclaimed themselves. It was lovely.

It's so true. I definitely feel unrecognisable. I feel like something has changed inside me.

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WhereAreWeNow · 05/01/2024 18:15

Ah that's such a nice thing to read. Good for you OP. Hold on to that feeling and enjoy!

Umcanijustsay · 05/01/2024 18:24

WhereAreWeNow · 05/01/2024 18:15

Ah that's such a nice thing to read. Good for you OP. Hold on to that feeling and enjoy!

I will, thank you! Actually think I'm starting to get a big big headed! Saw myself today and thought 'I'm actually stunning!'

I'm not, just was in a very good frame of mind with a lovely blow dry and very red lipstick!

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littleteapot86 · 05/01/2024 18:29

This is a lovely thread! I'm just coming out of the toddler trenches and I wouldn't exactly say I'm stunning but definitely it's getting easier to focus on myself a bit more. yay for us!

Umcanijustsay · 05/01/2024 18:33

littleteapot86 · 05/01/2024 18:29

This is a lovely thread! I'm just coming out of the toddler trenches and I wouldn't exactly say I'm stunning but definitely it's getting easier to focus on myself a bit more. yay for us!

Yay! Go us! Getting our glow back!

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Umcanijustsay · 05/01/2024 18:34

littleteapot86 · 05/01/2024 18:29

This is a lovely thread! I'm just coming out of the toddler trenches and I wouldn't exactly say I'm stunning but definitely it's getting easier to focus on myself a bit more. yay for us!

Oh, and I'm not stunning either. Think I just stunned myself at how less frumpy I look!

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Char65 · 05/01/2024 18:36

Umcanijustsay · 05/01/2024 16:12

I feel like such a twat saying it but something has recently just clicked and everything seems to be slotting into place. Weight loss, clear skin, rest, new hair colour, new makeup, new (figure hugging!) clothes and a new spring in my step. My husband took a photo of me about to go out for a drink with my friend recently, and I couldn't believe it was me!

Sorry, I've just got nowhere else to brag!

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Brag away @Umcanijustsay Brag away! Good for you on your transformation! Its great to read posts like this and it makes everyone feel good for you (unless they're particularly mean spirited). Why shouldn't you spend some time and money on yourself to make yourself look and feel better after all you have been through with you baby and health problems? You deserve it.💃👗👠So go for it, gal!

Everywherieatsleepanddreamem · 05/01/2024 18:37

This is so inspirational . I bet you look amazing and it’s so good you feel it too. May it last forever 🥳